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Coupled. On Valentine’s Day
February 4, 2010 Posted in Relationships, Valentines Day
I have to be honest: I’ve always hated Valentine’s day. Mainly because for a good 90% of my life, the only thing I got on Valentine’s Day was a teddy bear and chocolates from my mom. While she meant well, it wasn’t exactly a self esteem booster in high school when all the other girls were getting roses in homeroom from their sweethearts.
Then of course, along came Matt and he swept me off my feet. Our first year together was the first Valentine’s Day that I had a boyfriend and I was curious as to what was going to happen. I still hated the holiday; why is it that we assign a single particular day to show our significant others that we love them? Shouldn’t that be an everyday thing? And am I the only one who thinks the alternative motive of this holiday is to shame single people into chocolate induced comas?
Anyways, Matt hates crowds and I wasn’t exactly jumping at the bit to be a stereotypical couple, so we spent our first Valentine’s Day in my dorm room with movies and snacks. It’s what we love to do, so why not do it on February 14th? I handmade Matt a card and then he completely upstaged me by giving me an expensive bracelet. It was beautiful (what girl wouldn’t want that?!), but it wasn’t the best part of the day. The important thing was that we were together and spending quality time together.
And while that day was pure Valentine’s perfection in my book, Matt did want to see me dressed up and all lady-like so he took me out for a little romantic dinner a week later on our own time, not the calendar’s!
We took the commercialism and stereotypes of my most dreaded holiday and turned them into something all our own. Something I’m actually really looking forward to this year. Once a total (bitter) hater, once I was coupled up I learned that Valentine’s Day isn’t something to fear, it’s something that can be really great. You just have to personalize it. I still think you can pick any day of the year to show your boyfriend that you love him, but it is pretty nice to have an extra reminder in the middle of winter.
Still, though, can we put an end to the cliche chocolates and roses?
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Roberto says:
Thu, 4th Feb 201012:13 pm
Nope sorry, tradition is KEY
Jenny says:
Thu, 4th Feb 20101:28 pm
My boyfriend and I have been together for over 3 years, and we've had a non-traditional Valentine's Day every year so far. Although I love to give gifts, I would prefer to do something fun with my boyfriend rather than receiving gifts from him. So, I usually buy a bunch of DVDs or some video games to add to our massive collection, and then, we spend Valentine's Day having a movie marathon or playing video games together. Also, candy is necessary.
Tamara says:
Thu, 4th Feb 20102:54 pm
I believe V-day is a much bigger deal in the US than it is here in South America; but still, I know many girls get gifts and dinners. However, my boyfriend and I don't really like comercial holidays; we like to exchange gifts and go out in random days, when we feel like it.
M says:
Thu, 4th Feb 20107:08 pm
I don't really see what's wrong with Valentine's Day (aside from the fact that it makes single people sad. I know, I've been there). All holidays involve a certain amount of tradition and, yes, commercialism. Should Thanksgiving be the only day when you give thanks? Should Martin Luther King Day be the only day we think about MLK's contributions to our society? Should Christmas be the only day when Christians celebrate their faith? Should Valentine's Day be the only day we tell our significant others that we love them?
No to all of the above. And, honestly, few people really only express gratitude and love and faith ONE day a year. It's just an extra-special day, that's all. As Jenny said above, you can make it your own.
Kelly says:
Thu, 4th Feb 20108:40 pm
There are a few days that have importance to me and the BF and Valentine's Day is not one of them. I'd much rather go out and celebrate one of those days that means more to us (April 31st means a lot, expect that there is no April 31st so we make do) than Valentine's day. We're planning on just eating some good food and watching a movie. And for our gift? We're going to adopt a kitten from the local animal shelter. Much better than any chocolate and roses filled day!
loveskeptic says:
Fri, 5th Feb 20105:32 am
V-Day is definately all about the woman, hence V for vagina. Men can celebrate steak and blowjob day a month later, so for Feb 14'th its all about pleasing and spoiling your woman with goodies. Not to say woman don't have a role on this day, because they should whip out their best lingerie and prance around like a princess, while their man seduces them. Ultimately, V-Day is about getting laid and looking sexy while you do it.
Casey says:
Sat, 6th Feb 20106:22 am
haha at loveskeptic! Love your interpretation!
and Jenny, that's exactly how my bf and I do it, and candy is definitely essential! lol
And sarabeth I was just like you I hated valentines day until my current boyfriend, but unlike you it wasn't because I was always single on V-day, quite the contrary, I ALWAYS had a boyfriend on Feb. 14th, but those boyfriends were all totally lame. In 7th grade my boyfriend gave me two teddy bears that he pulled out of his back pack, I was ecstatic cause they were my first valentines gifts from anyone besides my parents or friends, but then his friend informed me that he had 7 more in his bag to give to other girls.
In 8th grade my boyfriend spent the entire day avoiding me cause he didn't have a gift for me (It's not about the gift! I just wanted a damn KISS from my boyfriend on valentines day!) We had been dating longer than anyone else in our grade so everyone asked for the entire day what he got me, and I had to tell them that I hadn't even seen him all day. That sucked.
My next boyfriend didn't believe in Valentines day so for the entire 3 years we dated I never once saw him on Valentines day.