My roommate has recently become obsessed with the new Weezer song and she’s constantly shouting, “Girl, If you’re wondering if I want you to, I want you to,
so make a move, (Make a move) ‘cos I ain’t got all night.”
This has led me to some contemplation on how hard it actually is to make a move on someone, and how annoying and awkward it can be while you’re waiting for them to make a move on you.
We’ve all been in way too many situations where we’ve been talking to a cute boy all night, but the party’s dying down and we can’t tell if he’s gonna pack up his things and head home (alone), or pucker up his lips and go in for the kiss (or, you know, put his hand on our butt…something!). And you know he’s feeling just as anxious, because he can’t tell if he should risk making the move too soon and scaring you off.
So you just sorta stand there…talking about cheese.
Of course, as Weezer exemplifies, this situation can easily be reversed. And I’m all for that. It’s time to stomp out the awkwardness of making/waiting for a move. It’s time to take matters into our own hands, and to take those matters with confidence and ease.
How can you let him/her know you’re ready?
Physical Contact. Touch his shoulder as you’re talking, or let yourself get pushed close to him in a crowded room. Taking advantage of any excuse to touch him will get those hormones pumping!
Privacy. Any thinly veiled excuse to leave the crowded party or bar (“I’d love a house tour! Which room is yours?”) should give off the hint that you’re ready to take it up a notch.
Where did my friends go? Losing your friends offers a great opportunity for him to offer to walk you home, and for you to invite him inside to “warm up.” Of course, make sure you have cab fare in case he doesn’t get the hint.
Tired of waiting? Tried all those things and homeboy still isn’t going in for the kill? Make the move yourself.
Just Kiss Him Already. If the tension is there, taking the plunge and just kissing him is the best way to get started. If he’s into it, you’ll be a hero. If you misread the situation and he has a girlfriend or something, well, at least you have a story to submit to CollegeCandy’s Morning After column.
Yeah, it will sting for a little while, but at least you tried. That’s more than you can say for most people!



Kelly's Secret Admirer says:
Thu, 22nd Oct 20095:03 pm
Kelly,
I think most of these techniques work on women as well as men, however, I am not 100% sure. Picking up the opposite sex is very important for some people. Especially those who love the opposite sex and sex itself. You seem to be quite the expert in this area, after all, you do write about it and give tremendous advice. Is there any chance you would be willing to get together and teach me a thing or two about making a move lol. I don’t bite, am cute, and quite friendly.
Kelly - Simmons College says:
Thu, 22nd Oct 20095:39 pm
Secret Admirer- You’re comments are always sweet, but I believe we live in different countries…
Allie says:
Thu, 22nd Oct 20096:22 pm
Whoa, that was a creepy comment bro. haha
Darwin - New York University says:
Thu, 22nd Oct 20097:27 pm
I think someone needs a bodyguard when she walks around campus now…
Kelly's Secret Admirer says:
Thu, 22nd Oct 20097:46 pm
Well actually Kelly I am moving to Chicago next August. However, that is a long time away and I was just kidding when asking to get together. Then again the compliments will keep coming because someone as cool and free spirited as you definitely deserves some!
Rachel says:
Sat, 24th Oct 20092:16 am
Just last weekend I went for the “just kiss him already” approach after a long time of being just friends/flirting/him not making a move. It worked unbelievably well. We are now together
so I recommend that based on personal experience!
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Fri, 30th Oct 20094:58 am
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fjones says:
Sat, 31st Oct 200910:39 am
If you’re going to spam a supposed hook up site, picking a name like “chronic wanker” not the brightest way to go. If you could actually hook up at that site, he’d do that instead of spending all his time wanking.
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