Tuffy Luv Gets Tuff

"You're too good for him! DO YOU HEAR ME?!"

Got a question? Email tuffyluv@collegecandy and I’ll break it down real slow for ya.

By Sara

Dear Tuffy Luv,

I’ve been seeing a guy for about eight months. Eight rocky months. At times things are amazing and at others, they’re terrible. On top of this (probably at the center of it) is I only get to see him once a week, if that. Granted we live in the same city with a bus system that works quite well. However, he’s never had me over, I haven’t met his family, and he only comes to my place.

Now fast forward to this morning when I checked my phone and saw a message from a strange number basically saying: “You can have ‘insert boy’s name here’. Bet you didn’t know he had a girl did you? Oh well, doesn’t matter now. Good luck with him. You’re going to need it.”

I sent it to him and he said he lost his phone at the club and someone must have took my number out of it and sent that to me. I’ve been having gut feelings about another girl being in the picture the whole time and it definitely makes sense. But yet I’m still conflicted – I love him, should I believe him? Or should I just move on? I feel like I deserve someone that will put more into a relationship, but yet the feelings I have for him are so strong it confuses me. I don’t know what to do. Please help.

J

Dear J,

Girl, dump that piece of garbage on the curb where he be-LONGS!

Really, honestly, J. Do you really, deep down in your heart of hearts, think there’s a chance he’s not cheating on you? He’s making a fool of you, honey! And to add insult to injury, he didn’t even bother to think of a convincing lie!

Look, I guarantee 100% this guy has at LEAST one other girl. And she dumped him, but, guess what? He probably already has another one lined up. This is a guy who could give a shoop about your feelings. He does NOT respect you. He is cheating on you and then having a good laugh about it.

And now why, why, really WHY would you want to be with someone like this?! Have some self-respect! Forget the feelings you have for him. There will be other men you will have feelings for. He’s manipulating you into feeling as though you love him, but he’s treating you like just another whore. I realize that’s a strong word, but, seriously–the worst part about this whole thing is his lame excuse for an excuse. Why would someone random at a club choose to send a message like that, and how would they know you’re the one to send it to? Come on! It just doesn’t make sense!

Let’s say on the off (off, off, OFF) chance he’s telling the truth. Which, by the way, I promise he’s not. But even if he was – why would you want to be with someone who doesn’t even care about you enough to introduce you to anyone or anything in his life?

He’s cheating on you, he’s disrespecting you, and he’s treating you like a bastard stepchild. Dump his ass and get on with your life. Which, by the way, can be filled with so. many. better people.

Hearts & Skulls,

Tuffy Luv