Tuffy Luv Thinks This Girl Already Knows The Answer

By Sara

Question for La Tuff?! Email your questions to AskTuffyLuv@collegecandy.com and get an answerino.

Dear Tuffy Luv,

I’ve known this guy C for a little over a year now. He used to live across the hall from me – we were study buddies, and we hung out a couple of times. All my friends thought he liked me but he never asked me out or anything. Over the summer, one of my close friends interned with him, so I know what he was doing and he knows everything that happened to me. But we only talked, like, a couple of times over the phone.

Even though this semester we live in different areas, we still have one class together and we’ve been seeing each other over the weekends… and we made out multiple times. I haven’t told any of my girlfriends yet, because they would just tease us nonstop. One thing made me nervous is that he only comes to see me on weekends after he is slightly drunk. I don’t know if I should ask him where he thinks we are going or not. I don’t want to sound desperate, but I really don’t think this is a healthy relationship. Do you think he just wants to be FWB? What should I do?

Thanks.
Juli

Dear Juli,

Don’t take this the wrong way, but you can’t really ask where the relationship is going because there IS no relationship.

I’m gonna be blunt with you, girl: This guy’s not worth your time. I’m sure he’s a perfectly nice person, and I don’t think hes doing anything wrong. But I don’t think he’s particularly into you

But you already know this, honey. That’s why you wrote in. He only comes to see you on the weekends when he’s slightly drunk? Never a good sign.

If you want to keep making out with him on weekends while you look for someone else, that’s totally legit. That’s probably what he’s doing with you. But if you think something else is going to come from this–some actual relationship, for instance–well, then, I think you’re wasting your time. He’s just having fun making out with you. Because, hey, he thinks you’re hot. But he’s not interested in taking things any farther than that, so, if you want something more from him, I’d advise you to stop seeing him now before it gets any more painful.

Come on, Juli. Even you haven’t told your friends about it. You know what’s going on here. Which is to say, not much beyond making out buzzed. If you want something more, go find it from someone who wants to give it to you.

Hearts & Skulls,

Tuffy Luv