Have a monogamous relationship

Have an open relationship

Do what you want meh to anyone else's view. Choose either that is right for you and your partner.

So very very simple.

Oh and don't go writing on the Internet for advice like this as you can see the prissy sex police or the perverts fight endlessly over which is better when the truth is it's up to you, your partner and not 6 billion internet users.

So why did you pick her? Totally inappropriate.

For relatively brief separations of no more than a year continued monogamy with temporary celibacy is probably least risky to the relationship. However the danger of undetected cheating is great. If undetected I think the danger of the relationship ending as a result of the girl cheating is much greater — because for most women, if she does find another regular sex partner who really does it for her, the chances of her feelings of bondedness and love for her new man, and consequently much less for her old one (which happens way more often in women than men with regular good sex and companionship) are great. Sure the guy could have the same thing happen but at the end of the day he's likely to make a rational choice of which women he prefers overall, all in, with feels of loyalty to the one he'd promised it to giving her a real edge. (Now if the original relationship had real problems and really he was out of the first girls league pretty much, the risk goes way up for the girl.) So celabacy brings a big risk of cheating, which is likely more damaging to the relationship than openness is, because of the breach of trust issues. Girls are much more likely to blame their cheating on deep problems in the relationship that they've just fully realized after the cheating fact as well, as a mechanism for not blaming themselves. Guys are used to blaming themselves for cheating; that the should and must is constantly hammered into guys' heads in our entertainment media culture but not into girls heads, where it was probably something wrong with the relationship because supposedly girls are far less inclined towards cheating. That dichotomy may be fading in college age etc. but only gradually.

Another solution is to officially break up, but remain best and genuinely in touch friends with benefits when you can visit each other, with a promise to give restarting the relationship a chance when you would be able to live in the same area.

Either break up or find a way to love him, even though you know he's laying pipe all over town lol.

Trust me. You'll be a lot happier with what you don't know!

I think you should put the kabosh (sp?) on this relationship. Your main issue isn't polyamory (open relationships)and jealousy…This is about not being able to make a long distance relationship work, bottom line.

The fact that you are using an open relationship to fulfill your physical needs is an indicator that the LDR is not working.

Sweetie, call it what it is…Over.