Imovedoutofmymomsbas says:
Sat, 20th Feb 201010:49 am 

so you don't like creepers but complain when you find a too nice guy, what's wrong with a nice guy?

anon says:
Sat, 20th Feb 201010:59 am 

stop looking at bars!

lina says:
Sat, 20th Feb 201011:52 am 

I think u should stop looking at bars cause tats where most of the weirdos go.ur prince charming will come 1 day but probably not when u expect it.

Lina says:
Sat, 20th Feb 201011:54 am 

u should stop looking at bars for your prince charming!!!like tats where alot of weirdos go. be on the look out somewhere else. I mean seriously!!!

Timothy says:
Sat, 20th Feb 201012:35 pm 

You might also have an unreasonably high mix of expectations. Finding someone who is funny, passionate, driven, cute, and with well-defined arm muscles might be a huge achievement.

That isn't to say you won't find someone who has all of those qualities, but I think you might want to remember that the more specific you get the harder it is to fulfill the requirements.

Elizabeth says:
Sat, 20th Feb 20102:38 pm 

Ask yourself this question:

What does the guy I want, want in a girl?

You may be unknowingly "marketing" yourself to the wrong group of guys.

Also, don't go into a bar expecting to find true love or meet Mr. Perfect. That's the equivalent of a vegetarian wandering into a butcher shop with the intention of buying tofu. Bars are sexually-charged, typically inebriated environments. They're conducive to finding someone cute for the night.

thehatingexpert says:
Sat, 20th Feb 20102:50 pm 

http://thehatingexpert.wordpress.com/2010/02/09/d…

Rachel says:
Sat, 20th Feb 20104:11 pm 

haha. i dont look for boys on purpose in bars, but your story hits the deja vu nerve x2343

Lindsay says:
Sat, 20th Feb 20104:42 pm 

try giving the "too-nice guys" a chance. they might surprise you.

Dana says:
Sun, 21st Feb 20105:24 am 

Trust me I was in your position a week ago and then i met a great guy through a friend. I have a lot of guy friends which i use to think was a bad thing but then one day i woke up and realized i should scope out their guys friends. Fast forward to a party a little over a week ago and I met a great guy (with awesome arm muscles btw) who I connected with on such a deep level it is kinda scaring me how close we are to boyfriend and girlfriend now.

Unless people are constantly telling you your standards are too high I tell you do not lower your standards. You will end up in a crap relationship that you won't be truly happy with.

Finding the right guy is about putting yourself out there, lowering every single barrier you have put up and being happy with yourself…but it's also about pure LUCK! It has to be the right time and the right situation and it sucks but when you find it you'll be really happy you didn't waste your time on those creeps stalking you at the bar!!!!! Hang in there!!!!!

Madison says:
Sun, 21st Feb 20105:25 am 

I hear you 100% I always feel like there is some creeper/stalker magnet inside of me or something and I get what you mean about "too-nice" guys. Too nice usually = clingy or annoying after a while. And ignore people telling you not to look in bars. We're in college. Look in bars, frat houses, the library, and everywhere else that will be unacceptable as soon as you get that shiny diploma!

Guy says:
Sun, 21st Feb 20105:47 am 

From reading your article its clear the problem is you. You are too picky. You need to get over yourself and give more people a chance. With a sample size that large you are the only common denominator.

Nina says:
Sun, 21st Feb 20105:56 am 

I met my boyfriend at a bar… it was a college bar, so most of the guys there went to my school, and I knew one of his friends (though his friend isn't the one who introduced us, he introduced himself), so you CAN meet someone in a bar, it just seems to depend more on luck if you meet that way. I agree with what some of the other people have said, you can't go looking for him… I've always met creepers when I've been looking for a boyfriend, and then when I stop looking is when I usually meet someone good. Just be patient I know that's ridiculously frustrating.

Brittany - Universit says:
Sun, 21st Feb 20107:20 am 

Guy: Never can be too picky.

A Different Guy says:
Sun, 21st Feb 20102:50 pm 

Brittany: Motto of the perpetually single.

My wife could have found plenty of things to nitpick about me. And she'd still be single, instead of having a relationship she's extremely happy with.

Relationships are work, and vehicles for self-betterment for all involved.

"Never can be too picky" is code for "I don't want to do all that work. I want him to come "perfect". But I don't want *my* flaws nitpicked."

It's an incredibly immature mindset.

