Would You Tell Your BFF That She’s FAT?
Best friends. Waiting home for you with open arms when you take that first walk-of-shame (or hip to hip, if you’re in the good fight together). Your shoulder to cry on, owner of every secret known to your embarrassing character. A best friend is there for you when you need to decode that late night text from your crush. A best friend is there for you when all you want to do on a Friday night is veg out and discuss the important things… like Octo-mom. A best friend will accompany you on the dance floor and be honest if you’re ‘shopping cart’ move is outdated.
And a BFF is there for you to tell you you’re fat?
OK, let me put down my Caramello Bar, and let’s figure this out. A recent survey of 3,000 women revealed that one in five women secretly think her best friend is fat but won’t dare share this information with her. The study also suggested that the truth was a big “no no” because 1 in 5 women ended the relationship post dishing the info. Now, this seems a little extreme. You mean to tell me relationships end because your BFF tells you to put down the bread stick?
On the surface, as natural as being there for me to watch trashy reality TV, I would want my BFF to be there to tell me the truth about my weight (especially after sifting through my freshman year Facebook album). Double chins and Smirnoff do not go well together and maybe I need a little outside perspective (sans beer goggles) to see that. Best friends are supposed to be honest with one another and if she can’t tell me the truth about my ever growing muffin top, who can?
But on the other hand, I would be pissed off, hurt and embarrassed. Maybe, when I attempted to squeeze into all 12 pairs of my jeans with no success, I already realized that. I don’t need someone else to point it out to me and make me feel worse. And maybe I feel good about what I’m wearing and my Beyonce curves; who is she to tell me the cupcake doesn’t add into that happy equation?
I guess I am contradicting myself here, because as much as I want someone (especially my best friend) telling me to lay off the Sun Chips, I want them to lay off my weight issues. Those issues are mine to control and while I’d like my BFFAEAEAE to be honest with me, there is such a thing as too honest.
What do you think?
Is there an unspoken pact in a friendship to bolster each other and leave the mirror and a scale to do the dirty work? Do you want your friend to lie to you, or is it your friend’s duty to tell you the truth?