bianca says:
Wed, 19th Aug 200911:17 am 

this seemes like a pretty chill guy to me

Star says:
Wed, 19th Aug 20092:36 pm 

I liked this article

I'm glad to hear guys realize Cosmo is a piece of trash.

Star says:
Wed, 19th Aug 20092:37 pm 

Oh, just out of curiosity, is the guy in the conversation for these articles always the same guy? Cause if so, I think someone on the CC staff needs to date him :p

Casey says:
Wed, 19th Aug 20094:17 pm 

"when using your hands, play outside. You know… avoid the cave"

Ha ha LOVE it!

I don't know if it's because I grew up (literally from being in a crib to 5th grade) with a male best friend or what, but I tend to see the guys side of things so much more than the girls side. I feel as though I have a guys mentality more so than a girls. But Communication is the biggest key to a good relationship, just ALWAYS be honest with the person. If you don't enjoy having sex with someone you're in a relationship with, don't fake it, help them get better. You don't have to tell a guy "you suck in bed" but there are ways to break it too them, you know by hinting at what you would like them to do, just be like "hey babe I was reading about this new position/ thing I wanted to try, you up for it?" Or in the middle of sex just say "oh yeah that feels good!", or "Mmmm! a little to the left." Guys actually like to be directed cause most of them are confused as hell when it comes to womens sex organs.

You just have to be careful around sensitive topics that you don't word something wrong. And if you do and you can tell his ego has been hurt apologize, and say you didn't mean it like that and give him some compliments on something else that he does well, or his looks, or his intelligence, whatever, so you can build his confidence back up.

Seriously though, communication is key to any good relationship, because men and women think so differently that we're both always going to be reading into something.

Alex says:
Wed, 19th Aug 20097:37 pm 

I totally agree with girls being to blame for the enormous amount of guys who are assholes. Girls bitch and moan about never finding a guy who will treat them well and not fuck up a relationship. But then, a guy is considered as being too nice, even if he is simply just being a normal guy, not a clinging bitch if he doesn't fuck up a relationship and give a girl a reason to have drama in her life.

Guys who are assholes will always get the hottest girls. That is all there is to it. The hotter the girl is, the worse you treat her. It makes no fucking sense, but it is always true. That is what turns nice, normal guys, into assholes because they get sick and tired of loser asshole guys dating girls they wish they could.

If you girls would not seek out and prefer assholes in your dating habits, maybe guys would not feel the need to behave like assholes in order to get girls. Do you actually think guys are assholes to girls for no reason? The vast majority of guys in the world aren't just naturally assholes. Girls make them that way. No guy wants to be Mr. Nice Guy who never gets any.

100% of the blame is on girls for showing guys that assholes always get the girls.

Casey says:
Thu, 20th Aug 20097:27 am 

No, Alex I think you have it wrong. Girls tend to go for assholes because the assholes are the ones that try and impress us, they have confidence, and they approach us. "The nice guy" doesn't get anywhere because he doesn't have the confidence. Meeting someone is more about confidence then it is about looks, or even personality. But the reason girls don't stay with the assholes and are always "looking for a nice guy" is because well, we realize all that confidence we were drawn to is hiding his asshole personality. If you want "the nice guys" to get ahead GROW. SOME. BALLS! Assholes for some reason seem to have all the confidence in the world.

It's simple, for guys or girls, be nice, be interesting, and BE CONFIDENT. No games, no crazy signals. Confidence is the most attractive quality anyone can possess.

Sarah says:
Thu, 20th Aug 20098:18 am 

"Confidence is the most attractive quality anyone can possess."

AGREED. There's not even such a thing as "nice guys finish last" anymore. You can have the confidence to approach someone of the opposite sex and be assertive (not aggressive, assertive) and still be a "nice guy."

Alex says:
Thu, 20th Aug 20093:46 pm 

What a bunch of horseshit. Girls will never date any guy unless he is an asshole and is good looking. Save me this shit about confidence being the most important thing. Girls are just as superficial as guys are when it comes to looks. A guy could have all the confidence in the world and if he isn't good looking, he will be dismissed and not even given a chance. So, don't give me that bullshit. A good looking guy with confidence is considered to be an attractive thing. A bad looking guy with confidence is considered to be a creeper and a weirdo. Don't tell me that shit isn't true.

None of you guys can dispute anything I said. You know it is true.

qz says:
Thu, 20th Aug 20095:01 pm 

And what? all nice guys are ugly and all @$$holes are hot? that is the shit that isn't true! If you are not good looking then face it… you are much less likely to get a good looking girl no matter how nice you are. And if I had to bet, I'd guess the girls you are after and that you are saying only date assholes are hot girls. Because you wouldn't want an ugly girl. Well we don't want ugly guys. It's genetics people!!! So when we say we want confident nice guys, you should hear that as confident attractive nice guys, because the attractive part is ALWAYS implied. That said, idk if i can speak for the rest of girls, but to me, after I meet a guy for awhile if he is an ass he starts getting less hot and if he is a sweetie he starts getting more hot. So you *might* have a chance. Anyways at least in alex's case i dont think looks are the problem. I think the problem is that you are a whiny little b*tch.

