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I’m Torn: Watching Porn

Porn Star ThreesomeWhile hanging out with some girlfriends this weekend, the topic of conversation kept coming back to porn. It wasn’t shocking to be discussing such a taboo topic (in graphic detail), but I was shocked to find out that I’m the only one who doesn’t watch it regularly.

“Dude, you’re single. How do you not watch!?” My friends looked at me in horror. They had favorite sites, saved searches and paid memberships!

I felt a little left out so I spent a bit of time “researching” last night. After a few hours of work I can totally see where the girls are coming from – some of it was quite…er…entertaining – but I’m just not sure if I’m a porn watching kinda gal.

Help. I’m torn.

Love It:
A girl’s gotta please herself once in awhile and the best way to get inspired is by watching other people being pleased, right? I mean, I guess you could just let your imagination run wild, but why should you when you’re just a click away from some really good stuff? You don’t need a boyfriend or a one-night stand; all you need is some porn and a lock on your door and you’re good. to. go.

And it’s also a really good learning opportunity. I consider myself to be an experienced sex-er, but there is always more to learn. There are positions and techniques that I didn’t even know existed until I watched – things the guys in the film really liked – which I will most definitely be trying out when this drought comes to an end.

Loathe It:
Even though I’m doing it in the privacy of my own room, watching porn makes me feel…weird. I’m not some horny 18-year-old boy, so it just feels wrong to bookmark porn websites on my computer. And while I love having sex, the thought of watching someone else do it makes me uncomfortable.

And don’t even get me started on all the inaccuracies present in most professional porns. The fake boobs, fake hair, fake orgasms;ย  the completely bare nether regions; the totally scripted dirty talk. I get so caught up in critiquing/laughing at half of these videos that I can’t do what I came to do.

And then the ick factor comes back. Seriously, watching porn makes me feel so gross.

I’m not really sure what to think. I want to like porn – mostly because I’ve been single since Palin was tapped to be McCain’s running mate – but I’m not so sure if I can do it. Thoughts?

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    1. shari says:

      i'm a normal 23 year old girl and i love porn! i think all girls should watch porn more often! theres lots of new ideas for even the most experienced sexpert to find, it gives you deep insights into the male mind, it shows you what people look like doing certain things so you can look your best during sex (if you care lol), and its HOT! haha girls need to forget all the stigmas that society pushes on us from an early age and embrace the taboo!

    2. Amy says:

      I enjoy my fair share of porn, but that's the thing, I LIKE it. If you don't feel comfortable with it, then there's no reason you should force yourself to watch it. There's so much of it out there (and for free!), you can find something that suits you best (yes, there are some with real girls with real boobs). Or try a different medium like literotica.com so you can use your imagination to supplement the perfect visuals with the erotic text. Keep an open mind and do whatever makes you happy:)

    3. A says:

      I'm a straight 21-y/o female, and I must admit that I actually get off to lesbian porn the most. There's just something about it that's much more sensual than the other kinds, although I hate how slow and emotional they are sometimes (haha) I've never had sex with another girl, nor have I ever had the urge to try, but when I'm masturbating, it's definitely my go-to.

    4. yep says:

      A, I'm the same! I looove boys in real life but when it comes to porn I usually go for the lesbian stuff. I wonder why that is? But Noa, dont' force yourself to like porn just because your friends do. Try to evaluate why you feel grossed out by it though…did you have some experiences with it when you were younger that freaked you out, or did your family maybe look down on it? Just some things to consider

    5. Marie says:

      I am the same way. I love men. I find them to be sexy creatures (well not all men)but I really do love to watch lesbian porn. It's a huge turn on. Lesbian porn is the only porn that I like to masturbate too. I don't know why I like watching it so much but I am not going to stop any time soon.

    6. Ness - Sheridan says:

      Love the article, Noa!

      For me, I'm only into porn sometimes. I usually just use my imagination, but sometimes a little visual stimulation can be mighty helpful. As with a lot of these other girls, I used to be really into lesbian porn, but recently I've been really digging female solo. And I'm not a huge fan of mainstream porn — meaning over-produced fake stuff. I like it to be real, and for the girl to actually enjoy herself. And sometimes I find that after I'm *ahem* "done" I feel kinda gross for watching it, but I usually get over it pretty fast.

