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Sexy Time: Movie Myths about Sex

james bondWe all know the movies don’t necessarily contain the most accurate depictions of actual life. Or do we?

Whether we realize it or not, we all pick up subtle things from movies that we expect to find in our actual lives. And while I’m willing to overlook some of the media’s follies (like the fact that people in any foreign country all speak English), some of their depictions of sex are just. so. wrong.

Sex requires a soundtrack.
Sure, some people like to have sex to music and watching couples do it to some big, romantic song in the movies makes us all think music will enhance our orgasms, too. But how many times have you set your iTunes to random and had the Spongebob theme song come on in the middle of your session? Awkward! Sometimes it’s best to leave the music off while you’re getting frisky (unless you’re trying to drown out the noise so your roommates don’t hear). It will still be just as good.

Couples always finish together.
Not only do women orgasm every time they have sex in movies, but they always do it at the exact same time as their partner. Anyone who’s ever had sex in the real world knows this couldn’t be further from the truth for most sexual encounters.

Women never walk around naked after sex.
I don’t know about you girls, but I have never, ever ripped a sheet off of a bed to cover myself when I need to walk around the morning after sex. Nor do I immediately dress myself in my boyfriend’s oversized, button-up shirt.

Sex makes babies, no matter what.
Of course, sex can lead to pregnancy. But the recent barrage of unplanned-pregnancy movies and TV shows (Knocked Up, Juno, Secret Life of the American Teenager) would make you think birth control had never been invented.

Losing your virginity is a really, really, really big deal.
If you’re a female TV character, chances are you spend at least a season deciding if, when, and with whom you lose your virginity. And when you finally do make the choice, you either A. hurt someone you love, B. get pregnant, or C. feel horribly insecure afterward. And if you’re in a slasher movie, your virginity was probably the only thing keeping you alive!

Only beautiful women have sex.
Or husbands, careers, educations, friends, or any type of life worth living, for that matter.

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    1. Marisa says:

      I won't lie; I've put on my boyfriend's button down shirt after sex, but only because I've seen it in movies and thought it'd be cute. Wrong. Really, you can only pull it off you're 5'0 or shorter, and the shirt actually covers your tushie like a dress. Otherwise it just looks ridiculous, like you forgot to put pants on.

    2. Lauren - University says:

      I love how in movies sex is always so easy and seamless. Am I the only one who experiences those weird farty sounds when two sweaty bodies collide? Or the awkwardness that comes with a change of positions?

    3. Mary- UofM says:

      And how is the woman's make-up is always flawless after hours of sex, their hair too. Damn, what I wouldn't give not to have a rat's nest of hair after some fun sex.

    4. Alice says:

      I put on my boyfriend's clothes if I'm walking around after sex! He lives with his family, so it would be awkward not too…And I love wearing his clothes.

      How about, you will 100% get pregnant if you the guy dies or leaves for a long time?

    5. Natalie says:

      I don't know about Spongebob, but my iTunes totally busted out with The Little Mermaid once. Genius Mix that wasn't.

    6. justthisguy says:

      Wrong,

      Every woman you have sex with are beautiful, its a byproduct of the activity, and if you are good, you can finish up at the right time, The shirt looks good, but the tie looks even better.

      As for the virginity, as a guy you spend more than a season trying to ….

      -J

    7. mollination says:

      I've always wanted to take the sheet and wrap it around me before I saunter around the kitchen for orange juice all sessy-like. Usually there's a big oaf spread-eagle lying across the top of the sheet though; hence making this smooth manuever a little difficult in real life.

    8. mollination says:

      Oh – And I think sex is much better with good music playing. I always have a burned cd in the player by my bed (I never listen to that radio/cd player, so i never need to change the disc) and then if I get lucky, I know I have a safe playlist right in my reach. I don't prefer quiet sex by any means.

      Just pick 13 songs that you can't go wrong with, so there's no need to worry.

      Crazy Bitch, Buckcherry to some more sultry R&B. Poifect.

    9. J says:

      "Losing your virginity is a really, really, really big deal."

      If this seems super wrong to you…maybe it shouldn't

    10. Jay says:

      Yeah… I don't wear my boyfriend's clothes after sex. We're the same height, so none of his clothes are particularly oversized.

