Tufts Says No To Dorm Room Boom Boom

September 29, 2009 3:00 pm     Posted in Reality  Brittany - University of Richmond g+ page

sexile.jpgDorm-room sex. It’s undeniably tricky. Besides the tiny twin beds that limit mobility and often result in dangerous topples from the top bunk, you always have to time your romps just right, waiting for your roommate to step out for an undetermined but hopefully lengthy amount of time.


By Brittany

But dorm-room sex is just as challenging for the non-practicing roommate. Allow me to paint you a word mural:

You’re trekking home to your room after an excruciating night in the library. Your bed is calling your name from across campus, and it’s taking all of your energy just to make it back. Just as you are opening the door and can practically feel your blanket’s sweet embrace wrapped around your body, the familiar moans and grunts of your roommate and her ape-like boyfriend ring like fire alarms in your ears. Sexiled again.

You have two choices: Make your presence known and hope they cease and desist or opt for headphones and heavy metal. Or you can face your fate and spend the night tossing and turning on the cardboard-like couch in the lounge.

Well, if you’re a student at Tufts University, the weight of this hefty decision has been taken off your shoulders once and for all. Under a new ResLife policy, students are not allowed to engage in sexual activity while their roommates are in the room.

Personally, I think that Tufts is sticking its nose in business that should be discussed and decided between roommates themselves. Instituting a sex policy that is virtually un-enforceable seems a bit extreme. And unless the horny couple actually wants an audience to cheer them on, I think they would wait for privacy anyway, with or without the existence of a formal policy mandating it.

Common courtesy dictates that no roommate should have to be a witness to lovemaking that is not their own (unless, of course, they’re into that sort of thing), but I feel sorry for the freshman male who gets paired with a hermit roommate that never leaves the solitude of their room.  Soon dorm-room sex will be replaced with bumping uglies in the bushes and humping on top of the dining hall.

So Tufts, what is more disturbing? Public displays of fornication or a slight rocking from the top bunk? Instituting this sex-policy seems like a slippery slope. Next they’ll be outlawing co-ed sleepovers and issuing chastity belts. Stay out of my sex life, ResLife, and I’ll stay out of yours.

15 Comments on "Tufts Says No To Dorm Room Boom Boom"

  1. Casey says:
    Tue, 29th Sep 200910:28 am 

    Ha ha I love that picture.

  2. Andi says:
    Tue, 29th Sep 200911:50 am 

    At my school, co-ed sleepovers are banned even in co-ed dorms. You have to let your RA know if you have someone of the opposite sex in the room and they are allowed to stay for a maximum of 7 hours 59 minutes per day. Any longer than that and it's considered a sleepover, even in the middle of the day. And it's my second college like this – it's not uncommon by any means!

  3. emily says:
    Tue, 29th Sep 200911:57 am 

    I'm curious as to how they plan on enforcing this?

  4. jamielikewhoa says:
    Tue, 29th Sep 200912:11 pm 

    Thank goodness I go to a public school…some of the rules I hear about sleepovers and the like are ridiculous. The students are not pre-teens, they're adults!

  5. chelsycupcake says:
    Tue, 29th Sep 20091:14 pm 

    I go to Lindenwood University and the opposite sex isn't even allowed in the dorms past 10 PM on school nights and 12 AM on the weekends, it is ridiculous.

  6. Micky says:
    Tue, 29th Sep 20091:33 pm 

    Actually, I like this idea. Many seem to forget that, while you can't really plan these things ahead of time, it is nice to let your roommate know when you intend to have your significant other over. After all, it is your room too. I've had this happen, and when they wanted to sexile me, (note, it was like, 1 am on a Sunday and I had just gotten back from the library), and I said they could go ahead, but only if they didn't mind me watching. Got labeled as a pervert real fast, but they left. XD

  7. Erin says:
    Tue, 29th Sep 20092:06 pm 

    I support this idea as a few times I had to sleep in another persons room because my roommate needed sexy times with her boyfriend. It's not considerate for you to kick out your roomie but for some it might be near impossible to come to an adult compromise. I think you should be able to ask for a few hours to your self, like 1-2 , but on the other side you should be able to say, "no tonight is not a good night I need to work here". Yeah they can go to the lounge for a few hours, it kills no one, but all night sleepovers or deciding to have sex right now at 2 am or something is not okay. I think it became a big issue at that school and obviously the students wanted the school to step in. I'm all for sex, but I think being rude to a roommate and having sex while their in the room or kicking them out is not okay ever.

