Ask a Dude: Should I Get Implants?

H says:
Wed, 7th Jul 201011:50 am 

I'm not a 'dude', so take this with a grain of salt, but I really think it depends on the guy and the majority of guys prefer small real boobies (or big real boobies) over big fake ones. Of course having a large chest is going to make more men (and women) notice you, but when it comes to dating and serious relationships, the guys I know prefer the real thing.

If you had a boyfriend he would probably tell you he prefers your natural body and not to get implants(and mean it).

A says:
Wed, 7th Jul 201012:00 pm 

One thing the dude failed to expand on is the potential effects of implants. Eg. silicon bleeding, rupture, loss of sensation, mammography impedement, possible inability to breastfeed. I'm not against getting surgery (hell yeah, go for it if you want to) but it would be nice to be aware of all the potential effects before making a decision.

Dave says:
Wed, 7th Jul 20101:16 pm 

Personaly I'm a legs man , boobs are way down on my list

anon says:
Wed, 7th Jul 20101:55 pm 

Read these two statements:

"I want implants because I worry about guys judging me on the type of body I have wayyyy too much."

"I am doing it for ME, not for anyone else."

And these came from the same email? Personally, I would tell you not do it until you're sure you're ACTUALLY doing it for yourself, because it sounds like you're paying lip service to the idea. However, once you're sure – it should be your decision, and anyone who would judge you or shame you for it (whichever way you decide) isn't someone you should be wanting to impress anyway.

Holly says:
Wed, 7th Jul 20104:39 pm 

Surgery is dangerous. People die from general anesthesia complications every day. Is risking your life with a surgery that you don't need worth it? No one can answer those questions but you, but you need to take the risks seriously. Especially since you will have to have the impants replaced in about 10 or 15 years.

Danielle says:
Wed, 7th Jul 20104:33 pm 

Anon- I was thinking the exact same thing.

And although it might help you with your self esteem a little, if you're as insecure as it sounds then I don't think plastic surgery is going to fix that. I think you need to completely accept yourself first, flaws and all, before attempting to change those flaws.

And if you do ultimately decide to go for it, I just want to advise that you don't go any larger than a B or you'll probably regret it.

criolle johnny says:
Wed, 7th Jul 20106:42 pm 

Let's see, the first thing he notices about you is fake. Great way to start a relationship. Do you really WANT a man who was attracted to you because of an artificial part of your body?

Personally I think too many American men are taken off of breast feeding too early. They spend the rest of their lives looking for hooters that will cover their entire face. This is commonly called "infantile". Again, is this what you want to initiate a relationship?

As a guy, I don't appreciate ANY behavior on her part which is faked to initiate ANY behavior on my part. It's called gaming. When guys do it to get lucky, it stinks. I feel the same way when women do it to achieve their objectives.

I want peace and integrity in a relationship. If it starts with artificiality, it's doomed. I'd really like to see a numbers check on implants and divorces.

Gotta pour some candles.

M says:
Thu, 8th Jul 20104:48 am 

OK, honestly? I know PLENTY of girls with really small boobs (or practically none at all) who have no problem getting attention from guys, dates, and boyfriends. In fact, they often get more of it than girls I know who have big boobs.

Furthermore, I don't know of anyone with small boobs who never manages to get a boyfriend. The people I know who never get boyfriends are girls who never put themselves out there, never try to befriend or talk to guys, or spend all their time worrying that they're not attractive enough.

Just think about it.

Merfdiezel says:
Thu, 8th Jul 20106:33 am 

Fake breasts were created for people in your position, and they were never intended to become what they are stereotyped as today. True, most men say that they prefer "natural" breasts, but most of this comes from the fact that fake boobs are nowadays associated with gargantuan implants that sit like rocks– not the originally intended minor sculpting.

It is a surgical procedure so there are many things to think about health-wise before going in, as well as discomfort issues further down the line. However, should you decide that you would like the implants, you can elect for a safe, routine plastic surgery and step up a cup size. Many women have breast implants that do not draw immediate attention because they are tasteful and only meant to augment a woman's physique, not make her boobs the only focal point of her body.