      Oh, and I also love how they never have to use condoms in the movies. It's just wham, bam, thank you ma'am, no awkwardness at all.

    11. booboo says:

      What about how there are never any kids to interrupt, wanting a cup of water? That "never" happens in real life.

    12. Crusier says:

      Idk..If you ask me it's always one position in the movies and there's never any particually loud noises. The only movie with a sex scene that i found most realistic was Monsters Ball with Halle Berry. That scene seemed the most realistic to me, and as for the condomns? Hey its only a movie right. And I never did understand how it could seem realistic for the couple to just have sex when they feel the time is right because from what i know, it only happens spontaneously when you're drunk or when you've already planned it and you know its coming.

    13. Monte says:

      Losing your virginity isn't a realy big deal?

    14. Monte says:

      Sorry; really, really, really big deal?

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    16. Rauleigh says:

      Movies also never mention that anal sex is PAINFUL…

    17. Essie says:

      I have the done sheet thing. but it is more so because I don't want his roommates to seem me naked or in only my bra and panties.

    18. Raj says:

      Hey, booboo, g8, somebody is with me on this!!

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    20. Heather says:

      I agree with the author in that movies make losing ones virginity way too big a deal. Of course I thought it out, made sure I was ready, researched birth control methods, whole nine yards. But once I felt mentally ready and lost it I remember thinking there is a ton of hype around losing one's virginity. Sex, for women, is pretty uncomfortable the first time, and for some, it can be the worst sex they ever have (physically, not emotionally, speaking). The idea that sex is great the first time around is another lie present in the movies.

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    22. charity says:

      Yeah, and you can like go to his house after a romantic date and have sex, then wake up in the morning. All accomplished without having to brush your teeth or taking off your makeup. And still manage to look gorgeous. Don't you know it's really bad to leave your makeup on overnight?

    23. userasdf says:

      this was a pointless article. Might as well be called “why can’t they allow nudity, no plots, no soundtracks, and ugly ppl in more movies?”

      sounds like someone wants to watch more amateur porn..

      I’ll give you the couples finishing together thing.

    24. crazymike663 says:

      lol the spongebob thing was great who hasent had sex when spongebob came on yes the t.v. was on.. pregnant try the pull out method lol i only have 1 kid that i know of lol:) jj

    25. crazymike663 says:

      i say what about when a kid bursts in the room thank god i was under the sheets but we all know Hollywood is far fram real.. in about every movie they put out.. Requim 4 a dream watch that sadly thats 90% of are youths goals all in 1 movie and it has a great soundtrack:)

    26. Aiyc says:

      What 'bout the fact that sex is usually MESSY and "heavily scented"? These factors don't seem to exist in movies.

      BTW, losing one's virginity should be a big deal, especially for females. Isn't ANYTHING sacred anymore?

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    28. blue_sky says:

      i think if u r thinking so all of u should think in a good way

      if u want to be happy

      just read about islam

      thanks

    29. scenic says:

      lol, Rauleigh, you should take more time. it's not bad if you use a long while to warm up:)

    30. mj121 says:

      aiyc – wow, could you be ANY more sexist?

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    32. Teh commenter says:

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    33. CJ says:

      I agree with aiyc. You only lose you virginity once. It should not be something you do on a whim. It should be a super huge deal.

    34. ST says:

      I'm sorry but virginity is a huge deal. Especially to this day nations all over the world value it over human life. You only have one so it definitely means something

    35. Tamara says:

      Virginity is not a thing you have; at least, it doesn't have to be. Don't come to me with anatomy lessons: if there is something like virginity, is a social construction, and it affects women and men as well in different ways. Also, that think about being "sacred" (virginity, sex, your body, whatever): the concept of something being "sacred" is a religious one. For all of us atheists, agnostics or even some religions, it doesn't make any sense to use it to talk about life, sex or whatever. So what, every girl in a movie is christian? Ridiculous.

      Even withou being sacred having sex for the first time can be a huge deal for some: the point is, it doesn't have to be, as it's definitely not for many of us out there. I definitely gave it a lot of thought and managed to be prepared, but in the end, it sort of happened and it was OK (awkard and painful, but I felt good anyway, and I still feel good about it). So I get the author's point: the first time can be a huge deal for some, but it doesn't have to be for everybody.