Alex says:
Thu, 20th Aug 20096:39 pm 

Whiny little bitch? No. I just know that girls are the problem because they only want assholes and not guys who actually treat them well. This is especially true for the more attractive girls. That is what is so fucked up about girls. Guys who naturally are nice guys (not little bitches), always will finish last no matter what. That is why, even if you are a nice guy, it pays to just be an asshole to get girls to pay attention to you.

A good looking guy can treat a girl like shit, cheat on her, etc and it won't even matter. Girls are superficial just like most guys. All of you girls saying that you will give average looking guys a chance are full of shit. You want a hot guy who will treat you like shit. There are too many examples to prove this.

Girls are the problem. They bitch and moan about never being able to find a good guy and yet their whole dating history suggests they want an asshole. How stupid can you get?

Casey says:
Fri, 21st Aug 20098:50 am 

Alex, you have no idea what you're talking about. You're not a girl so you have no idea how we think. I consider myself to be an attractive girl, I'll throw out my myspace if you want proof, but I have dated guys that are definitely well beneath me in the looks department. Looks don't matter to me, because lets face it, beauty fades. I would much rather date a guy that I got along with so well that I can look past his less attractive appearance and love him for who he is. Because in the end, I don't want to get stuck with a guy who used to be hot with no personality and now he's old and ugly with no personality. Acting like an asshole isn't going to get you anywhere, unless you're trying to hookup with a really desperate girl who thinks attention (bad or good) equals love. Because those are the kinds of girls who actually date assholes.

You seriously have no idea what you're talking about, you're making up all these generalizations about women in your head. I think you need to stop watching so many high school dramas. Girls aren't dumb, we're not going to let a guy treat us like shit just because he's hot. And I think you're proving yourself wrong with the whole asshole theory cause you're being an asshole right now and, uh, it is certainly not making me want to fall at your feet. Try the confidence thing, I guarantee it will work. But only if you let go of this idea that all girls want assholes. Girls want confidence, it's a big difference. Try it, THEN come back and try to dispute it. Until then you have no argument.

Dannie.S says:
Tue, 25th Aug 20099:49 am 

This is not how I see it or experience it. The Nice guy is being manipulative. He's being nice to manipulate you to like him. Boom, attraction dead. He's not exciting, a girl can predict the next 60 years with this man. Pull back on this guy and he will follow you like a puppy. Game over.

An Asshole is unpredictable, he's at least exciting, entertaining, but selfish and can not control his sexual desires to the point where he will sleep with another girl option permitting. You as the girl have become another spice on the rack. Game over for the guy. He will keep you around till you get tired of it or finds someone better to be his #1. He also might crumble like a cookie or blurt out in anger when facing conflict.

The sweet spot is in the middle, the genuineness of the nice guy, the confidence and ability to stand his ground of the macho jerk, the style of the jerk, the depth of the nice guy. Leading like the jerk. In this juicy and mysterious middle ground is where an authentic man is. Fun enough to put himself out there and be real with people, while showing genuine interest and being unaffected by the judgment of others. Its a bitch to work on this as a man, so this is comparable to the work woman go through to look good and continue to attract and excite their man.

Dannie.S says:
Tue, 25th Aug 20099:51 am 

Also, I disagree with this Chat guy's comment. "Give him some confidence". LAME. A man creates confidence from within. Something given has no value. Earning it is how value is attained.

Sharon says:
Wed, 2nd Sep 20095:46 pm 

i HATE maxim

Lena says:
Fri, 11th Sep 20097:02 pm 

I'd just like to say that some of us girls are still old-fashioned and DO liked to be approached by a man versus going up to one ourselves. It's sexy when a guy does that (if he's not creepy!) and makes us feel more attractive. And we girls sure like to be noticed by our male counterparts!

Jess. J. says:
Tue, 23rd Mar 201011:35 pm 

Come one, Dannie. It's not about giving confidence or earning it on the guy's part. I completely agree, that girls need to give guys some slack. Constantly cutting guys down and treating them like dogs isn't attractive, cute, or endearing; and it won't find you Mister Right. Giving the boy confidence is as simple as treating him the same way you'd want to be treated, and not like Public Enemy No. 1.

Do right by him. Be upfront and straightforward – if he's not man enough to respect that right off the bat, you'll surprise him so much that he won't say anything for a few seconds (which gives you just enough time to smile and be about your way, if that's what you need to do).

Roberto says:
Sun, 4th Apr 20101:26 am 

LOL ALEX HATES WOMEN!