Comments on: The Doctor Is In: I’m Afraid Of Sex

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By: B25

B25 — Sat, 14 Apr 2012 15:12:59 +0000

This is a very helpful article!
I would ignore anyone who frowns on the advice about preparing yourself with a sex toy or masterbation- in situations such as these teaching yourself how to feel comfortable is far more important than having that 'perfect first time' where you 'give it all to him'.
There's no point in trying to give him something if you're stressing out about it because then it won't be fun for him or you.

One of the biggest problems I've had (and I am still a virgin, fighting a fear of sex) is that I'm not sure at all what I'm actually scared of!
The pain doesn't scare me much; I know that if I'm in the mood, I won't care about any pain. I'm not terribly worried about diseases or pregnancy as I'm smart enough to use protection and I'm not scared about doing it with someone "wrong" who'll leave me. I've got a pretty tough emotional skin. Oh and I'm also not scared of being unattractive or unfullfilling, as I know instinct will take care of that for me.
So, can anyone tell me- WHAT AM I SCARED OF???

By: skr

skr — Sun, 08 Apr 2012 05:57:22 +0000

I am afraid of sex because I think every woman is having HIV/ AIDS. How to overcome this fear?

By: Laura

Laura — Thu, 05 Apr 2012 10:50:48 +0000

This is really embarrasing for me I havebeen bullied nearly all my life and now im petrifide of meeting new.people and I am a virgin and im totaly scared of trying sex help

By: Kachi

Kachi — Sat, 24 Mar 2012 14:53:48 +0000

I have had sex before but now am scared of having one.this is because i feel that once i do i might not last long and i might ejaculate before 10minutes.so what do i do?

By: nadia

nadia — Tue, 06 Sep 2011 22:09:28 +0000

pathetic considering it comes from a doctor!!! so you suggest that se de-virgin herself on her own!!how awesome!!! for God sake!!!plus even the description makes me feel the pain,let along trying it!

By: missy renea

missy renea — Thu, 25 Aug 2011 19:41:05 +0000

Thanks, this is a great article!

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By: Laura

Laura — Sat, 21 Nov 2009 02:14:42 +0000

In my humble opinion/personal experience, for the vast majority of women, the “pain” of losing your virginity is highly exaggerated. I won’t deny that there are cases of women who have extremely narrow vaginas, or who produce less lubrication, but for the most part, as long as the woman is sufficiently aroused and relaxed, there isn’t much pain.

Personally, I didn’t feel any pain my first time, beyond a mildly burning sensation that’s actually pretty pleasurable, but considering that my partner was fairly well endowed, was met with a surprising burst of pain when I tried being on top for the first few weeks.

You just have to listen to your body. If something you’re doing is painful, communicate that to your partner, and figure out what you’re both doing wrong.