Sexy Time: When Vaginas Explode

September 3, 2009 Posted in Relationships, Sex

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My roommate recently told me a story. It was a bit graphic in nature, so I won’t share the dirty details here, but it involved her, her boyfriend, and an orgasm so intense she actually experienced female ejaculation. Yeah, maybe we share a little too much information.

I was intrigued. (And slightly interested in borrowing that BF for myself…)

Female ejaculation is an elusive experience held by many men to be the epitome of female orgasm. Why? Because it’s viewed as proof of an orgasm, a job well done. Women don’t have to worry about whether our partner enjoyed himself or not – there’s something sticky to prove it. But men aren’t as lucky; most of us can convincingly fake an orgasm if need be, and men realize this.

Squirting, or female ejaculation, however, can’t be faked. It is also something new and exciting and who doesn’t want to experience a new level of physical pleasure?

As enticing as it may be, female ejaculation is still an experience most us only hear stories about or see in porn…or Sex and The City. There’s debate about whether it even exists. I don’t doubt it exists, but my question is how, how often, and for whom? In my entire internet search, I couldn’t find one trustworthy medical site with an article on female ejaculation. The best I could do was livestrong.org (weird, I know), which says:

“Female ejaculation is thought to be a release of fluid from the Skene’s glands… The Skene’s gland is similar to the prostate gland in guys. It produces a fluid that is similar to the chemical composition of prostatic fluid, the fluid that makes up the majority of semen. Some women may produce greater amounts of fluid from these glands than others, which explains why some women release a large amount of fluid during an orgasm while others do not… Not all women have the capability of ejaculating and those who do cannot each time they have intercourse. It is also not something that takes place every time a female experiences an orgasm.”

Great. So not only is the information hard to find, but the news isn’t so great, either. Some of us can do it and some of us cannot? Those of us who can do it can’t do it every time? And there is no way of knowing how to make it happen?!

Despite the lack of scientific information, however, there are an abundance of first-hand accounts (like this one). There are also guides like this one, claiming that any woman can learn how to ejaculate. But I’m skeptical; I’ve had plenty of g-spot stimulation in my life and never felt like I might explode. I have, however, had plenty of insanely intense orgasms. And that’s gonna have to be good enough for now.

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J says:
Thu, 3rd Sep 20094:45 am

I ejaculate quite often – I never did until my current partner, and it's like he flipped a switch in my body! If you're interested in it, my advice is to just try lots of different kinds of stimulation but focus on enjoying yourself, not on "am I going to squirt?" It was a complete surprise to both of us.

Plus, most of what I've read about how to make it happen doesn't relate to my experiences at all. I never have the "I have to pee" feeling from any kind of orgasm, G-spot or squirting or otherwise. I also always read that G-spot stimulation was the key to female ejaculation, but I'd say 95% of the time I squirt it's from really fast clitoral stimulation during oral sex. I have really intense orgasms from penetration during vaginal sex but those don't make me ejaculate.

D says:
Thu, 3rd Sep 20094:47 am

I heard that only some women can ejaculate because while we were being formed in the uterus as babies it is the deciding factor of being male or female. The women who happen to be able to produce more of the fluid just happen to have a glands formed more similar to the prostate than others.

Not one-hundred percent on that one so don't quote me. =S

N says:
Thu, 3rd Sep 20096:41 am

I too am a "squirter" and like J, I never knew until my current partner…he and I were both pleasantly surprised the first time it happened and it's an amazing feeling (He'd never experienced it before either). Unlike J, I get that "have to pee" feeling, which is probably why I've never experienced it until this partner…the first time it happened, I tried to make him stop, fearing I was going to pee, but he begged me to let him keep going and next thing I knew…I was squirting. It doesn't happen often during actual intercourse (although it has 2 or 3 times) usually it's from a finger/oral combo.

One thing I'll tell you though, I was so excited the first time it happened (I honestly thought it was a post-edit porn thing) I wanted to tell the world……but the reaction I got from most of my gf's and a few select guy friends that I feel comfortable sharing that kind of info with was "ewwwwwww, TMI!" Kinda rained on my parade a little bit…but hey, at least the boy still loves it!

J says:
Thu, 3rd Sep 200910:28 am

N, my partner loves it too! I think it's the kind of thing that if my partner had been like, "That's gross, that's weird, what are you doing?" I'd have been crushed. But we were both so surprised and delighted by it; it makes it even more fun for me, knowing what a turn-on he finds it. Like you, I wanted to tell lots of people about it but felt like it wasn't the kind of thing you put in your Facebook status, haha.

(My best friend was a bit appalled when I told him, but he declares himself grossed out by anything "girly part" related, so I chalk it up to that and got a much more positive response from my female friends.)

Bob says:
Fri, 4th Sep 20094:28 am

You haven't lived until you've been "baptized" by a squirter. I don't know or care what the actual substance is, I take it as a badge of honor when I help bring it out.

Trisiana says:
Fri, 4th Sep 20094:42 pm

Has no one heard of I <3 Female Orgasm? Surely College Candy has…

Genghis says:
Fri, 4th Sep 20094:53 pm

That is what squirts on my face during oral sex? We'll ladies, tell/ask/beg him to alternately stimulate your clit with his tongue and then thrust it in and out of your vagina until you squirt. After that first squirt, many more will come even with just vaginal penetration. No fingering. The fingernails and callous will cause damage instead of giving pleasure.

One big CAVEAT. You must know the guy very well and you are both free from any STD's. Using dental dam won't work.

Vulvlkr says:
Mon, 7th Sep 20096:38 pm

Yes,America, there are squirters out there. When they do, you know she's havin' fun.If she knows in advance, hopefully she will tell you so you can bring a towel. It can come in handy if she squirts a lot.

Joe the Drunk says:
Tue, 8th Sep 200910:31 pm

I think I wouldn’t be able to tell the difference between a squirt and pee. My woman queefs after doggie style, which she loves, but then she gets self-conscious about it. That doesnt bother me at all.

K says:
Wed, 16th Sep 20097:40 pm

Personally, I had never orgasmed so intensely until my current partner. He does the finger/oral combo where I experience the " I have to pee " feeling and I squirt a little, not a lot. I've never had more than a little bit but those are by far the best orgasms I've ever had!

Alexia says:
Tue, 29th Sep 200911:03 am

i am 14 and i only found out tonight i could ejaculat!i was mastibating and rubbing my g spot and i took my fingers out and this gush of what i thought was pee came out and i then thought hang onnn it mite be ejaculation stuff..and i went 2 the loo and it was clear so i can do it lol it makes me feel like i have 2 pee but it feels so good!

Lightie says:
Fri, 6th May 20115:58 am

I’ve never had a squirt through vaginal penetration,bt only when i get a quick clitoral lick or rubbing it with his dick during oral sex. It made me feel lyk sex is all about the clit

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