Sexy Time: Don’t Feel Like Doin’ It?

By Ness

There are few things more frustrating than wanting to have sex and not being able to. While this sometimes can be self-inflicted (still not getting any, btw), this week we’re going to talk about low libido and the reasons that sometimes women just can’t get in the mood – no matter how hard they or their partners try.

This problem is much more common in women than it is in men (although it does happen in both sexes). While initially this might seem like a slight inconvenience but NBD, ladies that deal with this often feel alone and frustrated. We all think that we’re supposed to be sex machines, and when that just doesn’t happen, it results in a feeling of failure, and even depression. The inability to sustain a healthy sexual relationship can be a real downer if not handled by two people that have an understanding of what’s actually going on.

Of course, sometimes a person just doesn’t have a high sex drive, and that’s okay. Lack of libido only becomes a problem if it’s affecting you negatively or causing problems in your relationship. So are you supposed to grit your teeth and bare it, for the sake of being GGG and to make your partner happy? While this might work for a little while, eventually resentments can kick in and the whole “grin and bare it” thing won’t work anymore.

Before chalking mismatched libidos up to a lack of sexual compatibility, it’s important to keep in mind that sometimes a low sex-drive can be caused by a serious illness or hormonal imbalance that can be corrected with the help of a doctor. So, ladies, here’s a list of possible causes for low libido. Sadly I’m not a doctor and I can’t e-mail treatment to you, so if this is a problem get in to see your doctor pronto – then get back in the game!

Birth control – Yep. While pumping your body full of hormones is great for keeping it without child, sometimes those same hormones can mess with your sex drive too. This will most likely be the first thing your doctor will try to change, giving you a pill with a different hormonal cocktail can help get those sexy juices flowing again. (That sounded wrong….)

Stress, depression, and/or lack of sleep – College life can take a pretty serious toll on our bodies and minds. With so much going on, it’s no wonder that sometimes we don’t feel like doin’ it. Wait it out, eat right, give yourself a good hunk of “me time,” and see if that straightens it out. If not, it’s probably a good idea to see your doc.

Relationship Problems – Whether they are conscious or subconscious, the body knows when something is just not right. Did something happen to turn you off of sex? Is there something you need to talk to your partner about regarding your sex life? Is there something deep-down telling you that maybe the relationship is over?

Drugs/alcohol — Abusing drugs and/or alcohol screws up your system and can often affect your sex drive. Don’t believe me? Quit the drinking/drugs and see if it helps with the sex drive. It’s worth a shot, right?

Genetics – This study found that there may be a genetic link that affects how often we want to get busy. That means, if our parents have a happy, healthy, and frequent sex life, we’re genetically predisposed to having the same. As much as we don’t want to think about our parents all naked and sweaty, this is one time we should hope our parents have a lot of sex.

Other health problems – Like I said, I’m not a doctor. But you can find a whole list of illnesses that can lead to a decreased sex drive. Liver issues, diabetes, and thyroid problems are among the most common, but like I said – see a doctor.

While frustrating and disappointing, often a sex-drive so low that it’s causing you concern is also a symptom of something more serious. Go see your doctor. It’s better safe than sorry, right?

Oh, and while you’re there, why not go for a PAP smear and STI check too?