I'm sure your doctor will tell you the same thing. Breast implants have been so stigmatized by people misusing and making a mockery of the female form, I suppose stemming from deep-seated psychological issues, that people forget they were originally created as a minor vanity surgery for women who do not feel comfortable with how they look (not for men's entertainment). I, nor most other men, see anything wrong with a minor upgrade if it makes you feel more comfortable in your own skin.

Don't let the the stigma fool you. Talk to your doctor. What is attractive to most men is a woman who is comfortable in her body, not afraid to take her bra off during sex, and willing to enjoy being naked with her man.

-the Merf

Des says:
Thu, 8th Jul 20106:41 am 

As a lesbian, let me just say… boobs rock.

Big boobs, little boobs, implants, whatever.

If you want to feel more secure about yourself, go for the boobs… but be aware that your breasts will become the center of attention, possibly leaving you feeling left out. Guys will be hitting on you out of a desire to sleep with you and girls will make snide remarks behind your back.

Before the implants, though… think about if you are really ok loosing the sensation in your nipples.

It isn't as if your nipples are your clit, but if you have sensitive nipples, you will miss them.

Also, do you want to breastfeed? Cause implants can ruin that.

Small boobs are sexy. And some guys prefer them. Some guys like any boobs. And some guys like big boobs.

But, I guarantee that YOU and other women care more about your boobs than any guy does.

Kathryn says:
Thu, 8th Jul 20107:47 am 

I've always been the same way. I've had to buy extra small tops for swimsuits and large or xl bottoms. I'm a size small top normally and an 8 or a 10 pants size. I got impants to even out my body, and now I can fit into a normal 8 or 10 dress! Before, I would swim in the top. Do it for yourself, I have never regretted my surgery.

sarah says:
Thu, 8th Jul 201010:21 am 

First of all, take a look at what you said. That is exactly what Heidi Montag said when she wanted her very first boob job. They won't make you feel secure about yourself, they will only dig the hole deeper and deeper.

Honestly I think fake boobs are extremely tacky looking, whenever I see a women with fake boobs I automatically think either "she must have been a stripper" or "she's a gold digger".

You've got to find happiness within yourself, your not going to find it by changing how you look.

Francessa says:
Thu, 8th Jul 201011:39 am 

Well, I always think, "Use what your mama gave ya."

Do that and you are truly confident.

And from personal experience, big boobs are not that great. Sure, they are big. Yay? Mine never fit into dresses and so often men have a hard time looking at my face when I talk. When that happens sure I think, "Look they are checking me out" but mostly I think, "My eyes aren't there dude" and I walk away.

Johnnie says:
Thu, 8th Jul 201012:38 pm 

"The Dude" gives horrible advice, and sounds like a chic. Anon and Criolle are so right.

"I have issues with self-esteem."

"(I) don’t have a problem getting guys attracted to me"

"I (want) plastic surgery just so that I can feel completely comfortable showing off my body"

"I want implants because I worry about guys judging me…"

"I’m scared that guys will just judge me more for (getting impants)"

"I am doing it for ME"

Huh?

Luxe says:
Fri, 9th Jul 20109:02 am 

Can we get a new dude to do this column? I'm all for getting to choose, but it sounds like he was really pushing it…

Syd says:
Fri, 9th Jul 20109:22 am 

I agree with Luxe. This, plus several of the Dudes other columns, paint him as a shallow strawman. I know SO few guys as shallow and douchetastic as this guy, and I hang around frat houses.

emily says:
Fri, 9th Jul 20101:24 pm 

i think people are being ridiculous, i say go for them. you never said you were going to get huge big boob, which is what people are assuming. its totally possible to get implants and have them not look huge and fake!