Brittany - Universit says:
Sun, 21st Feb 20103:35 pm 

Glad you've found someone

syd says:
Sun, 21st Feb 20107:13 pm 

Everyone above may be right, you MIGHT be too picky.

Also, it may be that (sadly) the good guys don't NEED to go hitting on girls at bars. The losers never get much so they have to try twice as hard and meet twice as many girls to get half of the reactions they want.

What people said about friends is right, though. Going out and looking for prince charming never works. The guys who seem like prince charming often aren't, and the ones who are might do it in secret…..and if you get to know your guy friends, not only might they be 'the one,' they also will help you understand men more.

jackie :) says:
Mon, 22nd Feb 20108:19 am 

I agree stop looking in bars. And stop looking, just meet people and have fun. I had the same issue for a while, it wasn't until i stopped looking that the creeps stopped bugging and a good guy found me.

Becky says:
Tue, 23rd Feb 201011:42 am 

Something that you might want to take a look at is your own self-esteem…and that goes for anyone! I know that for years I dated guys that I liked but I wasn't crazy about and to be honest, always felt I was a little too good for. It wasn't until I solved some personal issues (well maybe not solved, but worked on definitely) that I was having with self-worth that I realized I deserved that guy I really liked.

From there it meant that the guys I wasn't so into, I didn't feel guilty turning them down and the guys I thought previously were too good for me I went for! Do you think that maybe you think the nice guys are only nice because they like you when you think no one else better will?

Also, about those nice guys, sometimes you have to give them a few dates just to lose the nerves and show you who they really are, as someone who's now very happily dating a nice guy I'm glad I gave him more than one chance. That being said though…if it's not working for you then it's just not working for you, leave him and move on.

Timothy says:
Tue, 23rd Feb 201012:12 pm 

Brittany, you have a bad attitude. If you really believe "never can be too picky" then it is obvious to those around you. At that point, decent guys aren't interested because those same decent guys can find girls who are more interesting, ambitious, better looking, come from a better family, etc., etc. just like you. It is called karma, sweetheart.

Two can play that game. Get over yourself.

criolle johnny says:
Thu, 25th Feb 20103:41 pm 

If you're not finding good guys, you're in the wrong place.

Why?

The Campus Diva says:
Fri, 26th Feb 20109:57 am 

I don't know exactly how to find the good guys, but I can tell you how to speak guy language and tell you what they really mean when they say…

http://www.thecampussocialite.com/?p=10623

Eric says:
Sat, 27th Feb 20105:36 pm 

A word of unsolicited advice, If you are looking for Mr. Right, then definitely hanging out at the bar to find that person will do you no good. Most of the guys in bars are there just to score with chicks, you know, the type who is not really sincere and just there for the thrills and just wants to get in your pants and leave you after some time, usually in a matter of days to a few weeks until he sees another potential victim in another bar or the same bar that you first met. I suggest you try to look around in other places that are legit so to speak, off campus or on campus. Do not set standards that are too high and always aim for a guy who falls in the "just right" category because there is no such thing as a perfect guy.

bob says:
Fri, 5th Mar 20109:40 pm 

is that la vec block?

Connor says:
Fri, 19th Mar 20106:10 pm 

My parents met at a bar and have been married like 30 years? You can meet the love of your life at a bar

richard ludwig says:
Sat, 20th Mar 201010:15 am 

try going out in a miniskirt w/o panties

R says:
Sat, 27th Mar 20109:30 am 

sooo mee!but im not going to bars im going to clubs or hanging with my girlfriends in the streets something like that!im asking my self the same question whats wrong with mee? !i want aboy friend! and just the wierdo guys are coming to mee !its soo wrongg!

Starr says:
Fri, 2nd Apr 20103:39 pm 

If you wrote a movie, what would the title be?

Poythress says:
Sat, 3rd Apr 20103:50 pm 

Was she/he well-behaved?

Larry says:
Sat, 3rd Apr 20106:54 pm 

First of all, there is no such thing as a 'too nice guy'. Kindness is a rare virtue. Look at all the abused women in this world. What they would give to have met a 'too nice guy'. So your thinking is ridiculously flawed or warped. Second, when you go into a pig farm don't complain when you find a pig sniffing you. I mean, if you are going into bars what do you expect? Good guys who want to 'get to know you' ? No. You get guys who wants to get in your pants. It is not that complicated. Finally, I am a nice guy, but also know I am a very cool person. I studied drumming and guitar since I was 5, draw and do portrait sketches, got a degree in mathematics and currently working on my master's thesis in psychology. I am very successful. Now, do you think I'm going to waste my time in a bar searching for 'chicks'. No. Because only losers hang out in bars so they can feel "cool" . Real men, work and build in their lives, and don't have to say a word to a woman. She just has to look at his body of work in his life and become inspired.

anna says:
Thu, 8th Apr 201010:00 am 

Go online to joyiner.com to meet a smart guy. This site is for intelligent people only so you will find what you are looking for

Hager says:
Sun, 11th Apr 201011:18 am 

Who used to be your superhero when you were a child?