    36. Lina says:

      The movies r serously fake. and losing ur virginity is a very big deal. U cant just lose ur virginity just like tat without thinking abt it!!! lol abt the spongebob theme song!

    37. Donald Clifton says:

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    38. Mariah says:

      Err… Losing your virginity isn't that big of a deal to some people. I understand that it is to certain cultures and religions, but to some people it's just one of those things.. Yeah, you only have one "virginity" … But there's a first for everything, and you only have a "virginity" for a lot of things..

    39. Ali says:

      ok.. number one. yes i have randomly wandered around after sex naked. reason: he'd seen it already hadnt he?

      number two: Before losing my virginity i was worried as anything because people made it into such a big deal, but after i had, nothing had changed. I was still me, id just experienced something new.

      number three:the advising no music? silly i think. I havn't personally had some background tunes, but I'd like to. Music can amplify emotions, so with the right music i believe it could be enjoyable during sex.

      The last thing, that i do have to agree upon is the finishing comments. When i was younger guys would often question me as to why i wasnt orgasming fifty thousand times during sex. Too many movies, not enough brain cells.

    40. daniel says:

      how about nobody ever turns on/off the lights in a room [unless it's a bedside lamp] and nobody ever says good bye when talking on the phone… everybody just hangs up.

    41. hannah26 says:

      losing my virginity wasnt a big thing at all… i didnt plan it or anything it just happened and i didnt mind at all… i dont even talk to the guy that i did it with anymore and i am in a great relationship with my fiancee who was the 2nd guy i ever had sex with and i think sex with him is way more important then my first time…

    42. Tanja says:

      #daniel

      if people just hangs up on you…. maybe they don't want to speak to you?… lol

      And to everyone else speaking about losing your viginity, well.. its a bit special the first time, but its not a really big deal.. its like all other sex, just hurts more…

    43. hadi says:

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    44. john says:

      interesting comments, movie sex is all too fake , but it gives clue to how its done .

    45. Nair Baburaj Narayan says:

      Can you avid the quistan! allways same and repeting

    46. hey guess what says:

      I think "virginity" is more of a state of mind than anything. the first time my friend had sex, she was raped, so she still thought of herself as a virgin, because she didn't count rape as actual sex. And don't use the physical part of "virginity" against me. I accidentally "popped my cherry" horseback riding long before i ever had sex.

    47. Spongebob is really funny and hilarious. somebody says that spongebob is gay, is that even true?'":

    48. Passing bi says:

      Whoever said sex is very messy and heavy scented…. needs to go see a doctor about that. Its never been that case with me.

    49. spacy says:

      funny arcticle, and i agree with that whole first time shit! My first time was a one night stand, but it was fun and i liked it, went totally natural, the guy was nice, no pain, and finito.

      its no big deal!

      Off course i know the sex is better with someone you love, but for a first time it was easy and nice.

      I don't think too much about it, it's all very natural i guess:)

    50. gabriel says:

      If there is love, none of these matter..

      and spongebob theme song would make you two more relaxed – course, if you loved each other.

    51. Henry says:

      If you ever want to see a very realistic movie with very realistic sex scenes (not porn or digusting) find the eighties classic Rita & Sue & Bob too. Is one of the most funniest movies too.

    52. Lily says:

      well, i'm 18 and i'm a virgin and i'm not religious but its definitely a big deal for me and for most people that i know who haven't done it or those who have, particuarly girls. so yeah, it is often a big deal.

    53. Zing says:

      "set your iTunes to random and had the Spongebob theme song"

      … please don't reproduce😉

    54. UrbanBee says:

      Don't know about anyone else here, but it cracks me up that so many TV shows seem to harbour the illusion that couples have sex every night, or every other night. Most of us are simply too tired after a long working day to care about nookie that much! Just a cuddle and a snooze please.

    55. mon says:

      its not about some priest telling you if its right or wrong it's about your partner respecting your decision.

    56. Corrine says:

      For some people losing your virginity is a very big deal! If your first time was traumatic and mentally scarring,that's kind of a big freaking deal.

    57. Kristiaan Johannes says:

      Loosing your virginity is only a big deal if you choose to make it a big deal. Usually people who are surrounded by others who think it should be a big deal, such as in a religious or conservative social context, will tend to think that it is.