Marsha K says:
Fri, 9th Jul 20104:08 pm 

Of course plastic surgery is vanity re: getting implants. And yes guys will be more attracted to your chest. However, it really does help with your self esteem. Just don't go overboard.

lora says:
Mon, 12th Jul 20105:47 am 

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OldFashioned says:
Mon, 12th Jul 20108:30 am 

I think your breast size has been bothering you for a long time and it's not something that's easy to get over. If you want bigger breasts get the surgery and that's a huge load off your mind (I was going to say chest but it would actually be a huge load on your chest :p). Anyways, don't listen to others' opinions-especially the ones who are knocking you down about 'having a low self esteem'. Your desire to have larger breasts won't magically go away and now you can do something about it. Also, I wouldn't really mention to any females or really anyone that doesn't need to know to avoid any potential cattiness. If they ask, just tell them you went on the birth control pill and it made your boobs get a lot bigger and you also gained weight.

Go to a great surgeon though so you don't end up with a botched job!

Good luck

bri says:
Wed, 14th Jul 201010:04 am 

how do we know she wants big D cups? maybe she just wants full A's or B and theres nothing wierd or fake looking about that.

Linda says:
Sat, 17th Jul 20103:23 am 

I used to love Dude's advice…did "he" change somewhere along the line?

If not…I think it's time for a new Dude, because the advice has been super shitty lately.

Mel says:
Sat, 17th Jul 20109:44 pm 

I've noticed there are also girls a little younger than college coming on this blog lately; I would say if the girl who wrote this is well past the age of say 21 to mid-twenties, then this is a valid concern. But any age before that, I would suggest waiting and seeing if you'll grow into your body before you go off and get surgery. And done!

Xi says:
Tue, 20th Jul 201011:48 am 

(I'm a dude, and all I have to say on the subject of fake tits is….) NO. (That is all)

Cat says:
Wed, 28th Jul 20109:47 pm 

I'm not dead-set against implants or anything, but this "advice" is totally one-sided. There are a lot of drawbacks to implants that it doesn't discuss, and it completely neglects the possibility that, call me crazy, she might survive without huge boobs, and even still get guys' attention.

"my theory is that you’re looking for a confidence boost and it’s clear where you think you can get it from…and odds are that you will."

^ And implants are by no means guaranteed to improve this girl's self-esteem.

I love CollegeCandy, but this is kinda sickening.

C says:
Fri, 30th Jul 20105:32 pm 

This article was a complete waste of time. Please get a new guy or multiple guys to answer this. Getting just ONE perspective from a single guy isn't good enough in my opinion.

If the girl asking the question is worried about her breasts so much then maybe she needs to interact with more guys. Not all guys out there love big boobs. There are leg, butt, neck, arm, face guys all out there.

Remember ladies, your breasts don't define who you are, your actions and personality are way more important in the long run then being a A, B, or C cup.

Pixie says:
Sat, 7th Aug 20109:49 pm 

Boobs aren't all that important in feeling confident. I used to be as flat as a board when I was like 17 and now they seem to have magically grown bigger(actually this kinda freaked me out) theyre now about a small B and I don't feel any more confident about my body- my mind just shifted to other things that I seem to think are "wrong" with it.

Unlike women men actually seem to be LESS judgemental about pysical appearance, my boyfriend allways gets confused when I complain about my body.

You shouldn't be paying loads of money to a surgeon to "fix" your body unless you are ABSOLUTELY sure, Because It will really suck if you end up regretting it. Make sure that you are doing it for the right reasons not just to feel better about how you look because otherwise you will just keep lookign for the next thing to "fix"

Love your body and others will love it too

ririh says:
Sun, 8th Aug 20104:30 pm 

The possibility of losing sensation after getting implants makes it a big no to me!

JJ Gerard says:
Thu, 26th Aug 20105:41 pm 

Bottom line: Curves are feminine and damn sexy! And if feeling sexy is what you want then, well… Any who tell you different have a hidden agenda. Sure, I also have an agenda. I just done hide mine. Girls are attracted to certain masculine features and guys are attracted to feminine features. simple as that.

