Paula says:
Fri, 5th Feb 201010:36 am 

This is actually the first time I've commented on this site and I read it pretty often. Just wanted to say I know exactly how you feel! A lot of my friends tell me I just need to "try getting wasted" they especially think I'm a freak since I don't smoke weed either. But hey, I know I'm still fun without getting drunk and and don't want to smoke because I like my lungs they way they are! The best part is I'm not even in college yet so thanks for writing this, I don't feel so weird any more.

Jenna says:
Fri, 5th Feb 201012:07 pm 

I totally agree! People look at you like you have to heads, if you say you don't drink. I just like remembering things I do compared to waking up confused. Also, sparkling wine is better than real wine. There I said it.

Vannah says:
Fri, 5th Feb 201012:19 pm 

I relate so much to this article, I almost feel like I could've written it! I definitely know how you feel.

eliz says:
Fri, 5th Feb 201012:49 pm 

think about all the money you must be saving!! (:

Christen says:
Fri, 5th Feb 20101:06 pm 

I find it really odd that people keep bugging you after you've said no once. At my university, many of my sorority sisters do not drink and go to fraternity parties all the time. (One has a health condition that keeps her from being able to and the other just doesn't like the taste) Most people ask if they want anything, and when they say no they let it go. A lot of guys will even offer them some of their mixer if they're drinking something besides beer. Maybe it's just the hardcore party lifestyle of your school, but you really aren't harassed for not drinking at mine.

bberg1010 says:
Fri, 5th Feb 20103:16 pm 

Posts like this are the reason I love this website. There are posts that all kinds of girls can relate to. Over summers and breaks I like partying, and freshman year I went to parties almost every weekend. But this past semester, I just kind of got tired of it. I only like being wasted every once and awhile, and don't like beer, so even when I do go out, I have to bring a mixed bottle of diet coke or something. So this semester, I just stopped, and a lot of my "friends" didn't understand that and now they are no longer my friend and my best friend/roommate switched dorms for spring semester without telling me. So believe me, I totally understand.

criolle johnny says:
Fri, 5th Feb 20104:24 pm 

I hear this! I quit drinking some time back. Now I'm the "designated driver" for every party, whether I want to be or not.

Nobody seems to consider that I might be having a good time, or really enjoying a conversation, or the music … or a lady I just met.

I get to drive some drunken imbecile home, listen to his/her stupidity all the way. By the time I get back the party is over.

I also have to get someone to escort if I have to drive a female home. Accusations of date rape are EVERYWHERE. She might have had a tryst in an upper room and wake up thinking I was the perp. Again, nobody thinks of that, just get the drunk out of the party.

Wonder what would happen if I decided to drink?

b says:
Fri, 5th Feb 20104:59 pm 

<—- chronic designated driver here too… I just don't care for alcohol… but it can be really aggrivating when everyone else is shitfaced and acting like they need a babysitter more than a DD.

Em says:
Fri, 5th Feb 20104:59 pm 

Thank you for this article. I think that if i sat down to write something like this, it would say exactly the same thing…the harassment, the disbelief from others, being looked at weird. What's worse is that I constantly am not included in things because I choose not to drink…ridiculous. It's nice to see that I'm not the only one.

Matt says:
Fri, 5th Feb 20105:19 pm 

I am always stuck being the DD beauase I simply don't like the taste of alcohol… it does suck though when the people you're out with end up needing more of a babysitter than a DD

Abby says:
Fri, 5th Feb 20106:02 pm 

I often find that my friends who drink are quick to call me "uptight" and "no fun" when I refuse a drink. However, refusing a drink is not rejecting a good time, just experiencing it from a different perspective. I don't need to be directed on how to have fun; I can do it on my own, thankyouverymuch. Cranberry OR vodka is my decision.

Thanks for helping me discover I am not the only one!

Dia says:
Fri, 5th Feb 20106:11 pm 

i feel weird when people say they want to see me drunk…

that never seemed right to me even though i do drink. i can have just as much fun not drinking. i dont drink as much as my friends who certified drunks and i have a friend who just doesn't drink at all saying "i love to DD"

you're not a freak for not drinking ,its just doesn't appeal to you, i have things i dont do that most college students do and im the out cast for it. Its good to see someone living their life

Jenny says:
Fri, 5th Feb 20106:50 pm 

I'm glad I'm not alone. I don't drink due to my chronic heartburn (I used to drink pretty often before it) and it really bugs me when people assume that me not drinking = me not being able to have a good time. So now, when people bug me about it, I discuss my chronic heartburn in full detail, and that usually shuts them up.

