Comments on: Coupled. Yeah, I’m In a Relationship In College

By: Not Everything About Your Ex is Bad : College Candy

Not Everything About Your Ex is Bad : College Candy — Thu, 11 Nov 2010 22:00:37 +0000

[...] never happened. I myself went through a pretty nasty break up earlier this year. Not only was I with the guy for over 3 years, we lived together and were planning a wedding when I realized that what we were doing was a [...]

By: kianna

kianna — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 12:59:46 +0000

I think this is great! im a junior in high school and my boyfriends a senior. we've been together for 7 months. and i know i probably sound stupid but i love him, i really think he's the one. my mom supports us, but it seems like no one else does our only issue right now is the fact that soon he'll be going to college and it makes me so NERVOUS! the plan is for us to stay together. and i know we would only be apart for a year (he was going to stay in state until i graduate) but i'm still scared. any advice? please and thanksss

By: nananana

nananana — Mon, 05 Oct 2009 20:31:58 +0000

Hrm. I don't know exactly where I stand on this issue but I have experienced both sides of the coin, so to speak. I was married for the first half of my college career, and was able to keep up a 4.0 gpa at a state university. However, in order to help support both me and him, I was working full time and couldn't take as many classes. Also, I was not involved with extracurriculars or volunteer work of any kind because it stole time from 'us' and it was hard enough to find time to be together with both of us working. Well, lo and behold, we ended up getting divorced (for some very legitimate reasons, I won't go into that However, divorce was necessary. After the divorce I put off my education for a semester to move to another state to be with family. Now I am in a better recognized university and can hardly find time for myself let alone someone else (even though, I do admit I get lonely). I am very involved though, I have a work study position with career potential, am fully self supporting, tutor ESL to immigrants, take 16 credits, and am involved with several student organizations and some volunteer work. I have seen my college experience vastly expand. I attend lectures and workshops in my free time and am continually learning both personally (i.e. how to cook healthier meals for myself, balance time etc) and intellectually. In my experience I was able to do very well whether in a relationship or not, however a relationship does take a lot of time and effort–two things which are both very hard to find in college. Now that I am 'unattached' I feel that I am really taking full advantage of my education before my re-entry into the workforce. Is this impossible for some women? Perhaps not. But I personally couldn't handle all I have on my plate now, if I were still involved with him.

By: mandi

mandi — Mon, 05 Oct 2009 16:52:33 +0000

I was in a summer relationship and as soon as we both started back in college we broke up. this was not my decision it was his. he basically said he didn't think it would work now where both going to be busy and he doesn't think he'd be capable of giving the relationship 100%. I was heart broken and I really thought we'd have a chance. like alot of people in realtionship see each other weekends and holidays and basically if you want it to work it works nothing more. I really want the realtionship we had to get back on track but I'm afraid to tell him I want him back and I honestly cant get him out of my head. We have a lot in common and we still talk and text each other so I know he still wants me in some way. but I'm not comfortable just being friends. has anyone any advice?

By: Samantha wise

Samantha wise — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 11:57:00 +0000

So my boyfriend and i are both in college as well and we've been dating for about 2 and half years…. this year both of our classes have gotten really hard and it seems like im always the one who has to go over to his house. recently we have been arguing alot about how he doesn't seem to be willing to compromise and come over to my house. I'm really concerned that we won't be able to solve this and won't stay together. I still love him very deeply but im not sure if i can keep up going to his house ALL the time…. what should i do??????

By: Symone

Symone — Sun, 20 Sep 2009 18:26:20 +0000

YOU GO GIRLS!! I KNOW DASS RIGHT!! Hell, I’m in the exact same position. This is my 4th month in my relationship and everybody, I mean EVERYBODY who I would THINK would support me, DID NOT support. They used all kinds of stereotypes and sayings that wasn’t even true. If I hadn’t acted upon what I felt was right, then I wouldn’t of been as even happier as my normally happy self would have been. And I’m the ONLY educated musician in the family, and I would like to try and get my Masters in a different instrument, but it’s not about me. Dis is about you SARABETH AND CASEY AND ALL ‘EM, YA’LL WORK DAT EDUCATION AND RELATIONSHIP. There will always ALWAYS be haters wherever you go, and if they’re hissing and putting you down, then you are doing EXACTLY whatchu is supposed to do. If you don’t got haters breathin’ down your neck (because they think you’re so important that they constantly obesses over your life because they hating) then you is NOT doin’ your job.

Regards

By: Coupled. This is Fo Realz : College Candy

Coupled. This is Fo Realz : College Candy — Thu, 17 Sep 2009 21:01:43 +0000

[...] trying to figure out a topic for this week, I thought about all of the questions people ask me, the relationship [...]

By: MLG

MLG — Sun, 13 Sep 2009 23:25:59 +0000

Do people really need to defend having a relationship in college? What the heck? That's incredibly strange to me. Is there really such a common claim that there's something wrong with being in love with and committed to someone?

By: Beth

Beth — Sun, 13 Sep 2009 22:54:41 +0000

this is great! im still a junior in high school and my boyfriend is a freshman in college this year, after i graduate were moving my college and hopefulyl engaged or married by then!

thanks for posting this its really helped my outlook on the future!

By: Marie

Marie — Sun, 13 Sep 2009 19:32:58 +0000

twentysomethingreality-You and I are/were in the exact same senerio. Best of luck to you!