Lily says:
Mon, 1st Nov 20102:25 pm 

Why do men always use the whole "men are visual" as an excuse to be disrespectful, inconsiderate pigs towards women? Men aren't any more visual than women are. We women like attractive men, too. You know why you guys are always making fun of us for being attracted to the shiny diamonds and the pretty purse and the pretty red dress and so forth? Cuz we're visual, too! So stop using that as an excuse to be disrespectful asses to the women who don't add up to "your" opinions on how women are supposed to look. In other words, don't use it as an excuse to bash women who don't look like what the media has told you women are supposed to look like.

JollyJess says:
Mon, 1st Nov 20102:50 pm 

I'm a fellow flat chested girl. In high school boys would literally make fun of me everyday for beinf flat chested. I would cry all the time and wish I had even slightly bigger boobs. This past year when i entered college. It got even worse. I would try on clothes and bathing suit tops and they all wouldn't fit me. I seriously thought i was ugly/ I'm a self confident girl. But after being bullied my whole life I'm getting implants. And if it makes you happy, you do it. Don't even care what these other people are saying. It's your life.

LC Wilcox says:
Wed, 23rd Mar 20115:35 pm 

small boobs are sexy especially if you're asian.we can't help that most of us are flat that's why we're soo exotic! lol

Breeze says:
Fri, 29th Apr 201110:11 am 

I am a 32 born so flat I was teased all growing up that the walls were jealous. I was taught to wear padded bras & I was a pro stuffer by jr. High. For my graduation present my mom wanted to help me feel like a so called woman. After much thought in my 17 year old world of super low anorexic self esteem trying to be skinny so my body would be proportioned to my flat chest. … I chose to do it. So let’s just say I cam completely relate to the feelings of the lady who started this. Well, 2 weeks after I got my specially contoured (created to give me some sort of shape) size b implants… Let me back, I was this plastic surgeons youngest patient at age 17. He did not care to advise me to wait… Till I finish developing, wait til after I have my children…. He just wanted his money. 2 weeks later after my surgery the right side implant was infected. I went back to the surgeon and he had me sit in his office wide awake as he stuck me with numbing needles and I watched him rip the right implant from my 17 year old body and sew me up and then tossed me a fake jello boob and said put this in your bra on the right side to balance put the left implant which remained… For 1 year until the incision healed, keyloid scar and all. About 1 year later he replaced the right implant… It was higher and a little fuller than my year old left implant, which I didn’t let bother me becuzvi heard natural breasts are naturally uneven too. (: so back to the present. Today I have 2 kids. It was hard to breast feed them a lot even though my implants were saline and small and under my muscle… They still made it hard for me to produce enough milk. Also for the past several years I have had sharp shooting pains behind my implants to the point of bringIng me to tears beyond crying outloud. I have seen several breast specialIsts (some of whom were judgmental & condescending, I’m sure just strereotyping just because I had implants… Didn’t matter that I am just a B36. Ive had ultrasounds showing I have enlarged lymphnodes, which led me to having to get MRIs which showed I have 2 lumps in the left & 3 on the right as well as lump showing under my clavicle. I was also diagnosed by a top plastic surgeon with Capsular Contraction. It’s where the muscles tighten around the implant and basically, it hurts like hell. You may also want to look up a rare new cancer being found in women with implants… It’s a lymphoma cancer and the reason it is rare is because woman usually only get there implants out to put new ones in and the surgeon just throws away the old implants. To find out if you have this cancer the surgeon must keep, cut & send in a physical biopsy of the implant. And the woman choosing to get them out has to pay for the cancer test to be sent into the lab and request to be tested, based on all the symptoms found when the implants were in. I KNOW this because I am experiencing it. A great website to look up is explantation.com … Read about the women getting them out and why and CHOOSE to accept yourself NOW and embrace your God given beautiful flat tits now! Don’t wait 16 years like me! Don’t listen to all the LIES that you are not abSOULutelt perfect the way you are! I am getting these lousy saline filled contoured shaped implants OUT. My husband was a breast man too! Who wouldnt be with the invention of soft porn. But he loves me, my soul. And we are going to explore my fine ass more, my sweet legs and when they heal, my tender scars underlying my (Always WAS) & always will be… MY Purrr….fect itty bitty titties! Sure I could fall back into low self esteem thinking like I lived & breathed at age 17…. But that was because I believed so many lies! So much bad advice! And I didn’t do my own research. NOW I may be soon to be super flat & scarred but (& a beautiful butt, btw) now I am empowered and I know from learning the hard way, that confidence does not come from water balloons on my chest. Be strong! Be wise. Be you. Implants are the most unnecessary surgery with the most damaging side effects. One day people will look back at this implant fad era and say…. What in the world was wrong with our doctors that they would cut women’s chests open to do this for zero medical reason AND what the heck was wrong with women’s self esteem to make them risk doing this to themselves. Make sex soulful, about you in your soul breathing into and exploring a lovers soul … This art of the heart is way more about the inside than the outside. (: peace be with you! (:

