Sexy Time: How To Be Great In Bed

good in bed

I’m just gonna say it, I’m good in bed. I might be a little arrogant about it, but a big part of good sex is confidence, so I think it’s OK to be a bit smug. A lot of girls are insecure about their performance in the bedroom, but there’s really no reason to be. Being good in bed is much simpler then you think. Here are some tips from an expert:

Enjoy Yourself. If it’s good for you, it’ll be good for your partner. Knowing what you like and how to ask for it takes the stress of figuring it out off your partner so you’re both free to relax and enjoy. Don’t know what you like? Start masturbating.

Try New Things. It’s always good to break the routine. Trying new positions, places, toys, etc. might help you both discover a new favorite.

Be Dirty. Don’t hold back and don’t worry about your manners.

Bring Another Girl Along. Okay, this one was a suggestion from my boyfriend. While I’m sure it wouldn’t hurt, it’s not necessary. Just keeping an open mind about any and all things sexual is a good way to have great sex. You don’t have to actually partake in any of them, but talking about fetishes and fantasies can be really awesome foreplay.

Make Noise. Dirty-talk or moaning provide the positive reinforcement everyone needs.

Use More Than One Hole. Front door, back door, mouth, nose, hands, feet, etc…

Love Sex. Be enthusiastic, don’t be afraid to initiate, and don’t be afraid to take control.

Swallow. The semen is in your mouth longer if you’re busy looking for somewhere to spit it out anyways.

Get To Know Your Partner. Everyone has different preferences, so take the time to learn the special things that drive your partner crazy. Don’t be afraid to ask, but if they can’t name any, make it a mission to discover them together.

Do you have any other tips on how to be good in bed?



  1. Haider khan says:

    O.k The great update of this sexy sexy things for the bed and i like them all but just don't accept your "Bring Another Girl Along" In Fantasies is also a weird.

  2. Becca- Clarion University says:

    This is a great article… but I worry how long it’s gonna take for the hate to start spewing… I’ve done allllll these things and then some ;-) they’re great!!

    what’s also great… write a list of things you want to try and set a date for when you want the list to be accomplished… then you and your partner get to race against time to get them all done ;-)

    I’ve only got a couple things left on my list… and I’ve been with my man for a year… it’s awesome…

  3. Ayla says:

    I think you forgot one biggie: know your comfort zone.

    Not everyone would be into threesomes, fetish-y stuff, and other things you mentioned. While I'm all about open-mindedness, you really shouldn't do anything you KNOW you aren't comfortable with. Vanilla sex that both partners enjoy is waaay better than kinky sex that one person is only suffering through to please the other.

  4. daisy says:

    Really, nose?!

  5. Mal says:

    omg i totally agree with the swallowing thing…the longer its in my mouth, the more grossed out i get! hahaha…

  6. Kelly - Simmons Coll says:

    Ayla- You're totally right. Thanks for commenting. I think it's important to keep an open mind, but I would never encourage anyone to engage in sexual activity they're not comfortable with.

    Daisy- The nose thing was a joke… unless you're working with a really big nose or a really small you-know-what :)

  7. D says:

    Ok, Miss Good-in-Bed. Next Article.. How to give a good BJ. Seriously!

  8. Daniel says:

    to D: That's easy DONT USE YOUR TEETH! LOL! Seriously, take and stick your tongue out over your bottom teeth and suck in your upper lip. I prefer when my wife uses her hand AND mouth at the same time, doing a pumping action. Totally awesome. Hope that helps.

  9. Daniel says:

    One more thing: Been married happily for 15 years, not a player, very loyal. To keep things fresh be open to new things, this doesn't mean 3-sometimes (which I'm against any married person doing), but porn, toys, lube, talking dirt, using all holes, you have to go beyond your comfort zone sometimes and explore, otherwise how else to you know you don't like it. My wife didn't like certain things maybe at first, but she kept an open mind and no she loves those things. however, I didn't pressure her into doing it, I let her ease into things and whenever she suggests something I never make her feel dirty or stupid and say yes because I'm willing to try new stuff. After 15, er 16 years of sex, it's the only way to keep things fresh.

  10. bogart4017 says:

    A few seconds before climax lean over a whisper your mates name in his/her ear over and over. It will drive him/her nuts!!

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  12. Yeahhh says:

    Is this like a "Dummies guide" or something? Also, no to the semen thing. Just don't put it in your mouth in the first place, you can put it elsewhere you know (doesn't take a genius!).

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  14. Genghis says:

    All of you should be sprinkled with Holy Water! It will be nice to hear the sizzle and see the smoke coming out of your decadent bodies. AHAHAHAHAHAHA, just kidding. This reminds me of the birthday gift I recently received. It was a booklet of "Things to do today" showing the different positions in the Kama Sutra. I don't think I have any copy left. My friends kept on getting a page or two until it was gone. Get hold of that and hang it at your bed's headboard. Cross out the ones you've done. But again, practice safe sex always.

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  16. Karen Affeldt says:

    Just losing all inhibitions and devouring him is the way to go. Semi rough animal sex is great too.

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    um backhole? No thanks. That would just turn me off…

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  20. Liz says:

    I'm sorry, but you sound like a slut.

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