There is this one girl I know from going out. Well one night, she came out to a bar with me and we ended up making out. Since then, we'll see each other out and talk. And since that time, we have become better friends. But if I ask her to hang out or go out to see a movie or something, she always comes up with an excuse…. She recently told me that she doesn't want to date anyone and she enjoys being single, and that is why she wouldn't hang out with me. Truely, a kick in the gut.

But at the same time, I knew before I would ask her to do stuff that she didn't want a boyfriend. So, despite the fact that I liked her as more than a friend and the facT that I knew she didn't want a b/f, I was still hoping to hang out with her just as friends…

Which leads me to wonder, can two people of the opposite sex just hang out as friends??? In the back of my mind, I would be hoping to make out or something again…. but at the same time, just hanging as friends, and friends only would be great too…… ANY THOUGHTS?

I agree with the author, that guys can't take hints about a woman's disinterest in them. I mean, things will be going well, as friends, and then he has to go and ruin it by telling you that he likes you or whatever. Honestly, I don't have the heart to tell a guy that "I just want to be friends". So, instead I either try to chase them away by being a total bitch, but that oftentimes backfires too

And I don't think the two (men and women) can truly be friends, without one party feeling romantically interested in the other. I have guy friends who insist on trying to persuade me that we'd be a good pair or act overtly sexual about our relationship (with jokes, retorts etc). I mean, you can't tell your straight guy friend detailed, juicy info about last nites romp, because he'd be jealous or refuse to hear it. I don't think there should be such filters in friendship. Although, I think the male-female friendship is easier for women, because stereotypically females are less visual and more concerned with humor and other attributes. Thus, hot chicks being friends with ugly chicks (debatable, i know) and/or falling for the average Joe.

You don't get to pick family. Stars know I would have … and so would they!

You don't get to pick lovers. Perhaps this is my Latin side, but I honestly do not believe that you PICK who, when and how you fall in love. A higher power picks your family, a lower power picks your lovers. What you DO about that love is a different story.

Friends is the only decision you get to make. People DO, really DO judge you by your friends because it shows a lot about your judgment. Your friends are a reflection of your values and the kinds of decisions you make.

Friends … male and female are the only, and most important decisions you will ever make.

Not "just" friends.

There is nothing more emasculating than being phoney friends with someone you want to sleep with.

His loss? Get real. Women are half ass friends at best. His gain. Go make some guy friends and date lots of women till you can choose one you like.

Don't waste your time on the phoney balogna world of female friends.