      Thanks again for the article!:)

    7. Brittney says:

      Erotic fiction for the win.

    8. C says:

      I watch lesbian porn the most too! I think it's because no matter what they are doing, I can imagine it being done to me. Where as watching some girl give a guy head for 10 minutes doesn't get me too excited.

      I'm so glad this was blogged about because my friend said to me just the other day "The only girls that probably watch porn are the trashy, gross ones". While I consider myself to be under neither category, I haven't ever admitted to watching porn to my friends. I told my boyfriend though, and he is perfectly fine with it:)

    9. sara says:

      Yeah I dig lesbian porn too, even though I'm straight! Good at least I'm glad I'm not the only one.

    10. Emily says:

      I'm the opposite, I'm gay and I mainly watch straight porn. I think because most lesbian porn has chicks who are quite obviously straight, which distracts me and is annoying. Although if the chicks are hot enough, I'll struggle through that to watch.

    11. Liz says:

      I've been trying to find a good website since I got a new computer and can't for the life of me remember the site's name I used before. Ahh. Any suggestions anyone??

    12. Heather says:

      I've found that they usually use that ugliest guys for the porn vids, and it looks really gross to see a old, pasty, flabby man doing this pretty girl. I mean, its not like she enjoys it either. Thats probly why some of you like to watch lesbian porn, it seems more real. And I admit even though in totally straight, its so much more sensual and sexy!

    13. Star says:

      I used to watch it but I just feel bad now. I always wonder why the girls chose to be in the porn. Do they really like sleeping with all those guys or are they so broke it's the only way they can think of to get some quick cash? I get too caught up in wondering how awkward that must be to talk about at family reunions that I end up paying little attention to the actual sex.

    14. sauerkraut says:

      You get extra points for slipping Sarah Palin into your post. But watching bad porn is still better than listening to her speak.

      Watching Paris Hilton's sex tape is bad porn.

      Watching Linda Lovelace is… well, educational.

      Watching woman and donkey is… well, it's really weird unless you've had lots of -OH pumped into you.

    15. sauerkraut says:

      Heather, next time you get some good lesbian porn, gimme a call and I'll watch it with you! ๐Ÿ˜‰

    16. jennifer says:

      Lesbian porn does NOT do it for me…why would I want to see girls when there are plenty of HOT Guys in gay porn. Some of you need to come out! Ofcourse not all…but I'd rather see a nice big dick than a pussy! I only like the sentimental stuff that has really hot guys, which is hard to come by

    17. Bruce says:

      Of course porn makes her feel gross and uncomfortable! She is a woman! Most porn is made for men. They do make porn for women. These films are softcore and explore the fantasies of women. They focus more on the woman's pleasure. They don't have the close ups and "money shots" that offend most women. These films usually follow a storyline. Women love stories. They want to know why these people are making love. It's more sensual and romantic. Men can't be bothered with stories and romance. They want to see the pretty girl get naked and pounded ASAP! They also want to see a lot of close ups. The cherry on top for men is the "money shot". Men love to watch a pretty girl take a load of baby batter right in the face. Ladies, choose your porn carefully.

    18. John says:

      I find that porn is rather unrealistic and tends to leave you impotent when it comes down to the real thing. It is very hard to enjoy "normal" sex (you and a partner with no porn), when you have been accustomed to being aroused by pornography. Once you watch it you probably noticed that it can get you WAY worked up, thus you have a diminished excitement for the real thing and leaves both partners frustrated. skip it. it is a reason so many men need viagra etc.

    19. sauer kraut says:

      The reason you need viagra, John, is because you are an uptight dipwad who believes your wife is there only to service you. It all starts with your lack of self-respect and misogynistic approach to life. You should pray more.

    20. Bob says:

      Move to Canada and I'll end the drought for both of us.

