Comments on: Ask A Dude: Can I Call Him?

By: Guy

Guy — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 04:25:39 +0000

I believe its best to keep from the extremes. Too much texting can lead to repetitive question/answer texts day after day. Mix things up. Hang out in person if you're comfortable with that. This way you can read between the lines into body language, etc. Texting can lead to so many misunderstandings because much of what you say is not what you say so if you're getting to know someone they might not know you well enough to understand what you meant or sense your sarcasm. If things dont work out you'll be working on your interviewing skills for future jobs without even realizing it. Most of all just have fun and dont stress too much. Dating should be fun and not forced.

By: missmariemarie

missmariemarie — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 21:47:28 +0000

I enjoy my single celibate lifestyle. So many games not willing to play anymore. sheesh!

By: Kevin - The ex-playe

Kevin - The ex-playe — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 11:55:12 +0000

Personally Ive played every card out there when it comes to the "call back rule". Ive waited a day before, ive called the same night after a great connection at the bar and we both went home seperatly, and ive waited 3 days, hell 3 weeks before I called. But honestly, none of these rules apply. Currently im in a relationship with a girl who'm I had meet at a club back in march and texted back and forth for like a week. Then heard from her back in july randomly and hung out for like 45mins, and then after finally meet up with her back at the begining of september for a real *date*. Now we are full out in a relationship and things couldnt be better.

This just goes to show you that honestly these rules don't apply. It just comes down to the 2 individuals in the senario and the timing. There is absolutly nothing wrong with texting someone after exchanging numbers, if anything I would recommend you do message them with regards to something you were discussing when you meet. Or if you there was something outstanding that you remember, send them a message about that. Hope this helps

By: criolle

criolle — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 21:24:08 +0000

TWENTY . FIRST . CENTURY

By: Belle

Belle — Fri, 23 Oct 2009 00:06:29 +0000

Rules are stupid. Just do what you feel like. If you guys are going to work, these sorts of games won't matter. If you have to play games, it probably will equal a really back-and-forth luke-warm relationship. Unless you're dating a 17-year-old boy (or a 27-year-old that still acts like one – but who wants that…)

By: Darwin - New York Un

Darwin - New York Un — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 19:30:34 +0000

I don't know, people still really think stuff like the "3 day rule" are standards and might get creeped out when you catch them off guard and immediately call them the next day.

I'm just working off how people would respond and being safe is better than be too forward and sorry. Personally, the world would be so much easier if you could call immediately and things went jolly.

By: Darwin - New York University

Darwin - New York University — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 22:22:35 +0000

I’m not sure about the last part to only keep it “intimate.” Starting off immediately with a call can sometimes be too forward and playing phone tag is never fun. An easy option is just to send a simple text that says Hi with in a little inside joke thrown in.
We’re in an age where everyone texts, while some people don’t really enjoy dealing with being on the phone.

By: Mary

Mary — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 20:04:27 +0000

I disagree with Darwin. Keeping follow ups intimate will make sure you stick around in his head. And because we are in the age of texting/technology, hanging on to the old fashioned customs of calling and meeting up will clarify dating intentions. And if anything it'll throw them off and keep them on their toes.