      However, it seems that those who don't make a big deal about it and treat it as a new and learning experience, something to be experienced but not revered, tend to have better a much better time of it and get more out of sex throughout their lives.

      Why should your first time be any more special than any other time?

      In my own life, sex just keeps getting better and better and I tell you truthfully that the sex I have now is beyond everything I ever expected. Every time I have sex now is far more special than my first time.

      For most people, losing one's virginity is full of expectations, fears, and way too much thinking. It is almost guaranteed to be some of the worst sex you'll ever have. Those who are more experienced know that to really enjoy sex, you need to let go and do what feels right, not what you think is right.

      Think of it like the first time you ride a bike. that is a milestone in one's life, but you don't go making a big deal about it. the goal is not to get on the bike for the first time, but to learn over time how to ride. The first time is probably going to be pretty awkward, and it isn't until you can do it naturally that you really get to enjoy it for what it is. Also, you don't go and learn from someone else who also doesn't know. You go and find someone who knows what they are doing and can teach you.

      Losing one's virginity is a milestone in a person's maturation, granted. I can tell a virgin by their demeanour and the way they think, but it is merely that. a milestone, not a destination. You pass it and move on, the journey continues and the milestone is left behind.

      Some people look upon it as a loss of innocence, as though innocence is something special. well… take a quick look in your thesaurus and you will probably find the words: naivety, credulity, inexperience, gullibility, simplicity, unworldliness, guilelessness, greenness and ignorance listed after it. These are not qualities which I would want to hold on to.

      For all of you out there who listen to others to determine what is normal and right for sex, look at those who influence you and ask yourself, "do they have great sex?" "Would I ever have sex with that person or in that person's presence?" because the reality is that the only people who have any right to have an influence on your sex life are those who are a part of it.

      What is depicted in American movies is generally idealised and conservative, because that is the nature of the culture. You will find very different kind of sex in movies from other countries.

      1. dramas says:

        i wanna have sex wid this girl

    58. Julie says:

      "Couples always finish together.

      Not only do women orgasm every time they have sex in movies, but they always do it at the exact same time as their partner. Anyone who’s ever had sex in the real world knows this couldn’t be further from the truth for most sexual encounters."

      Actually, studies have shown that there IS a correlation between a partner attractiveness -more specifically: her partner's symmetry and typical or usual, average features, (look it up if you want) soooo…maybe young Hollywood actresses are just that much more matched with really, really hot guys hence why they would orgasm every time ahah. ^_^

    59. Julie says:

      Sorry, meant to add: 'and how likely she is to have an orgasm or not'.

      And also how likely they are to orgasm together -has something to do with making it more likely to conceive.

    60. Amanda says:

      I've put my MP3 player on random before and got some ridiculous songs come on. It was awkward, yet funny. I kept going.

    61. somedude says:

      Turning music on for sex seems silly to me. It's like blasting your stereo when you are driving a sports car. Enjoy every aspect of it and please all your senses.

    62. Pam says:

      I dont like music during sex, for me is so weird listening to the songs sometimes even if its the most romantic song in the universe.

      Is much more erotic to hear every single sound coming from both of you.

      And, hey i did once the cover up with the button up shirt and in my case paid off very well, my then boyfriend thought it was kind of hot seeing me in it because it barely cover my body, so maybe i dont know, sometimes it works

    63. Jobi says:

      virginity is only important to people who still have it.

    64. kami says:

      What strikes me about most hollywood movies and sex is that its so "clean", so held back. Its "beautiful" and not rough or instictal or animalistic or natural. Everyone has perfect hair and women have their perfect and even makeup on when they're just going to sleep. It always irritates me.

      and yeah..always orgasms and even together. No wonder there are so much preassures about sex in real life. How great its supposed to be. The ideal just doesnt hold in real life and as I hinted above I am not fond of that ideal, but still there it is.

      And the virginity. Its a big deal untill you had sex. its a big deal if you're preassured to have sex or if you had it and it was a really really bad experience.