I.K says:
Wed, 4th May 20115:40 pm 

This was a really interesting read, it's nice to get the perspective from someone who actually has first hand experience and who're not only jugding one way or another. I agree with your opinions, and I think you give good advice, even more so since they're based on experience:)
I'm not considering a boob job or anything (a natural D, I like to think I'd be comfortable with them no matter the size), I just wanted to show my appreciation for this comment:)

yes says:
Sat, 21st May 201110:58 pm 

Great comment. I spent a lot of money on implants and hated them. I had a lot of attention probably because I was more confident initially. However, i hated the way they felt and still found other things I hated about myself. I still had the same self consciousness that I usually had and ended up taking them out.

Save your money and learn to love your body how it is.

RandomGirl says:
Thu, 2nd Jun 20115:20 pm 

I don't know how small you are, or how old you are, but I guess there are a lot of things to consider. It is kind of like other vanity related things like make-up or hair dye, the major difference is that you can't just wash it off with soap (well… hopefully not.) Maybe try out a push up bra/something really padded? I know they don't always look right on everyone or work out right, but then you would have a preview before making the leap to go under the knife. Also, if I remember right, a boob job isn't a one and done deal, but requires future surgeries to maintain things or whatever. I guess in the end it is all up to you. Makeovers and new dresses may give you a mini self esteem boost, and some people do have little things about themselves that bother them that can be easily changed, but in the end I think that it won't make any MAJOR self esteem changes, but if you are 110% sure you want to do it, go ahead.
I hope that helped a bit?

xoxox says:
Wed, 22nd Jun 20115:03 pm 

this is the stupidest article i have ever seen.
1) ever consider that NOT ALL MEN are completely into breast size and more into butt and legs?
2) the negative consequences of breast augmentation?
3) the fact that getting bigger boobs doesn't solve the fact that you have deep insecurity and crave male attention to validate your own self-worth?

i also agree with the some previous comments that say men being "visual" is merely an excuse..why would men be anymore visual than women?

Ah Reba says:
Mon, 29th Aug 201110:07 am 

The dude did say One thing smart, that is, real Men like WOmen who are intelligent… So LOVELY LADIES DO YOUR RESEARCH … google: rare breast cancer found in women with implants … Is it really worth getting your chest CUT open just to help some loser like you.
If somebody likes you, it won't matter! If you truly loved yourself, you would never do this to your self.
Here's some info to get your research started: http://www.metacafe.com/watch/5877690/breast_impl…
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http://abcnews.go.com/Health/CancerPreventionAndT…
http://www.google.com/search?q=breast+implants&am…

Peace! And Love & acceptance & empowerment to ALL MY FELLOW PRETTY ITTY BITTY TITTIES OUT THERE (: we are beautifully perfect!!! & to ALL Women realizing that we can embrace ourselves naturally & embody deep respect & love for ourselves so we can set the examples! To teach dumb DUDES that didn't learn that yet!

