Coupled. From the Other Side of the Coin

March 4, 2010     Posted in Relationships

Sarabeth here. But only for a short time, because I figured I could have my other half, Matt, write this week’s article. I thought it’d be a fun change of pace for those who ever wondered what things were like from his point of view. I already know how great and wonderful he is, but I think it’s important for other girls out there to see that there are really good guys to be had and when it comes to serious relationships, guys really aren’t that different from us.

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By Sarabeth

Here’s what he had to say:

There are a couple of things going on in my life that I consider pretty surreal.  I’m nearing the end of my college career and going into the real world soon. I’m getting to the point in my life where I’m making fun of the trends of younger people, which makes me feel like the old man yelling at kids to get off my yard. All these freaking celebrities are dying! All of this stuff seems unreal; the fact that I’m getting married to the girl of my dreams is the polar opposite.

Sarabeth and I started out with a weird relationship. You might know the details if you’ve followed her from the beginning of her writing for CollegeCandy (which I also think is pretty surreal, BTW; random anonymous people arguing over what she says on them there internets is just weird). Basically, we were just friends first and as I spent more time with her, I came to the realization that I was (and still am!) truly happy when I was with her.

I know we have our moments where things aren’t at their smoothest. Just like anybody, we get annoyed with each other. Our pet peeves get messed with. Disagreements are had. But after the arguing and the fighting, I always know Sarabeth will be there to make it better. I can go to her unconditionally and know she will love me. And it I know she will open her arms and offer her care. It is what keeps me going and I couldn’t imagine it any other way.

I always thought that finding true love would take a long time; I certainly didn’t see myself getting engaged while I was still in college. But then again, there were other things about college I didn’t expect. Who knew I would be learning Japanese? Or getting a degree in Radio-TV-Film while producing a weekly show of local bands on an FCC licensed television station? But these things happened. It might sound like it’s all matter of fact, but it really just is. This is how things happened. I fell in love and it just happened before I reached my quarter-life crisis.

My relationship with Sarabeth seemed to progress as it should (minus the casual nasty-doing). She was my friend. Then she was my girlfriend. Now she’s my fiancee. Soon, she will be my wife. It all feels so natural and right, even if most of the college guys across the country don’t take this path.

I am a guy. In a (very) serious relationship. And I wouldn’t want it any other way.

16 Comments on "Coupled. From the Other Side of the Coin"

  1. Miriam says:
    Thu, 4th Mar 201012:27 pm 

    Awwwww this is so cute. You sound just like my boyfriend. :)

    It's so nice to read something positive about serious relationships for a change.

  2. Beth says:
    Thu, 4th Mar 20101:00 pm 

    Matt and Sarabeth, your story warms my heart. Lately I've been feeling very cynical towards love, but this gives me hope. I wish you two all the best.

  3. Sarah says:
    Thu, 4th Mar 20101:27 pm 

    I'm not sure why, but this made me cry (and I'm not generally a crier). He really…loves you. I just hope that someday I'll find someone who feels this way about me. And yes, all the best to you!

  4. peacelovecake says:
    Thu, 4th Mar 20101:52 pm 

    this is such a great idea for a blog!

    this sounds like something my boyfriend would say. :)

    (very) serious relationships in college rock!

  5. Lisa says:
    Thu, 4th Mar 20102:09 pm 

    So cute! I'm glad to see that there are other people out there like me!

    Also, random – but I have a friend in Georgia named Sarah Beth, who's (very serious) boyfriend's name is Matt. Creepy!

  6. Butch 'The Man& says:
    Fri, 5th Mar 20103:53 am 

    The breakup/divorce is going to be such a dissapointment…

  7. Erich says:
    Fri, 5th Mar 20106:19 am 

    OK talk about rude (the guy above). I have been married twice, and I'm tellin you right now, when love is right it doesnt get any better. So congrats to you to for makin it this far.

  8. Casey says:
    Fri, 5th Mar 20107:16 am 

    Ugh! Seriously "Butch"!? What a fucking asshole! You know what, go climb back into whatever lonely slimy gutter you crawled out from, and take your relationship hate with you. What a completely fucked up thing to say to somebody. Seriously, your comment just made me sick, and very sad for humanity.

    Oh and Just an FYI, the divorce rate is NOT 100%.

  9. Kelly - University o says:
    Fri, 5th Mar 20107:47 am 

    kasdfkjsdfh too cute for me. Just too cute.

  10. Candie says:
    Fri, 5th Mar 201010:37 am 

    Aww so cute! Reminds me of my boyfriend

  11. Candice says:
    Fri, 5th Mar 201010:44 am 

    Does anyone else see the major problem here? You're getting married out of college? How old are you 22? BIG MISTAKE

  12. Allison says:
    Fri, 5th Mar 20106:23 pm 

    They didn't say they were getting married two weeks or two years after college. There is a BIG difference in the timing. I have a friend who is getting married in several months after they graduate, and I have a friend who was planning on getting married a month after graduation.

    Sad to say, the friend who was getting a month after graduation is postponing it. My friend who is waiting, has been engaged for the past year now and is in the final stages of planning the wedding. Does she wish she could wait? Maybe, but her fiance is from abroad and it would be safer to get married sooner than later due to the immigration policy. But they both have been working on visa and finding jobs/places to live for about as long they have been engaged.

    Congrats on being engaged! But DO think about waiting if you can, knowing how to handle your fiances on your own and making sure you both have jobs and savings helps a lot. I've seen my fair share of people(my sister being one of them) who didn't do that and ended up having their heart broken.

    Thank you Matt for partaking in this! Congrats to you both! Obviously, you two love each other and care for one another greatly :) Don't let the downers upset yourselves! thank for the post

  13. b says:
    Sat, 6th Mar 20106:16 pm 

    I can't stand when people say getting married young is a BIG MISTAKE. How are you to know what will or won't be a big mistake for someone else? I got married 2 months before I turned 22, and here I am 5 years later- never been happier- Yet somehow I was able to handle my own finances before I got married, and after, as well as everything else that came along with being married… You can't put people in a box and automatically assume that someone who gets married young is going to be unhappy and get divorced. People mature at different times… and it looks like some of you have some more growing up to do before you can make that kind of lifelong commitment yourselves. But don't go busting on other people for knowing what they want.

  14. E says:
    Fri, 12th Mar 201012:29 am 

    This is very sweet! I happy for you both. There are people who search for years and years for what you have so it's great that you treasure it :D

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