Besides, I always have a blast when I go out. I love to dance, so I tear up the dance floor until last call, and people tend to forget that I haven't had a single drink!

anna says:
Sat, 6th Feb 20105:19 am 

I used to be like this and now I started drinking though I wish I never had. Although, when i was being the sober one, I never realized the babysitter role that I had fallen into. Now that I no longer fill this role, people still expect me to, and get upset when I dont cater to all problems. Saying this, I still had fun without the alcohol, now I feel like I'm so tempted to drink everytime I go out.

Casey says:
Sat, 6th Feb 20106:07 am 

I don't drink very much anymore. The first time I got drunk (not my first time drinking) was in 10th grade and I didn't know my limit yet, I chugged an entire handle of Jager, an entire handle of Puerto Rican rum, and washed it down with a handle of Smirnoff twisted green apple (to this day I still can't stand anything green apple flavored) I don't remember a thing from that night, I had a week long hangover, and my friend informed me that I died that night, apparently my heart stopped beating and I stopped breathing for about a minute or two.

Since that experience I haven't been a big alcohol fan. I have been shitfaced since then, but after that I couldn't stomach the thought of alcohol for a couple years, and I still have to really be in the mood to drink in order to be able to stomach it (which is rarely)

I say good for you for having the confidence to be yourself and have fun without having to be under the influence of something, not many people can say that. The next time someone tries to give you shit about not drinking because you're "not having fun if you're not drinking" just tell them, "sorry, I'm comfortable enough with myself that I don't need the liquid courage" and maybe that will shut them up.

Beth says:
Sat, 6th Feb 20107:30 am 

THANK YOU. Haha nobody understands that being AROUND drunk people can loosen you up just as much as being drunk–it's so easy to have fun without it, I don't see why other people don't see that.

Ari says:
Sat, 6th Feb 20107:58 am 

I go to a huge party school, and here you just don't go to parties and stay sober. The type of people who stay sober do other things. I'm always at least slightly tipsy at a party, if I meet someone who even seems slightly sober I'll probably demand "how can you enjoy being sober! that really sucks! how can you know you don't like it if you haven't tried it, everything is better when you're drunk! let's get you shhhwasted!" It's ok to take a night off, especially when you drink all the other nights, but I can't imagine going to parties and never drinking.

You guys sound like nice people, and I feel bad for harassing people who don't drink when I come across them occasionally. I just don't know how to react, someone who never drinks just doesn't go to parties at my school, they don't belong and it doesn't make any sense to me. But I do intend to try being sober more often. I'm sick of feeling hung over all weekend every weekend.

Kate says:
Sat, 6th Feb 20108:25 am 

Wow, you sound just like me. It strikes me as particularly weird how if someone says that she doesn't drink for religious reasons everyone is totally cool with it, but if someone says that she doesn't like to drink because she simply dislikes the taste or the side effects or whatever, which is at least as rational a reason as not drinking due to religious beliefs, people will constantly bug her about it and act like she's nuts.

Trixxi says:
Sat, 6th Feb 20109:33 am 

Casey, I find it terribly hard to believe you drank three handles the first time you got drunk. You would be dead, especially if you chugged them. It drives me crazy when people over exaggerate, at least to that extent.

Alice says:
Sat, 6th Feb 20109:54 am 

I honestly wonder where my crowd of friends fit in this, because the groups mentioned on College Candy are so far removed from mine. I gave up drinking after a bad 09 New Years (slowing going back, very slowly) and no one objected, gave me a hard time. Maybe they might ask why, but that was the extent of it.

Lindy says:
Sat, 6th Feb 201010:59 am 

I really don't know what kind of people you hang out with, but it seems strange. I've never seen anyone pressure someone who turns down a drink. I do drink, but I have friends that don't and no one cares.