      Otherwise…after you had it the first time you probably realize, like I did, that it wasnt such a big deal. It happened and now its over and there is no big change. Only your own knowledge of the fact that you had it remains and you can go on with your life and hopefully have more sex, better sex. Cause it gets better with practise, like everything else😉

    65. Maca says:

      I agree with everything "hey guess what" said. I am in my late 20s, I have never had sex, but I do not consider myself a virgin, just a person who hasn't had sex. It truly is a state of mind. If I normally look at sex scenes, see a guy and wonder what I'd do with him, flirt…that would also mean I could be a pole dancer, yet physically a virgin? Ridiculous. No person who's had serious thoughts about sex is a virgin.

      And wow, so many native speakers who can't spell. What kind of a word is "hasent", really? :p

    66. nk says:

      @maca

      You have never had sex but do not consider yourself a virgin? What are you then?

      Sorry, but you cant wish something away:P It has either happened, or it hasnt. Honestly all women have those thoughts, at all ages past puberty. They havent all had sex.

      You're in denial, straight up.

    67. Michella says:

      Virginity is a very difficult subject to handle. For me, my first time was nonconsensual, and I have not had sex since. Am I a virgin? Well, technically, no. But have I willingly given myself to someone? No. I've been asked many, many times whether I was a virgin or not, and it's always quite complicated to answer. I guess it just depends on what your definition of "virginity" is.

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    69. Sarah says:

      Well virginity for everyone varies. It isn't just a religious thing (especially not nowadays). It varies from woman to woman. For me it was all about comfort and I wanted to be sure I could handle any consequences that may result from it (aka pregnancy, but then again I am more paranoid than is normal). I also wanted to do it when I was ready and with someone I could trust. But other women I know are more carefree about it and there is nothing wrong with it. So in my opinion its all about what you feel is comfortable. If you want to wait to wait till your mentally and emotionally prepared (and though some of you may disagree, losing your virginity can be a very emotional event) then that's fine and if you want to be more spontaneous about it thats fine too. Its all about comfort, besides your virginity is more of a state of mind than a physical act.

    70. Erin says:

      @Maca

      "No person who's had serious thoughts about sex is a virgin."

      … what? Do you know what the word virgin means? Talk about 'native speakers'…

      If thinking about sex constituted losing you're virginity, we'd all be without it by 14.

    71. Amy says:

      Sure sex may not be a sacred thing in some religions, but it still is a super huge deal.

    72. Jeyssika says:

      lol at the comments.

      To 'hey guess what' – ' I accidentally “popped my cherry” horseback riding long before i ever had sex.' – Yeah, you're doing it wrong.

      But can I just say OF COURSE MOVIES DO ALL OF THAT! If you've had sex, imagine what it would be like watching it from the view of someone stood in the room, would you really want to watch that on tv? Chances are probably not…

      Of course they are going to idealise it, they do with pretty much every thing – Unless it's a British film or tv show…

    73. Jeyssika says:

      Also, just read the whole serious thoughts about sex makes you not a virgin thing lmao. You are born biologically a virign, look it up – it's not a state of mind it's a physical change.

      Also I didn't comment on this before but your virginity being a big thing truly depends on the person who's losing it. Individual differences happen with pretty much everything; so why argue over something that no one answer can be arrived at as someone else may disagree.

    74. Savage Parcel says:

      Well, that was probably the worst list I've ever read.

      Fuck.

    75. jessie says:

      "Sex makes babies, no matter what."

      blair didn't get pregnant when she lost her virginity to chuck in the back of his limo on gossip girl…

    76. Fi says:

      Hannah26, Spacy, and Kristiaan are all spot on. A virgin's first time is only important and angst filled if they choose to make it that way. My first time was spontaneous and sexy as hell and I had no regrets afterwards. As for dealing with the 'consequences', well, that's where condoms come in. It might have been my first time but I knew enough to demand that he use one.

      As for those whose first time wasn't their choice, I really am sorry for that. Finding a bedmate you can trust not to hurt you and to stop when you say so is the key to everything. I hope one day you find someone who deserves your faith and can show you all that sex can be.

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    78. bored_to_death says:

      Maybe women never cook naked, or do chores naked, but sure as hell they walk naked after sex! Every single woman that i slept with didn't have problem with walking around naked in front of me after sex!!! Only idiotic women don't walk around naked and feel the need to cover….well i've seen all the "good" parts 3min ago duhh, the part where we judge our beauty has passed, you can let go of your insecurities and just enjoy yourself!!!