    21. Mike says:

      To the author, I'm a 25 year old straight man. I share some of the reasons with the woman who feels bad for the porn stars. While I do get off to video occasionally, what really turns me on is the written word. You are free to use your imagination, it's easier to cover your tracks, and it's portable (file -> print)! I only read from one site that I've been going to for a full decade now, which I can remember easily and just use private browsing/delete the history. It's richards-realm.com/stories (add the www.). Let me know if this satisfies your mastubation fodder dilemma, I'd be curious to find another literotica user! I've only met one other, a girl.๐Ÿ˜€

    22. onesweetgirl says:

      I like to watch porn quite often, I usually check out the free sites. The only thing I don't like about it is how young a lot of the girls look nowadays. I mean, some of them don't look a day past 13, and they put them right on the front page. The most searched for porn on the net and most popular sites/videos include the word "teen", and I find that disturbing. Then I start thinking of the dirty guys watching this stuff and I'm done. I think it won't be long before underage porn is as accepted as regular porn has become.

    23. Kat says:

      As a single and very virginal girl, I must say that once in awhile, I need to watch a little bit of…:cough:…"action" to remind myself that I am a young woman with a lot of raging hormones and basic needs. We're only human, after all. We all know that feeling that occurs when a dirty movie comes on and that sex scene takes over and we are completely caught up in that moment of passion along with the people in the scene. It's similar with porn, although it certainly isn't as glamorous as Hollywood makes it out to be. Overall, it fulfills that same feeling and for those who are already "experienced", it could serve as a possible reference for some new tricks to take to the bedroom?

      Like "onesweetgirl" said though, it has unfortunately been linked to some very frightening people, including child molestors and the like, and of course, I don't exactly make a habit out of becoming "obsessed" as many people do. I don't pay for a site and I don't bookmark. Like I said…once in awhile, I have to "recharge" the batteries. Either that or I read fan fiction. Just a hint:-)

    24. affectionseekingguy says:

      I agree with Kat and onesweetgirl however,I can't honestly say that I've ever seen any girls in porn that look a day past 13. A lot of porn is billed as "teen" and that's disturbing and needs to be stopped. The only difference, as I see it, is that 99.9% of the girls on so called "teen" sites are women in their late 20's or even much older with their hair in pigtails. Personally, I'd get off more on a sexy, experienced lady with a few more years on her, just being her sensual self then seeing some grandmaw made up to look like she's "18."

    25. Tee says:

      as a gay girl, i certainly do enjoy the girl-on-girl.

      But, if porn makes you feel uncomfortable, don't force yourself to watch.

      A long time ago I also felt "gross" after porn viewing…

      but if you don't like it now, perhaps you'll come around later.

      It's all in your state of mind, your feelings, beliefs… everything really.

      The main deal is this: "research" more, and find what really gets to you.

      This may take some time, but it's definitely worth it.:)

    26. Simon says:

      porn doesnt seem like a good thing, especially after what john said. Maybe i'll try the "written word" ?

      thanks for sharing, people๐Ÿ˜€

    27. Chels says:

      Im so glad I am not the only who'd rather watch lesbian porn. Thanks for being honest girls!!

    28. bkw says:

      i'm slightly varied from some of the girls here. i'm a straight girl, but i only watch gay guy porn. i don't know, but that's what does it for me. i agree about the cons, the main one being the fakeness of the chicks in the porn( i hate hearing fake shrill moaning, ugh!) and seeing chicks in the porn usually does nothing for me. i've also seen all kinds of porn; i've even tried to watch lesbian porn and… nothing lol. then one day i clicked on a gay video out of curiosity and had an "aha! moment." i know i'm not the only one๐Ÿ˜‰

    29. nottheaveragewatcher says:

      i am a gay female who's been watching porn since i hit puberty. oddly enough, i've never been into lesbian porn. maybe a "few" select scenes here and there that showed realistic performances (rare), but mostly, i only watch the very dirty straight stuff…money shots, deepthrt, anal, dp, etc. i am like a straight man in that sense. it may be penis envy….but that's a different story for a therapist. however, i find it kind of funny how i'm one of many "gay" girls i know who prefer straight pornography; whereas, the majority of "straight girls" are lesbian porn lovers.

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