It might not be the same, but if someone asks me if I want a cigarette or to smoke pot and I say no, nobody ever says anything to me. In the group of friends I hang out with, everyone does their own thing and respects each other's ability to make their own decisions.

thehatingexpert says:
Sat, 6th Feb 201011:05 am 

http://thehatingexpert.wordpress.com/2010/01/13/a…

samantha says:
Sun, 7th Feb 20107:26 am 

i hate to be one of the pushy people, but i just think you should get drunk once. just once, so you can try it. and decently drunk, not just tipsy, and not too drunk either. my last ex didn't drink or smoke weed bc of religious reasons and i am the exact opposite- i like to go out and party and drink and he would hardly ever come out with me bc he would be uncomfortable around everyone while he was sober. drinking was never a problem with us though, because we both understood and respected the other person's choice to drink. before he met me, he got drunk only once with his friends and said that he had a lot of fun, but still would never drink again bc it was against his religion and his culture. i don't think you're ever going to get people to completely stop hassling you about drinking, and i know that must be super annoying, but i think if you try it once, you might like it. and if you still don't, at least you can tell everyone that you didn't just drink and didn't like the taste, but you actually got drunk and you really did not like it and don't want to do it again. just my 2 cents!

Rachel says:
Sun, 7th Feb 201010:42 am 

casey…. i dont think that is possible, pretty sure a handle of anything would kill someone, let alone 3.. and also, how do you know your heart stopped beating? did you go to the hospital? your friends probably should have called 911

RIKO says:
Sun, 7th Feb 201011:08 pm 

gross Samantha. just gross. what kind of advice is that, "get drunk just once"

Casey says:
Mon, 8th Feb 20108:46 am 

It is possible, and it did happen, no exaggeration. My friends mom was a nurse, if she hadn't been there I likely would be dead. And like I said, it was my first time getting drunk, not drinking, I had a really high tolerance for alcohol, probably because my parents allowed me to drink wine growing up.

rlh says:
Mon, 8th Feb 20103:13 pm 

No Casey, it is not possible.

One handle contains 60 oz. One shot is 1.5 oz, so there are 40 shots in one handle.

That means there are 120 shots in three handles.

Really, you had 120 shots?

There was a woman on Intervention last week who drank a half gallon of vodka a day for 8 years. There are 64oz in a half gallon. So, you're telling me, when you were 16 years old, you drank three times the amount a 40-something year old alcoholic drank in one day?

I put this information in a BAC calculator. Even if you had only 60 shots, half the amount you claim, over a period of 12 hours, and you weighed 130 pounds, your BAC would be 1.89%. Death occurs for 50% of people at .4%. 1.89% is not the kind of BAC you can just die for a few minutes and come back from…

Hmm, but maybe sipping some wine for a couple of years with your parents gave you some sort of immunity that night… and all the planets aligned while God descended from Heaven and said "Young Casey, I have chosen you. You will chug an entire 3 handles and have the highest BAC in the history of mankind. You will die for a few minutes, but your friend's mom (who's a nurse) will breathe life back into you so you can improve the lives of every College Candy reader with your wise, intelligent comments about your sex life and the cleavage you have in every shirt and the times you were raped by your friend's dad and that football player because of how hot you are. And all will be well."

Rachel says:
Mon, 8th Feb 20106:51 pm 

Samantha- You sound like one of the harassers the author complains about. That is HORRIBLE and DANGEROUS advice.

I love this article by the way. I have never drunk a drop of alcohol in my life, and I never intend to. My reason is that my family is full of alcoholics. I have seen firsthand what alcohol can do to a person and the people who love them. Yet, a shockingly high amount of people won't accept this as a valid reason for my choice not to drink.

wilma says:
Mon, 8th Feb 20107:27 pm 

thank you for your honesty and wisdom. I am a 46yr old alcoholic with 3 years sobriety. I live in a very social neighborhood in WPB just north of you. I know I probably seem superold but all the women in my hood are great beautiful women in their 30s and 40s. They all drink nearly every day. Because of facebook I see all the fun they are having. I am not included bc my not drinking makes them uncomfortable. I dont really blame them as being around alcohol for too long makes me uncomfortable. There was a superbowl party and I wasnt included so I was feeling sorry for myself. I googled..people dont like me because I am sober…and I found this site. It makes me feel better to know I am not alone. thx

Trixxi says:
Wed, 10th Feb 20104:27 am 

rlh, that literally just made me laugh.

Casey, you are lying. If your friends mother really had any common sense she would have taken you to the hospital. Did she revive you with a magic spell? You would have needed your stomach pumped and an IV drip. Nonetheless, it is impossible to drink that much. I have a high alcohol tolerance and if I drank a handle I would hope that a nurse would take me to the hospital. Drinking 3 handles doesn't make you cool, Casey, it makes you dead.