      I really can't speak about virginity couse, i have tried to lose mine from age of 13 till age of 14! But if girl feels the need to do it for the first time with someone special…well that's hers choice and there's nothing we can do about it so we have to accept it! And yeah, in general i must say that women from US make much more fuss about virginity than European women!

      And yeah, sex is better without the music, only people with deep insecurities need music to cover sounds that they make!

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    80. Lei says:

      "virginity is only important to people who still have it."

      That's not true, it was never really important to me.

      I knew I was ready since I was about 13 so I felt that it happens when it happens and as long as it's with someone I like and I enjoyed it it'll be fine.

      I only had sex with the person I lost my virginity to one, but I'm fine with it.

      I have awesome sex with my boyfriend now so it doesn't really matter.

      Moral of the story is, it shouldn't be a massive deal to lose your virginity. You just need to be sure of it and educated. Your first experience doesn't really matter because it's not going to be amazing either way. It's more important to know you're ready and to enjoy having sex, rather than stressing about losing it.

      Losing your virginity isn't going to change you or your life drastically, given that you've taken the right precautions. It just means you'll be having and enjoying sex more.

      Also, sex is an amazing confidence booster:)

    81. Kirara says:

      FUCK YOU!

      virginity is a damn big deal especially in eastern countries.

      i don't know what the fuck is wrong with you westerners, but virginity is a damn big deal for us!

    82. Jurgen says:

      Well, you got one wrong, but perhaps you dont even realize it anymore.

      Nowadays sluts are all trying to imply that losing your virginity is not a big deal.

      But then I think there is no frame of reference anymore!

      I remember the day where they were two kind of girls, the ones you had fun with, and the ones you married. It seems that now they are all interested in being just one of those types😀

      And then you wonder why its all going donw the drain.

    83. myresearchguru says:

      what is it true???

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    85. Hazeleyes says:

      I'm seventeen almost eighteen and i'm still a virgin. I havent had sex because of my religion and i think it would be more speacal to wait for when your married. but now as i read and see things around me i am so nervous to even do it. why would someone want to have sex if it hurts? I'm so scared.Its not that guys dont like me. they totally do. But what if they only like me for my looks. ahhh life is so scary.. i guess i got to just wait for when the time comes…. :p

    86. Emily says:

      “Losing your virginity is a really, really, really big deal.”

      Um, to some people it actually is a big deal. I, personally, am not having sex until I'm married. I believe it's immoral not to.

    87. jill says:

      And the post-sex position in which the couple lies on their backs with the sheet artfully arranged to show the guy's chest but covering the girl's boobs.

      jill

      In Bed With Married Women
      http://inbedwithmarriedwomen.blogspot.com

    88. cantolina says:

      Hm, I dont know about the 'never finish together' one. Every time me and my husband have sex we come together, him finishing makes me come no matter what, of course, this was not the case with my ex, which elads me to one conclusion: most guys suck at it, or have a small one, oooor, most couples arent trully in love (it was my case, before). I think most women are under too much pressure and are so eager to finish they just don't, plus, you know, sex and women= slut in common culture so many girls are so sexually repressed and contained even if they try not to.

      I agree with most of the other points though, specially the last one, and then girls's self steem depends on how many boys jerk off to the thought of their body. there's so much more to it. I mean, everyone has sex, sluts and machos arent as impressive as society makes them be, we all have sex. I know tons of normal-looking people who other people ar ein love with anyway, and yes they want to have sex with them and, many awesome guys even despise playboy girls, why?? because they wouldnt want them to mother their babies, of course. It's all so weird when you think about it. Im not conservative, but a girl touching herself in a boys magazine, well, she's not special, anyone can do that reaally…

      Back to the last point with the beautiful girls being the only ones to get to bed in movies…how come they're shaved even after the apocalypse and things like that?? and in zombie movies they still make sure to put their make up on even at 3 am after not having taken a bath in days… yeaaaaaaaaah suuure.. sorry got carried away. just, been falling in love with the real world, real people. been thinking of how much i hate beauty magazines and all that, Im decently pretty and still those magazines got to make me feel ugly at some point in my 20's. hollywood, playboy and all those thing are really bad for society, honestly, in so many levels

