Does Supply and Demand Apply to College Dating?
Not only does college leave me stumped in my latest lecture, the daily grind leaves me scratching my head as well. Especially when it comes to my questionable relationships with men boys. Countless hours spent over-analyzing his latest text, the way he touched my arm in the bar, and how many days it took him to finally pitch me a Facebook message… It’s exhausting.
So who’s to blame for the late night ponderings?
Well, according to a recent article in the New York Times, it seems the culprit is me. Well, me as a lady, at least. Alex Williams, the author, argues that the real problem with dating in college comes from the fact that there are more girls on campus than guys and the reason men act the way they do in college is because (in most cases) there are less of them and they can get away with it. The article even suggests that, because of the the general laws of supply and demand, it is the women who have to assert themselves romantically or they will be left alone on Valentines Day to “stare down George Clooney movie over a half empty pizza box.” Um, ouch.
In a situation where women outnumber men, the article states, “men have all the power to control the intensity of sexual and romantic relationships.” Therefore, if they do not get what they are looking for with one woman, it is easy for them to move on to the next. A woman, however, doesn’t have that luxury since her pool of potential suitors is much smaller.
Does this lopsided population gap in college really describe the backwards dating behavior?
Maybe I am just bitter because Valentines Day is creepin’ up on me like ‘The Situation’ at Karma, but I’m not so sure. I don’t know about you, but I never walk around my campus thinking, “Why are there so many more girls on this campus than guys?!” I’m usually walking around pleading, “non-losers, please stand up and wave that button-down-clad arm around.” The issue in college is not that girls outnumber guys, it’s that most of the guys out there are living up to the college ideal set out by their douchey frat brother ancestors.
College is about hooking up, adding to “your list”, and being a dude. And that wouldn’t change regardless of how many girls were out there.
I mean, look at Ivy League schools. Studies say the population there is pretty equal and I’m willing to bet any woman at Yale will agree: there are a lot of d-bags out there. And what about the real world? The ratio of guys-to-girls out there is probably more even than on a college campus and, according to our very single editor, girls still deal with the same jerks, same overanalyzing and the same heartache out there. (Editor’s Note: True story. Sigh.)
Ok, don’t get me wrong, I understand that there are good men out there, but I’m not going to begin to blame a population inequity on the reason why I haven’t quite found mine yet.
So what do you think? Do men really have more social power because there are less of them? Or are the rules of the dating scene equally established among both parties?