Lauren says:
Thu, 1st Oct 20092:46 pm 

You're totally not alone I'm in the exact same situation, and it's even more difficult because we are both basically broke so going out tends to be a bit of a drain on our budgets. Two years ago I was going out 3 nights a week and getting piggy back rides home, and now I'm lucky to get out once a week.

Bunny says:
Thu, 1st Oct 20095:08 pm 

Um, not mature enough maybe?

Casey says:
Thu, 1st Oct 20095:58 pm 

Ugh, why does someone always have to come around and put the author down for being in a relationship? Obviously she WANTS to be in a relationship, or she wouldn't be.

Fact is, no matter how old you are, how long you've been in a relationship, or at whatever stage of your life you're in, you're always going to be curious of what you don't have. In this case, single life.

Ever heard of the saying, "the grass isn't always greener on the other side"? well, it applies to this situation too.

Just because she misses single life, doesn't mean she's not mature enough, or doesn't want, to be in a relationship.

You're single, you're happy (presumably, but given the attitude probably not, and that doesn't just go for you Bunny, but all girls who make those kinds of comments) get over the fact that not everyone wants to live their lives like you do.

Leese says:
Thu, 1st Oct 20097:02 pm 

I totally understand what you’re feeling! As my friends have had crushes and boyfriends come and go these last few years, I’ve been with my same boy. I miss the excitement of crushes and sometime feel old and boring when they talk about their love lives. I would often rather stay in then go out too. So don’t feel alone, I doubt we are!

Christina says:
Thu, 1st Oct 20097:25 pm 

I feel like that all the time. Don't worry about it, you're totally not alone. I can't drink anymore, so it's not just staying home with the boy (he's in a frat…'nuff said), but yeah, it happens sometimes. Just enjoy the stories and snuggle in the fact that you'll always have your sweetie at home. It's not feeling superior so much as comfortable and content. I'm fine being a homebody.

diesel says:
Fri, 2nd Oct 20092:16 am 

Girl you are so right, but at least you kept your GF's and they ivite you still with them! What bothers me is that when I do go out without HIM, I still think of him and kind of just waiting to go back home. That's problem, right

karla says:
Fri, 2nd Oct 200912:52 pm 

OMG i know exaclty how you feel. I've been with my boyfriend for 5 months (i know we are still a pretty young relationship)and i just had a conversation with him about how I want to balance out my friends and him. He lives in his fraternity house, and so he's around his friends all the time, while I, am forced to go back home to strict parents (I'm almost 20, and I sitll have to be home by midnight WTF!?) and so of course he gets kind of tired of the parties because he literally lives in them! So he wants to be with me all the time, but me, i want to party with my girlfriends! I feel like i'm always with him, or at home. I never go out with just the girls, especially since 90% of them, make that 98% of them are single and want to def mingle. So they go to different frat parties, and I feel bad going along with them because of him.

I used to be the single crazy girl, flirt with everyone….i do miss the thrill. But then again, when i was single all i wanted was a dedicated boyfriend! And i have that now, and i do love him…but sometimes i just want to let loose.

All my taken ladies, we need to find a balance…now put ur hands up!

Malynne says:
Fri, 2nd Oct 20093:53 pm 

I know what you mean. I've been with my fiance for a year and seven months. I don't live with him, but I spend everyday with him. I miss the excitement of being single, and not feeling guilty for thinking some random guy is fricken hott. I love my fiance, and I want to be with him forever, but yeah…I do miss single life sometimes.

And as for friends, well most of my friends are still in high school, so I don't have to worry about that to much.

Sarabeth - Universit says:
Sun, 4th Oct 200911:36 am 

guess what alexa, i'm happy.

and you know what god, the sex is amazing.

Mel says:
Mon, 5th Oct 20096:53 pm 

Dude, I have to say it: I feel as though it's partially your own fault. You can go out and have a good time with your friends at whatever party they go to while not getting drunk or… whatever. The worst thing that could happen is that you would have to take a cab. Get a designated driver. BE the designated driver. Just don't stay in and say you wish you were having fun with the girls and sneakily push the blame on your boyfriend because he doesn't want you to go out. Maybe you secretly want to stay inside for the night and you're secretly sick of college parties?

Anyway, simple solution: go out a few times with your friends, but be responsible so you'll be doing what you want and be respecting your boyfriend at the same time.

Kelly says:
Mon, 5th Oct 20097:30 pm 

Fantastic article, I know how you feel.

Sarabeth - Universit says:
Tue, 6th Oct 200910:46 am 

Mel:

trust me, i know nothing bad will happen if i go out drinking. i try telling matt that all the time, but he just doesn't see it that way. in his mind, something bad is guaranteed to happen if i go out. i really do want to; but i know that if i do go out, my boyfriend will just sit at home and constantly worry. the nights i go out without him, he texts me the whole time about what he's doing and such because he gets lonely. he's someone that's struggled with depression since he was young, and in some ways it still affects him. this is just one of those ways. i stay home because i'm trying to be understanding. so yeah, i want to go out more, but i know i shouldn't every single weekend because that would be selfish, so i only go out a few times a month.

Erich says:
Tue, 6th Oct 200912:00 pm 

Sarabeth–

I think that your boyfriend is mature. I take some precautions to not be put in a situation that would not be good. When we go out, I'm always the DD that way I know I have a limit and I know my friends are getting home safe. Maybe you should try that. Besides think of the future, when you have kids, you will no longer be able to go out all the time. Enjoy yourself, but just make sure to take precautions.