Ask A Dude: Am I Wasting My Time?

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Dear Dude,

So I met this guy. We hung out for about a week before he kissed me. It escalated from there and I ended up spending the night at his house. I didn’t sleep with him, but I did mess around with him. He was really sweet and in the morning he asked me what I thought we were and where I wanted this to go. I shrugged and asked him what he wanted. He said ” I don’t want to put a title on things yet. I’m going to see hot girls, and you’re going to see hot guys.” I told him that we could just let things figure themselves out.

The thing is, I’ve been the ‘booty call girl’ before and I always seem to get hurt. I don’t want to scare him off because I don’t want to rope him into a relationship at the moment, I just want to know that there is a chance it could turn to something more serious. Am I wasting my time on this, or should I let things play out?

Your advice is greatly appreciated!
–Confused Collegiate

Dear Confused Collegiate,

You are wasting your time. If he wanted you, it wouldn’t matter if there were other hot girls. Hell, it wouldn’t matter if Heidi Klum walked by.

But I think deep down you know this.
You can and will find someone better.

– Dude

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One Comment on "Ask A Dude: Am I Wasting My Time?"

  1. Darwin - New York University says:
    Wed, 4th Nov 20097:35 pm 

    Dropping a guy after a week or two… What did he ever do wrong? Seems like a lose/lose situation for him.
    He says he wants to take it somewhere, then he’s moving too fast because you two have only been hanging out and you simply stayed over at his place once.
    He says he doesn’t want to make it anything official yet, then he’s a player and you’re just a booty call.

    It’s so rough for guys out there…
    Play it by ear. It’s one thing if he starts ignoring you and doesn’t show any effort in seeing if it will go anywhere. It’s another if he does and puts in the time.

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