Comments on: The Doctor Is In: I’m Afraid Of Sex

By: nadia

nadia — Tue, 06 Sep 2011 22:09:28 +0000

pathetic considering it comes from a doctor!!! so you suggest that se de-virgin herself on her own!!how awesome!!! for God sake!!!plus even the description makes me feel the pain,let along trying it!

By: missy renea

missy renea — Thu, 25 Aug 2011 19:41:05 +0000

Thanks, this is a great article!

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By: Laura

Laura — Sat, 21 Nov 2009 02:14:42 +0000

In my humble opinion/personal experience, for the vast majority of women, the “pain” of losing your virginity is highly exaggerated. I won’t deny that there are cases of women who have extremely narrow vaginas, or who produce less lubrication, but for the most part, as long as the woman is sufficiently aroused and relaxed, there isn’t much pain.

Personally, I didn’t feel any pain my first time, beyond a mildly burning sensation that’s actually pretty pleasurable, but considering that my partner was fairly well endowed, was met with a surprising burst of pain when I tried being on top for the first few weeks.

You just have to listen to your body. If something you’re doing is painful, communicate that to your partner, and figure out what you’re both doing wrong.

By: G

Thu, 19 Nov 2009 23:04:08 +0000

Good tips, just in case… I don't plan on going all the way until after marriage (my own choice). I agree with Angie Marie, as long as you're doing it with the right person (responsible, cares about you as a person), and doing it for the right reason (love, not peer pressure)– I say, go for it.

By: Kelly - Simmons Coll

Kelly - Simmons Coll — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 20:34:32 +0000

Great article until I got to this line: "Visualize your vagina as a flower gently opening to receive the love you share with your partner."

Puke.

By: b

Sun, 15 Nov 2009 13:56:46 +0000

Kristen- contrary to what you believe, having sex before you're married doesn't make you a whore. And as for disgusting, I think you'd only have to read over your choice of vocabulary to realize who the disgusting one is.

By: Alisha

Alisha — Sat, 14 Nov 2009 23:55:22 +0000

I agree that noone should have sex until they are comfortable, etc., etc. but I also know what it is like to really just want to know how to prepare/what it will feel like, and NOBODY seems to have an answer to this. Much like before my first real kiss…"how do I do it?" was answered with "you will just know." Being comfortable with the person does not necessarily mean that the fear will immediately be gone, or that it won't be helpful to know what it will feel like/if it will hurt. I was fingered and used a dildo before the main event for this exact reason, and my first time still hurt a bit. Also, my first time was not with someone I loved, and while I do not regret that, I will say that now that I am completely in love the sex is not only better, it is incomparable to those times with someone I was not in love with. However, had I loved the person that I lost my virginity to, I think that I still would have been extremely nervous and curious. Props to CC for such a straightforward article. Yes girls, it will hurt, but no, you won't cry, or scream, or probably even bleed much, and once you get used to it and are with the right person, it will be amazing!

By: maria

maria — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 06:07:07 +0000

I completely agree with Angie. Don't do something you're not comfortable with just because everyone else is doing it.