Single. And Cynical

February 19, 2010 Posted in Relationships

This has been a rough month. On top of approaching midterms, stress over summer internship plans, and the most awful Political Science professor known to mankind (he legitimately looks like a cartoon character, has the intelligence of an action figure, and wears his cell phone around his neck on a rope…), it seems like half of my school has recently been broken up with. Yes, apparently Break Up Season has officially begun, and as a result four of my best girlfriends are in varying degrees of ending relationships!

Since we returned from winter break, I have been in red alert nurturing mode, making sure that chocolate, ice cream, and Sex in the City episodes are all abundant for the initial mourning process for my girls. My phone, which usually I can never even find, is on uber loud at all hours so I can be there for the melt-downs at all times. When the grieving stage has passed, I’ve been there to make sure that the random rebound hook-ups (inspired by one too many whiskey sours) don’t turn into even bigger mistakes.

I have absolutely no problem taking care of my friends, but seeing their raw pain after a break up is heart wrenching for me. It makes me flash back to how upset I was when I broke up with the boy I dated for three years. I had never understood before why some people became so upset over a break up. Then it happened to me, and I collapsed. I was a sh*tshow (and not in the fun, had one too many cocktails kind of way…) for way longer than I’d care to admit, and sometimes I still don’t know how I survived that. I have the best friends in the world; otherwise I would’ve long gone insane.

Seeing so many good friends upset over some a**hole move a boy pulled makes me not want to ever talk any male ever again, let alone date one. I’m not usually the cynical, bitter type, but I do not ever want to be in a position to be hurt like that again.

You know how people say that it is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all? Well, the mood I am in tonight makes me want to punch those people. Because when you’ve never fallen for a guy, you don’t know what you’re missing out on. Now I look back on that ignorance as bliss.

And that’s all I have to say about that. It’s time for this (temporarily cynical and bitter) single girl to put another upset, drunk, newly single friend to bed.

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Lindsay says:
Fri, 19th Feb 201012:14 pm

Heh. I'm at the point where I wish I'd never fallen for my sorta-almost-but-not-quite-ex-complicated boy of over a year. Shits rough dude.

Netti says:
Fri, 19th Feb 20101:49 pm

Just broke up with my boyfriend today too. He was an ass and I should have broken up with him months ago.

thehatingexpert says:
Fri, 19th Feb 20104:56 pm

http://thehatingexpert.wordpress.com/2010/02/09/d…

Karen says:
Sat, 20th Feb 20107:05 am

Lol. I go to Loyola too, and one of my friends just broke up with her boyfriend not too long ago. Another one is planning to break up with hers soon. Tis the season, I guess.

Beth says:
Sat, 20th Feb 20108:37 am

I am in the SAME BOAT. Me, my sister, and my two best friends all got dumped within a month. I have never been so bitter towards men.

jackie :) says:
Mon, 22nd Feb 20108:24 am

If it doesn't work out (he's a jerk, cheated, whatever), take time for yourself and heal. But make sure you don't write off every male on the planet. Because once the cynical part falls off the single part, it can get pretty lonely.

Triple T says:
Mon, 22nd Feb 20108:57 am

God men are such D-bags. Their only purpose in life is to lure women into emotional relationships so they can crush them down the road. I know that's the only thing that gets me out of bed in the morning.

Krystyna says:
Mon, 22nd Feb 20101:12 pm

Guys get such a reputation for all being assholes, but honestly? Girls can break hearts just as easily. I've seen more than one of my guy friends destroyed by breakups. And I think the reason that guys get such a reputation for being assholes is that girls only date the ones that are, because they mistake their douchebaggery for confidence. There are plenty of nice guys out there, you're just not dating them

ali says:
Thu, 25th Feb 201011:35 am

hi my name is ali

I want to meet a girl who will not break my heart

please

I know i do not seem like a nice one

but I just want to know a one good girl and be with her fo aver

I am syrian and I live in damascus

my e-mail is: des1d2@gotmail.com

and Iam styding english literature in the university

Robert says:
Sat, 27th Feb 20108:34 pm

Uhhh what the hell? I am a wonderful single guy, I'm not an asshole at all, but all I see is girls dating douchebags. Such is life. I don't know why girls are attracted to those kinds of guys. There are nice guys out there. I'm one of them.

canali says:
Sat, 6th Mar 20106:16 am

Women who write guys off as assholes are themselves mere stupid bitches.

Why the gender wars? Women have no exclusive rights to a broken heart…just as many men hurt as do women from love gone wrong…let's be a bit kinder to one another ok.

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