Eat, Pray and Love Yourself Through a Nasty Break-up

Okay, so how excited are you for Eat, Pray, Love to finally come out?  Because I know I’m absolutely dying to see Julia Roberts and James Franco and Javier Bardem all together in one glorious movie.

If you haven’t read the book (which I highly recommend you do), here’s a quick rundown:  Julia Roberts’ character has a “perfect” husband, gorgeous home, and dream career.  Turns out the girl who has it all, actually doesn’t- she’s completely unhappy.  Throwing caution to the wind, she divorces her husband, takes leave from her job, and sets out for a yearlong adventure where she plans four months each in Italy, India, and Bali.  Her goals are simply to enjoy life and get back in touch with herself.

Well, I think we can all relate to the confusion and pain of ending a relationship, but unfortunately most of us don’t have the time or resources to do it Julia-style.  Luckily, it doesn’t take a million frequent flier miles to mend a broken heart.  Here are some real life ways to Eat, Pray, and Love your way back to fabulous:

Dinner parties aren’t just for couples.  Call up your best gal pals and invite them over for a night of bottomless wine and delicious pasta.  There’s nothing like comfort food to get you back on track.  Don’t worry about the carbs or going to the gym the next day.  Just put your feet up (preferably not on the table) and laugh a little.  It’ll feel good.

If you want to take the party on the road, stage a food tour of your campus.  Every school has those guilty pleasure places you go out of your way to avoid because they’re just so darn good (hello Chick-fil-A!), you’d eat yourself into a food coma.  Now is the time to dive in head first.  Tackle those waffle fries, enjoy that pizza, and wash it all down with an extra-large Diet Coke.

If you’ve never tried yoga or meditation before, then let me welcome you with a great big Namaste!  Both practices work wonders to clear your mind and make you feel energized.  Check with your college to see if your health center offers classes; if they require a pre-paid pass, ask if you can sit in on a class as a guest.  Also, iTunes offers free podcasts that specialize in guided mediation and yoga.

Download a few and you can practice right in your room.  No need to change out of those sweatpants or wash your hair just yet!

Love yourself, all of yourself – not just your funny personality; you know you’ve got great legs, too. Grab an iced tea, sit in a comfy chair, and listen to your iPod for thirty uninterrupted minutes.  Savoring the details of your day can do wonders for your state of mind.  So claim some “Me Time” and do something you love.

Love your friends. The fact of the matter is that when you’re in a relationship, sometimes your friendships can suffer.  However, now is the time to plan girls’ nights and rent all those chick flicks you missed out on (because some loser needed to watch Die Hard for the twentieth time).  Round up the troops, throw on some sweats, and have a little good old fashioned, guy-free fun.  After all, laughter and margaritas are the best medicine.

Finally, get back out there.  Take your time.  Whether you need two weeks or two months to get back on your feet, don’t feel rushed but do acknowledge that eventually you need to reenter the dating world.  Sitting at home weekend after weekend isn’t healthy.  Human contact is the spice of life!  Put on a hot outfit, opt for the higher heels, grab your besties and chat it up with a cute stranger.

Even if you don’t find love right away, know that your Javier Bardem is out there somewhere.  At least that’s what I’m keeping my fingers crossed for…



  1. Emmy - Loyola Univer says:

    LOVED Eat, Pray, Love! That book saved me after a hellish break up, and I can't wait to see the movie! Great post!

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  4. Natalie says:

    This movie and the book look like the biggest display of upper class white privilege I've seen in a while. Who can just "take a year off" from work cause they feel bad? And then we're going to get our generic eastern religion on just to try and make it all better. All while living in and "exotic" country full of people with "strange customs". Really, Julia Roberts? You can do better than this.

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  6. ryleaj says:

    I haven't read the book yet although it is on my to do list this week, but I cant wait for the movie. I envy anyone who has the guts to just get up and go somewhere they have always wanted to visit. I would do it if the funds allowed it…so for now I'll live vicariously through the movie and book. :)

  7. sharika says:

    love the book! plus it has Bali in it (even though i live in jakarta, bali is my one true love)

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  11. Diane says:

    The only people who could ever possibly like this piece of tripe are spoiled bitches who've never had anything truly bad happen to them in their lives. I mean, come on, she's whining about having a good husband, a great career, and a beautiful house? Grow up some, why don't you? I've had to see my dad fade away before my eyes because he got terminal cancer when I was 20 and lost my dad before I was 25, I had to go into the hospital numerous times for cyst-like growths and because I got really ill after having to have my gallbladder removed, my mom had to have one of her legs amputated below the knee or else she was going to die and I'm her caretaker as well as working full time, I pay a mortgage on a decent house but it takes a lot of my money to do that and pay off my car loan, get my prescriptions filled, and pay for groceries (and my mom's retirement helps go toward some of the utilities but I insist on having her save a lot of that money just in case I ever had to pay for someone else to take care of her), and I sure as hell have no way I can just go off traveling the world for a year. Plus, the bitch says in the trailer that she's never been out of a relationship since she was 15; does she know how fortunate she is?!?! I didn't get my first boyfriend until I was almost 20 and I've spent 2/3 of my life not partnered with anyone!!! I mean, for God's sake, she found someone who wanted her so much he wanted to GET MARRIED TO HER!! Do you know how fucking GREAT that was?!?! And the ungrateful bitch whines about this and decides she wants to up and leave for a year to "find herself"?! I have never hated anything more than I've hated this, not Twilight, not Justin Bieber, NOTHING compares to the hate I feel for this.

  12. Herbalfull says:

    Hiz…I read your post deeply… And I tltoaly agree with you about the conclusion… We all need similar vacations to explore ourselves, but we are stuck, all of us :-)It always seems like being away for a couple of days will make every thing go insane… as if we are responsible for holding every thing together with our bare hands!

  13. bloominglotusyogini says:

    What a brilliant book this was…after reading it I got so interested in the magic of Bali and India that I decided to go there myself and see what life had to offer in these mystical lands. Loved your reflections here. Really great article :)

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