Comments on: The Best Friend Break Up http://collegecandy.com/2009/08/18/the-best-friend-break-up/ Advice on student style, collegiate dating discussion guides, relationship advice and women's studies. Mon, 13 Feb 2012 12:45:21 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ By: EJAI http://collegecandy.com/2009/08/18/the-best-friend-break-up/#comment-164743 Fri, 10 Feb 2012 12:47:55 +0000 http://collegecandy.com/?p=36464#comment-164743 me and my best friend broke up before xmas last year , one day she was everything and next she turned her back on me. its hard, and it hurts . i feel that the pain we'd been drifting apart for a while but i held on not wanting to know about cause i loved her so much. just the thought of it still hurts and it will never be the same i know all my other gf relationships have been affected cause my loyalty has been burnt by her and now im not so giving as i use to be . Actually tonight while back up my computer i stumbled across old photos of me and her so i email her just wishing she was happy and that I'll always love her. Not sure if i should have but i was speaking from the heart ** EJ

]]> By: enn http://collegecandy.com/2009/08/18/the-best-friend-break-up/#comment-123239 Sat, 05 Mar 2011 01:35:00 +0000 http://collegecandy.com/?p=36464#comment-123239 its easy. my friend and i just broke up. at the end of it, she made me feel like crap. her feelings for me changed one day, and we mutually stopped talking to each other. i tried to reach out to her but she shut me down, then she tried to say she wanted to be friends and i shut her down. i couldn't forgive her and i definitely won't forget. i'll always miss the way things used to be. and i'll always wish we'd had more time. a part of me will always love her, but sometimes friendships just dont work out and its best for the both of you to move on. i still cry about it and i can't believe it really happened. i wish it was all a terrible dream.

]]> By: shyme88 http://collegecandy.com/2009/08/18/the-best-friend-break-up/#comment-100822 Wed, 29 Sep 2010 11:56:00 +0000 http://collegecandy.com/?p=36464#comment-100822 i’m deeply frusrated over my bestfriend’s breaking up with me. we were bffs for 7 months thru facebook. we used to be schoolmates in highschool but we were not friends that time. we met again in facebook when she added me. from tht time on, we chat every night which made us closer and became bffs. from the time we became friends, i found out how negative person she is, how she loves to talk against people and she dislike almost all of our batchmates in highschool. she would make up stories just to put other person as the bad one. honestly, i saw how mean she is as a person. despite of it, i continue to love and care for her and even protected her from all her enemies. i became bad bec of her and bec i love her, i dont wanna lose her being my bff. im afraid to go against her that’s why, i seemed to be like her..mean. i have discovered many things from her including all the lies she made for me yo believe. i ignored it all bec its the friendship that is more important to me. she always get mad at me when i talk to other friends and even to comment on my friend’s post in fb. all our common friends that she had quarreled on, she deleted and she told me to delete all her enemies from my list. stupid i was, i also did it but honestly, i was unhappy doing it. she always find fault with me if i make friends to others and would then say that i might as well go to those friends and she will delete me. afraid she’ll do it.. i refrained from making friends to others. one time, a college friend of mine talked to me and asked me if i have a male friend that i can give to him. since im not into boys, i told her to makean fb acct and add this lsdy friend of mine in fb bec she got so many guy fRiends. to cut the long story short, my bff asked me if i know this person in fb who is just appearing. afraid to say yes, i did say to her i dont know the girl. i was afraid bec for sure, she’ll get mad at me and would drive me away. until she found out herself that i lied to her. she hated me so much and no matter how asked for forgiveness and how sorry i was, she deleted me fRom her fb list. she told me that we are now enemies, that im a traitor to her, that i was a big fat liar, and fake i was…..she did not accept my apology and it hurts me so much. she doesnt want me anymore. cant stop from crying, pls help me what to do. i love my bff but she took me away frm her life now.

