Comments on: What Is Closure, Anyway?

By: DMAC

DMAC — Fri, 15 Oct 2010 04:37:39 +0000

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By: nbr

nbr — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 02:53:54 +0000

for the sake of future boyfriends, stop being a slut and get rid of your ex. nothing i hate more than a girl who still holds onto ex-lovers.

By: Keri

Keri — Tue, 29 Sep 2009 06:59:29 +0000

I'm still working towards closure and this guy is completely out of my life. Why does it have to be so hard to get over someone? He shattered my heart, but I still love him. Ugh

By: Cait

Cait — Mon, 28 Sep 2009 22:28:18 +0000

Well, I personally think of closure as knowing why the relationship ended, realizing it is for the better, and finally starting to move on personally. I've been in love twice, and I could never have my most recent ex in my life again, too many things happened, and even though I know we don't belong together, he is one of those people that I could fall back in love with easily, but it's just not the right person for me. But, I my ex from high school is one of my best friends, it's difficult sometimes because he doesn't care to hide the fact that he is still in love with me, but he knows nothing is going to happen with us again. So I think as long as you know how YOU feel, it shouldn't matter, maybe he is trying to get you back, but if you're over him, and don't want to be with him again, then that's your choice, and he most likely won't be able to get you back anyway. I say more power to you!

By: beth

beth — Mon, 28 Sep 2009 22:24:09 +0000

UGH! GIRL! I think that it's def. possible. But I have the same situation as you. I fell totally in love with him when I was 16(1m 19 now). But we broke up about a year ago.. But I still love him more than anything in the world. He just got a new girlfriends. Ive tried getting over him, but honestly it doesn't work. You should share you secret . But I'm glad you got over him and remained friends. That is what I aspire to do. Someday.

By: tissue

tissue — Mon, 28 Sep 2009 17:36:00 +0000

I totally know what you mean! My friends are always trying to figure out why I'm still such good friends with my ex. They've been telling me to not talk to him or hang out with him…and they try to tell him to stay away. It is slightly annoying when they try to do that.

I'm so glad I'm not the only person that still remain friends with their ex!

By: collegethriving

collegethriving — Mon, 28 Sep 2009 17:22:49 +0000

Casey, commentors on here are obnoxious. I want to hear your stories so just post them! If someone doesnt want to hear, them they don't have to read your comments. You always have great insight

By: Casey

Casey — Mon, 28 Sep 2009 17:15:56 +0000

Well, I've got two stories about this, but I think I've surpassed my posting quota for the week.

I will say this though, closure doesn't mean that you have to say "good bye" to the person. And not every relationship needs formal closure. If both you and the ex can accept the fact that it wasn't meant to be between the two of you and get on with your lives with or without the other, then you don't need closure, the acceptance is your "closure". You only need closure if one person isn't over the other and one needs to eliminate the other from their life in order to move on. Then you talk about the relationship and what went wrong, say your goodbyes, and move on.

To me, it doesn't sound like you need any closure, and your friends need to stop bringing needless drama into your life.