  8. Abby says:
    Tue, 29th Sep 20092:43 pm 

    I think this is a good idea, although it would be hard to inforce. Like many people who've already commented, I've suffered through many sexiles, and it sucks. Having an inconsiderate roomie who doens't care if you have an exam at 8 am the next day, for example, just isn't cool. We talked about basic ground rules, but she just didn't seem to care. I think it's a good idea. Canoodling/having sex while your roommate is present is just. not. cool. Speaking from experience freshman year – my roomie's boyfriend was ALWAYS over, and it was very uncomfortable when they engaged in activities when they thought I was asleep. I've been scarred! To top things off, he worked at some kind of garden shop, so he always reeked of man sweat and pine trees! How she was attracted to that, I'll never know. Things would've been better for both of us if they'd just had more shower sex.

  9. Sara says:
    Tue, 29th Sep 20093:04 pm 

    I definitely think they should do something. I had a roommate once that would repeatedly lock me out of the room to be with different guys. It was just rude. We're both paying the same amount of money for it, I don't see how it's fair.

  10. grace b says:
    Tue, 29th Sep 20095:01 pm 

    If it is cleared ahead of time I think it's fine for a roommate to have some quality time with their significant other.

    But (and this has happened to me) every other weekend?

    Unannounced?

    Extended visits (unfortunately this has also happened to me–I'm a wuss ok!)?

    Get a hotel room.

  11. Jennifer says:
    Tue, 29th Sep 20096:55 pm 

    Maybe I'm reading it wrong, but I think the rule just forbids students from having sex in the physical presence of their roommates (kind of puts the possibility of a threesome with your roommate out the window, doesn't it?), not from sexiling. Actually, it seems like a rule meant to mandate sexiling in the event of sex in a dorm room. So, for the vast majority of people (read: those not having threesomes with their roommates or who are so comfortable/rude that they get it on with an audience) nothing will change. People will keep getting banned from their own rooms, but maybe with the ability to barge in anyways in order to get their roomie written up for having sex in front of them. In my mind, then, it's kind of a weird, unenforcable, useless rule.

  12. Jennifer says:
    Tue, 29th Sep 20097:00 pm 

    Ok, I see now where it says that the sex can't interfere with the other roommate's study habits, sleep, or privacy – so the rule is about making people be respectful? I think most normal people will try to not interfere with their roommate's life, but if you do get someone who does not take that precaution, I suppose it is nice that there is recourse – but if taken, it does brand the offended roommate as somewhat immature or petty. I imagine even if I sympathized with someone who went forward with a complaint under this rule, I'd think that they really should have handled the matter themselves, or, if it really was that unsolvable, just asked for a room change, which is essentially what you'd have to do after calling your roommate out like that anyways…

  13. Erin says:
    Wed, 30th Sep 200912:11 am 

    Jennifer it's just like having a job, yeah you can try to work it out with the other employee but sometimes it makes it worse, it doesn't mean you go to another store. It means you go to the manager or HR. Just like someone said your paying for the room too, therefore you are just as entitled to it and should be able to go to a higher power to get something done about the problem. You think people are able to handle it themselves, sorry I don't. I think if they could have then they probably would have done it, I think this is a last resort, you think the school wants to have to do another thing? Probably not. Some people may find it hard to confront at roommate about this some roommates are going to act like jerks and not follow the common rules you always have to come up with. Your idealism about people working out, just doesn't always work out.

  14. Brithny - Duke Unive says:
    Wed, 30th Sep 200910:43 am 

    Wonder whether being the sex po-po qualifies as a work-study job.

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