]]> By: Three Girls and a Mi http://collegecandy.com/2009/08/18/the-best-friend-break-up/#comment-97954 Mon, 13 Sep 2010 17:36:09 +0000 http://collegecandy.com/?p=36464#comment-97954 Three Girls and a Mic is a radio show for young adults. We are doing a show all about BFF Breakups. Check us out at http://3girlsandamic.blogspot.com/

]]> By: Annie http://collegecandy.com/2009/08/18/the-best-friend-break-up/#comment-96499 Sun, 05 Sep 2010 14:15:19 +0000 http://collegecandy.com/?p=36464#comment-96499 Did you ever think about what she was feeling? She never did anything intentionally to hurt you or cause you serious emotional harm, and I'm sure, being her friend, if she knew her action would cause you harm, she wouldn't do it. You on the other hand did cause harm, and you knew full well that she would be hurt by this. So you eject someone from your life because you're slightly annoyed by them? that's not fair.

I only say this so adamantly because recently something similar happened to me, only I was in the opposite shoes, and it was slightly more brutal.

I never did anything to hurt my best friend and I never would. She had low self esteem and I was always there to help her and guide her though it and tell her how awesome she was. we were attached at the hip. then she started picking fights over tiny things and the next thing you know, she just stopped talking to me. literally. this time i know for a fact i didn't do anything to trigger it. We have the same circle of friends and they all love her, but now I cant hang out with them anymore because she shoved me out. And I can't tell them what happened because that would make me the bitch. This feeling is so awful, i just want people to know how it is from the other end of a "bff break up." Not all are so clean. Some leave you wondering "what the hell just happened?"

]]> By: Star http://collegecandy.com/2009/08/18/the-best-friend-break-up/#comment-96013 Thu, 02 Sep 2010 02:40:56 +0000 http://collegecandy.com/?p=36464#comment-96013 I don't get it. How can you love a friend but not want to be best friends anymore?

]]> By: kate http://collegecandy.com/2009/08/18/the-best-friend-break-up/#comment-92226 Fri, 13 Aug 2010 15:12:50 +0000 http://collegecandy.com/?p=36464#comment-92226 Me and my best friend broke up… since then my life change. . . She was everything for me!! She had made me believe that we will be forever together but one day she just FORGET ME. . . today she has a new best friend and we are now just friends. . . I m crying all the time and we had 7 months we are apart. . . Every day i see her with her NEW best friend to make things than we used to do together. . . the pain is inside me and no one can see it. . .TODAY i m travelling at france with my parents but i can t be excited because she saw me again that i m not her friend. . .

]]> By: Mel http://collegecandy.com/2009/08/18/the-best-friend-break-up/#comment-78211 Mon, 10 May 2010 11:02:41 +0000 http://collegecandy.com/?p=36464#comment-78211 I'm in a dilemma quite like yours, but i just can't decide what i should do yet. I've tried to talk to my bff frankly about what i dislike about her, in the most gentle way but instead of apologizing like your ex-bf did, she said "It's just what i am, i don't care what you think", and after that things got even more out of control. I would REALLY appreciate it if you could give me some advice and drop me an email. I'm desperate for someone's wise opinion.

]]> By: Will http://collegecandy.com/2009/08/18/the-best-friend-break-up/#comment-64239 Thu, 07 Jan 2010 08:15:04 +0000 http://collegecandy.com/?p=36464#comment-64239 I'm going through this right now as well. My girl pal and I use to be so fun together. However, lately I started to realize it was becoming a one-sided friendship. I was starting to get upset over every minor annoying thing she did. I had the talk with my girl pal this week. At first she said she didn't have anything more to say, because she didn't know I felt that way. However, she continues to text me and email me. We shall see how it goes. Either way, I felt so much better getting it off my chest and telling her what was upsetting me.

]]> By: BabanQurban http://collegecandy.com/2009/08/18/the-best-friend-break-up/#comment-63335 Sat, 26 Dec 2009 09:20:46 +0000 http://collegecandy.com/?p=36464#comment-63335 Даа… Но, как говорится в поговорке, а воз и ныне там :)

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