Garrett says:
Tue, 13th Apr 20103:48 am 

If you could do everything again, would you raise me differently?

Moravec says:
Sat, 15th May 20109:33 pm 

Give the nice guys a chance, ditch the creepers.

You'd be surprised how many nice guys can become the envy of your friends with a little bit of effort on your part. Your friend's "perfect" boyfriends are probably nice guys and you don't realize it.

Stacy says:
Sun, 20th Jun 201011:12 pm 

I totally get what you mean. I attract the creepers. I am sometimes considered "too picky" when it comes to men, but I really don't think that's a problem. I think too highly of my self respect to just settle. And I'm not trying to sound rude to all the "too nice" boys out there, but really, sometimes you're "too nice"ness is just awkward and not really that sexy. Just saying, it would be so nice to find an in-between guy that can stand my kind of humor and that doesn't make me feel awkward.

theguy says:
Sat, 10th Jul 201010:35 pm 

like so many have said the problem is u honey.no one else.

by the sound of your post u sound so imature,childish and a real b@tch! get over yourself and maybe u will meet someone good

freddie says:
Sat, 10th Jul 201010:41 pm 

your nothing but a complainer who has way too high standards.

the reason your single is cause the guys that u are looking for are good looking enough that they dont need to go for girls with attitude like u.u think your the only girl around toots?even if u are gorgeous looking or have a great body do u really think that a guy with a brain wont go look elsewhere where he can also get a nice girl to go with the looks instead of settling for a selfish shallow B#tch like ya whos got a very ugly personality.

your an empty shell lady.u might look good on the outside but inside your very very ugly and youll end up alone at the end of your life cause of that.guys will only screw u and say goodbye in the end cause nothing will keep theyre interests

me says:
Sun, 19th Sep 20106:53 am 

Its amazing that all the guys seem to think your a complainer yet ALL the girls can relate. Guys maybe you should open your eyes and realize that you go about getting girls the wrong way…creeps and "nice" guys a like.

Will says:
Fri, 22nd Oct 201010:40 pm 

Bars are not the place to find the right guy. Trust me, all of my friends just look to get laid at the bar. And pretty much the only guys in college not looking to just get laid are the "too nice guys". But then again girls dont give the nice guys a chance because they are not supposedly outgoing in a bar haha. Well no duh, the nice guys arent trying to get laid from every girl.

Stacey says:
Wed, 15th Jun 20111:38 pm 

To theguy:
No one here has said that she has a problem apart from you so what are you on about..?

and you say she is immature.? The immature people, are the boys that can't stand commitment and a proper relationship. She's just like all the other girls out here, trying to find a nice guy who loves and cares for her for the way she is.

And for Brittany :
Don't go searching, just live your life without trying to find a guy.. he will find you, and when you think you might have found someone your going to truly love.. make him chase you. Then you'll know for sure whether he likes you or not. Good luck hun, you'll find someone, everybody does.. promise.

dancer says:
Mon, 2nd Jan 201211:32 pm 

Take it from some one who has been around for a while, some time just looking for a quik lay in the sack as well as other times looking for miss right. i have come to this conclusion a good girl or good guy only finds each other by mistake.Why do say this ,cause most of the times when we look for the right person we use the wrong things to judge them.Take for example a girl meets a guy if he dosn't comes off all confident and says the right things, for first few conversation she tries to get away from him. what most girls dont understand is that its easier for girls to just talk to a guy and be your self than a guy to a girl. Men dont think women are forgiving at the first meeting if a guy says the wrong thing by mistake he might lose his chance and get insulted. nobody wants that in a public place so most guy just stand back.
On the other hand if two people meet and the woman does not seem so confident the guy would never try to insult her, he would try to hear what she has to say and not try to make her feel like a fish out of water. It is easer for women to feel and act more confident because for a reason, mostly guys are always giving compliments to women even when they dont deserve it.