Casey says:
Wed, 10th Feb 201010:57 am 

Oh excuse me, let me reword this for all the hatefull college candy readers who obviously have nothing better to do with their time than to analyze posts on a blog and try to prove people wrong.but here goes, let me are how many accurate details I can remember from seven years ago. When I was 15 (seven years ago) I chugged liquor from three different handles to the point where my heart stopped beating and I stopped breathing,considering I was black out drunk I have no clue exactly how much alcohol I actually consumed just that I chugged from three different handles which were the ones I originally mentioned. Furthermore, my friends trashy alcoholic nurse mother was so drunk she didn't want to take me to the hospital and get arrested for giving alcohol to minors.

And alh, you just confused me with like 3 differnt readers, but good to know you take that much of an interest in my life. And yeah trixxi, I was so trying to be cool in my story about why I NO LONGER drink, right.

T says:
Wed, 10th Feb 20101:49 pm 

@samantha – that's great for you that being drunk is just a rush and fun time, but not everyone needs to get drunk to escape reality. Just be respectful of someone else without pushing it on them and everyone will be happy.

rachel says:
Wed, 10th Feb 20101:53 pm 

casey pretty sure i have seen you meticulously analyze every single college candy post i have ever read, so maybe its not everyone else who has nothing better to do with their time…

nerdygirlatw says:
Wed, 10th Feb 20105:27 pm 

After reading this I couldn't resist the urge to google…(And this is my first comment btw)

Casey says:

Tue, 26th Jan 201012:02 pm

But stereotypes and generalizations aren’t necessarily a bad thing, as long as it’s not something horribly derogatory. I don’t think too many black people would be offended by “black people like watermelon”, and just because it’s a stereotype or generalization doesn’t mean it doesn’t ring true for anyone else. Of course more than black people like watermelon, and more than just Asians are good at math. But a lot of stereotypes about different races come from their cultures or the fact that they are raised differently. But I think most people realize that they don’t encompass the entire gender/ race, and the people who don’t, well they’re probably hopeless anyway.

Maybe I laughed because I go to an incredibly PC school…?

nerdygirlatw says:
Wed, 10th Feb 20105:29 pm 

Oh and at the risk of being one of those annoying bloggers…

Please check out: http://www.nerdygirlatw.com (I promise it's made one or two people laugh aloud)

Ellie says:
Wed, 10th Feb 20107:18 pm 

lol… I think Casey just got her ass served to her on a silver platter

rlh says:
Wed, 10th Feb 20109:05 pm 

Ok, that makes more sense than the “I chugged an entire handle of Jager, an entire handle of Puerto Rican rum, and washed it down with a handle of Smirnoff twisted green apple.” I would have believed you if you had said “some” instead of “an entire handle.” I’d glad we clarified this.

And no, I did not confuse you with 3 different readers, you know why? Because on every College Candy post I read, I scroll down to the comments (which are usually the best part of any blog) and, without fail, what do I see? At least one comment from the only name in red: Casey.

Once in a while people will make snide remarks about how you comment on every post, and then you reply with something like, “Why do you concern yourselves with what I do?” Which I agree with; why should anyone care how often you comment?

So who are you to accuse me of being one of “the hatefull college candy readers who obviously have nothing better to do with their time than to analyze posts on a blog and try to prove people wrong”? You are using the exact same argument against me that you have to defend yourself from. You love proving people wrong. You like to read the articles and comment, and you often engage in longwinded arguments and discussions with other commenters, which, I agree, is the point of commenting. It may make you SEEM like you have a lot of time. But you know what? I can’t judge, they can’t judge, and even you can’t judge what others do with their free time.

As for those “like 3 different readers” – I know for a fact that they are you, the one and only Casey. I have been reading this site for over a year and I actually enjoy reading your comments; they are entertaining and usually contribute a different perspective to most of the subjects discussed on here. That is why your (sometimes ridiculous) comments stick out in my mind, such as:

From “Hofstra Student Lies About Being Raped
Casey says:
Thu, 17th Sep 20092:04 pm
I was raped by my, then, boyfriend when I was 14, and sexually molested by his father. The first time my boyfriend raped me he stabbed me (I still have the scar) and told me if I told anyone he would do worse. When I finally went to the authorities they told me there was nothing they could do since I didn’t have any proof and too many girls make up stories about being raped.