Christina says:
Thu, 29th Sep 20118:41 pm 

most of my male friends and relations say "no".
it is dangerous…possibly wait until you have had children and then have them "fixed" up if u want to : )))
it is not going to make any difference to any guy out there….just will make u seem more sexually appealing and is that what you want?
I am flat and I don't like it either but it is not worth the possible side effects and trouble and cancer runs in my family….btw if i had a mastectomy like my mom then i would definitely get them…
God made you beautiful no matter what…work on your abs and butt that is what i am doing..
take care

puppy petter says:
Sun, 9th Oct 20111:38 am 

comon Lily…excuse or not. those bubbly balls just get our eyes hooked on…and all we want to do is pet them, lick them, squeeze them…
but it doesn't mean disrespect by any means. Most of us guys respect women…so I think u can drop the word pigs…:D

Brandi says:
Tue, 1st Nov 20117:07 pm 

Research research research
I was in the same boat girl!

-Platinum is in the shell, silicone or saline

rare breast cancers

the main lymphs are in that area, and to place an object will without a doubt 7-17-30 years down the road have serious results

just look up how many times they have been discontinued, and also who writes the reviews, and who is paying off the insurance companies to keep em on the market

——————just think about it, if you are lucky to have issues with placement, dropping into place, capsulation, embarrasing scars or ripples,……… if none of that happens, then yay right. hmm thats not how i see it, it IS A FOREIGN BODY IN YOUR BODY. over time, even if there is no allergic reaction, it WILL DEGRADE. it will be broken down. so there will be another surgery. ——————————–

the longer they are there, the more energy blocks it creates. in meridians, chakra balance,…the list goes on.

so the one that have them now, and dont appear to have problems,.. will later on in life face issues from their decision

I had the money and the time, but i did some research, and a few months later 2 women came into my life. one with great natural d's and one with fake toxin bags. Neither of them like theirs self. One says they are too big and get in the way, and she wishes guys would respect her, the other says they feel fake, and have imperfection. she even blames the implants on her stomache gettin bigger. So here i am way luckier than other women as far as looks goes….. and i look in the mirror and think i am suppose to be different.. sad!!!

The bottom line is. .. IF you dont love yourself now, then implants will make it even harder to love the fake you.. Take a look around at the others that are less fortuane than you are, and be appreciative for what you where provided with. BEAUTY IS NATURAL< CONFIDENCE IS LEARNED!!!

f-off says:
Sat, 21st Jan 20121:18 am 

Implants don't have expiration dates. They don't need to be replaced every 10 or 15 years unless they have gotten damaged in some way.

f-off says:
Sat, 21st Jan 20121:23 am 

Did you read more than just "rare breast cancer found in women with implants"? because the cancer has only been found in implants supplied by two specific companies, not all implants. There's something wrong with the implants the two companies are making, not implants in general.

Dammit. says:
Fri, 3rd Feb 20126:18 am 

Fuck. I guess im stuck with a stupid plank chest forever. Until they invent 99% safe surgery, that is.

Kristie says:
Wed, 4th Apr 20124:38 pm 

Being completely flat chested, I have low self esteem issues. And I'm not skinny either, so imagine how disproportionate I am. Because I'm big from middle down, the dresses and shirts come with huge busts that I can never fill. I COMPLETELY hate the way I look. The only way for me to lose weight is to seriously starve, eat less than 500 calories a day, and exercise. I don't even want big boobs. I seriously think B's are big but I want implants. I wouldn't even go past a mid-B. I just want something to hold my strapless tops up. I'll take the pain and the risks. I'm not planning to do this for guys at all. So there are people like me who want that boost of self confidence. People can say whatever they want when I get my implants. Having something is better than having nothing.

KKim says:
Wed, 4th Apr 20124:41 pm 

I understand you, JollyJess. When people make fun of you for being flat, it hurts like hell. When you go to clubs and guys pick your friends who have bigger busts and leave you out cuz you're covering yourself up, you feel like crap. College is a place to meet new people and if you're not confident with yourself, how the hell are you going to feel comfortable meeting people? I feel the same way. I'm going to pay for my own implants and people can say whatever to me. At least I'll feel better about myself.