Would You Rather…

June 9, 2010 1:00 pm     Posted in Entertainment, Relationships  Noa - CU Boulder g+ page


By Noa

I’m not gonna lie, I’m in a funk today. After last night’s epic Glee finale, I just don’t know how to go on. I could barely get out of bed this morning and I’ve already eaten half a bag of Sun Chips (why is the new bag so loud?!) and a Twix bar. And on top of that, my best friend’s boyfriend of four years kicked her to the curb.

The kicker? I’m friends with him, too.

Spending the evening crying with her and trying to understand what the eff that boy was thinking and then spending this morning with him crying to me on the phone, I started thinking about breakups and how difficult they are for everyone involved. Sure, to many there’s nothing worse than getting dumped, but what about breaking someone else’s heart? That can’t be a walk in the park.

So I want to see what you have to say about all this:

Would you rather be the dumper or the dumpee?

Things to Consider: post-break up weight gain, telling your friends you got dumped, extreme guilt, changing your relationship status on Facebook.

Vote and tell us why below.

9 Comments on "Would You Rather…"

  1. lackingfunds says:
    Wed, 9th Jun 20108:17 am 

    I'd say dumper simply because (in normal cases) you are breaking up with the person for a legitimate reason. The guy just isn't right for your, so while it hurts and is no fun, you know it's the right thing to do. If you've been dumped, you may not have seen it coming or agree with the dumper. That's the usual case, so I think that sucks way more.

  2. Lauren - University says:
    Wed, 9th Jun 20108:18 am 

    Maybe it's weird (considering I'm in the minority), but I HATE being the dumper. I am really bad at making people upset, so I'd rather be the one who gets to hate the other person than be the one that's hated.

  3. alex says:
    Wed, 9th Jun 201010:02 am 

    having been both, I can say that I would much rather be the dumpee. Being the dumper is probably the worst experience I've ever had. As much as being dumped is awful, it doesn't compare when you still care about the person you're dumping.

  4. kbye says:
    Wed, 9th Jun 201010:42 am 

    I'd so much rather be the dumpee. Yes, it sucks at first, but later the dumpee has the ability to realize that it's the other person's loss. When I'm the dumper I tend to go back and think "Oh, what if I didn't?" It's easier to realize the finality of it when you're the dumpee.

  5. Rachel says:
    Sun, 20th Jun 201010:24 am 

    Being dumpee sucks, so def. dumper. when things are not working out after you tried you best, staying in the relationship is simply a waste of time.

  6. courtney says:
    Tue, 31st Aug 20106:23 pm 

    I would say being the dumper is easier, because if you're breaking up with somebody, then you wanted out of the relationship enough to do something about it. Obviously it's not easy, but I think that it's easier than being the dumpee, who still wants to be in the relationship, just got rejected HUGELY because you don't want to be with them, and is going to be hung up on you longer than you'll be hung up on them. Also! I think that if it's YOU doing the dumping, then you're in the position of control, because essentially you dumping them hurts them a lot more than it hurts you, which on a scale of emotional satisfaction puts you above them. Additionally it IS hard to break up with somebody that you still have feelings for, but on the other hand they still had feelings for you also, and if you're breaking up with somebody, then you've decided that not being with them is what you want, which is probably harder on the dumpee because although you have to deal with "I broke up with them because for whatever reasons, being out of this relationship is better for me… but I still like them :( " they have to deal with "I was broken up with, because somebody didn't want to be with me… but I still like them :( "

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