Duke It Out: The Facebook Overshare
[It's pretty obvious that the average CollegeCandy reader has some very strong opinions. Opinions that she likes to share with everyone on the site. We love a strong woman (unless she happens to be charging at us with her fists raised), so we thought we'd give her a real forum to discuss her thoughts, feelings, and perspectives. Every Friday I'll be featuring a hot topic (like whether sex sells!) and leaving it up to you, the readers, to duke it out. So, read it and get your debate on in the comments section below!]
“Jane Doe adores John so much, it’s like fluffy pink bunnies of love are frolicking around inside of her. Wuvs U Baby!” Gag me. Seriously, how many times have you looked on Facebook and seen somebody else getting all schmoopy over their significant other in their status? It’s right up there with Farmville for my top FB pet peeves. My question is, have I become a jaded cynic who can’t appreciate open expression of love, or do other people think these overshares need to be outlawed too?
OK, maybe I’m reacting too strongly – I’ve totally been in that cuddly-baby-animals-feeling phase of relationships and have totally overshared it on Facebook without a second thought. Is it really fair to want to go punch a friend in the face because of the multiple daily updates on how much she misses her BF when he has to go to class? (Sidenote: don’t you wish FB had a “punch” feature similar to the poke? Come on, Mark Z., get on that!) No, probably not. I get why people do it, and it’s their business so I shouldn’t even let it get to me. If I don’t want to see it, just don’t check FB, right (ha! Like that’ll ever happen!). People have the right to put up whatever they want in their statuses and the rest of us should just deal.
Except they’re putting it up online and thus making it my business! I’m not some haggard old spinster bitterly mumbling to myself about cutesy young couples; I’m happy for my friends who are in good relationships, really. I just don’t want to have that schmaltz pop up in my newsfeed 6 times a day! I’m not saying don’t ever put it in your status, but you wouldn’t call your friends up several times a day to tell them how much you love your guy, so why the heck would you make them read about it? I’m just asking for a basic level of courtesy here.
What say you, ladies? Have you been a victim, or are you the guilty party? Are we so over the overshare, or am I freaking out about nothing? Duke it out!