From “He Said/She Said: Pretty People Get a Free Pass
Casey says:
Thu, 9th Apr 200912:56 pm
Jess, I completely understand what you’re saying. I was raped when I was 13 and I have been sexually molested 5 times (once by my 7th grade science teacher!) and I am sexually harassed nearly every week. (I have breasts that ALWAYS seem to have cleavage, no matter what bra I wear), so if I wear anything remotely low cut I get comments left and right, and it’s definitely NOT the kind of attention I want. I work at abercrombie and fitch and we have a strict “dress code” The shirts I am supposed to wear (and we’re not allowed to layer anymore) are called “deep V tee’s” Abercrombie girls aren’t supposed to have boobs (that’s why those little built in bra thingies never fit anyone!) So I always get comments from by boss’s about my boobs. So yeah, it’s definitely not always a good thing to be a “pretty person”.

Casey says:
Mon, 13th Apr 200911:46 pm
Actually, sometimes you can blame getting raped on your looks. It’s true that MOST rapes are the result of a guy wanting to feel “empowered” but that’s not the case with all rapes. Sometimes (like my case) the guy just gets carried away. I was 13, he was a horny 14 year old boy, he also happened to be my boyfriend (not to mention one of the 5 times I have been sexually molested was by his pedophile father who cheated on his wife with 16 year old girls. We would walk in on him fucking some 16 year old tramp on the couch, constantly) Sometimes guys let their dicks do the thinking, and don’t know how to stop once they start, but I’m almost positive it wasn’t a “power trip” for him.

I guess I threw in the football player part, but these are all you, are they not?
Don’t flatter yourself, it’s not that I have “that much of an interest in your life,” it’s that you repeatedly advertise your entire life story, and when the same stories keep popping up with the same name, sorry if I can’t help but start remembering the name. Believe me, I wish I didn’t.

Thanks go to Google. “College candy casey” gets you plenty of results.

Moral of the day: Don’t exaggerate.

Casey says:
Thu, 11th Feb 20109:49 am 

Well it was just a personal experience I had, the point wasn't that I drank three entire handles, the point was that I drank enough to give me alcohol poisoning which I almost didn't survive from and at that point I don't think it matters if I drank three bottles or just one.

Considering it was just a personal experience I didn't think anyone would care about it enough to look that far into it that I needed to be technical, I mean it's not like it was a controversial post, or anything offensive, or even something scientific that I needed to be factual about, it was just a personal experience that I was sharing, and wasn't even the main point of my post. I'm still a bit baffled by the fact that something as stupid as that was made into such a big deal, but I guess I shouldn't be since this is College Candy and all of my comments are made into a big deal.

But I'm wondering why you chose to exemplify those comments out of all my comments on college candy? I was thinking of that same post that you took some of those comments from and remembered the football player story, and another girl talking about her cleavage, so I thought you had me confused with those girls, the other one I knew was me.

heins says:
Fri, 12th Feb 20107:16 am 

that's pretty much why i don't go to partys anymore.

Kristin-X says:
Fri, 12th Feb 201010:47 am 

I am definitely agreeing that miss Casey got her ass served to her on a silver platter. Ouch!

Fizzyfroglegs says:
Thu, 27th May 201012:38 am 

My first post here. I stumbled on this site randomly from a comic strip and never actually finished college…though I am only 24 and my friends are still in or just out of college….not that any of you care so I'll move on now.

I've never had a single drink of alcohol. I know that I wouldn't like beer (my boyfriend drinks it and it not only reeks but makes his lips taste bad…ych), but for all I know I might like how other alcohols tasted – I just don't care.

I've seen people drunk, I've heard more than enough horror stories and I just do not see the point of drinking at all. I can have just as much fun sober as my friends do drinking (until it comes time to drive them home…). It just never appealed to me. I'll stick with my soda and my no alcohol added orange juice. Yum.

No matter how often people tell me to "not knock it till you've tried it," or how often my friends tell me I'd love this one drink they know of or how much fun it can be to just get a little buzz, I'm just not going to. Sure every once in awhile it's tempting, and while I have absolutely no problem whatsoever with other people enjoying an occasional (note I said "occasional") drink, it's not something I'm interested in experiencing myself.

Thanks, but no thanks.