    89. cantolina says:

      Hm, yeah, the virginity thing… I do believe it's not black or white. i mean… if you lose it to someone you trully love, well, then it's fine, it will be a wonderful experience, and, if he's the one you end up marrying, it's really cool. But it's not a rule… the rule is: not out of curiosity, boredom or pressure… just if you are truly in love (and so is he) and, it should be like that every time, not just the first time you go to bed. it should always be a beautiful experience. So, I dont think losing it is bad at all, just depends on how and why. it's not virginity as itself that matters, but how you lose it:)

      suddenly i wonder why i even posted at all , i dont like posting, oh well

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    91. Phil says:

      Me and my girlfriend would come at the same time alot.

      I hated it when i lost my virginity, first time having sex is always the worst and the hardest. I agree with this article so much. There isn't as much moaning as i thought there would be, i mean my girlfriend moans a little before she comes but nothing special. Haha, and a major sex turnoff is when your girlfriend's pussy starts making fart noises after you fuck her hard and pull out quickly.!

    92. contramundum says:

      @Kirara:

      Well, it just proves that we have different cultures and the importance of virginity is up to each one of us. If your people considered that I don't know… the first kiss is the most important episode in your life, then almost everything in your mind would revolve around the first kiss. But for us Westerns the first kiss, as the first sexual encounter might not be the end of the world, nor the beginning of it!

      I agree with most of what the list says.

      My first time was rather HILARIOUS. Now that I look back, the first time didn't change anything in me. I didn't become wiser, hotter, smarter, cooler, dirtier or a better person. I was still myself with one more life experience that would hopefully improve the next time. And it did. Prior to that, all my teens I was looking forward to losing my virginity and when it happened, it was BLAH. So much expectation for 5 minutes of laughter (just my case).

      I also think the pussy farts should be added to the list, as well as the idea that women are wearing the nicest underwear all the time, or how about girls being so flexible they don't have a problem adopting any position? Damn. Or the idea that every time the guy penetrates her, she's like OOOHHH MY GOOODDDDD. Come on. You need a lot, a lot of the in-and-out for an OOHH MY GOOODDD face/moan… except if you're doing godzilla or something.

    93. aish says:

      @kirara

      viriginity is a big deal more for induviduals…..im from india and i think virginity is overrated.

      its an induvidual perspective….i know lots of ppl who think the same

      u have a right to ur opinion but remember its an induviduals choice

    94. Doug says:

      What is it with America and 'virginity'? (lol) I guess it must be the religious influences. I'm glad I live in Europe 😉. You just appear to be so sexually 'hung up' over there. Mind you, I suppose it helps to explain the foreign policy. 😉

    95. Random Browser says:

      Losing your virginity is a big deal, you don't just go about sleeping with guys. In my country and my religion its morally wrong. And about changing positions is bed you've got to be really really carefull,but in movies they just go rolling on the bed. Ever try that and nearly have your arms broken, especially when the guy is on top. And about women never walking around naked is kinda true, i mean i'd feel really naked and its not like i have the hottest body i the world. What if your child runs in on you or someone trying to suprise you bursts in? But all the same having sex with the one special guy in the world is really worth it and you have each other always. And innoncence is NOT guilliblity by any means.

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    97. Acthrower says:

      I thought this was a relatively accurate article, but when I'm watching a movie, I want it to be fanciful, otherwise I'd

    98. Acthrower says:

      I thought this was a relatively accurate article, but when I'm watching a movie, I want it to be fanciful, otherwise I'd watch the Discovery Channel. On the topic of virginity, before i lost mine, it was something that my husband–then boyfriend–and I talked about a lot and decided to do together, and I still remember the night fondly, but i don't know that it was the most important thing I've ever done with my life. My husband and I finish together on a fairly regular basis, because we know what we're doing…

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    101. Katie says:

      As a proponent of waiting until marriage or at least until you're ready for the responsibility of having a child, I feel Hollywood is not very responsible when it comes to portraying sex in movies. They should at the very least make contraception more evident in these scenes so young boys and girls are more aware. It seems lately they've been adding sex as more of a "shock value" rather than to actually develop the characters. Hopefully they'll someday get the memo.

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