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10 Ways To Have Better Sex, According to Girls Who Have It

Okay, so we all know that the “pros” have a thing or two to say about bettering our sex lives.  Cosmo’s always telling us to put his needs ahead of ours (or so it seems, right?) and now scientists are offering up their two cents and it’s too reminiscent of Chem Lab for my liking.  Also, I have ADD and zone out any time my favorite things become educational.

So instead of getting all brainy on a topic that should be anything but, I offer you a regular girl’s guide to bettering your sexual endeavors.  You will not be tested on this material (at least not in a Scantron sort of way), just print it out and hang it above your bed.

1. Speak Up

Don’t wait for him to ask you what feels good.  If he’s a mildly oblivious (aww, but well-meaning) college dude, chances are he’ll think he’s doing just fine so long as you both leave satisfied.  Problem is, “just fine” isn’t always what you’re looking for.  Help him shoot for the stars by being vocal about what feels fabulous and what leaves you a little bored.

2. Dress Up

Who says costumes are just for Halloween and frat mixers?  I know you’ve got a few choice outfits in that closet waiting for the next CEOs and Office Hoes party.  Break ‘em out and watch his eyes (among other things) get big with excitement.

3. Confess

Admit it, everyone’s got at least one major sex fantasy.  Whether you’re into the run-of-the-mill naughty doctor routine or something a little…less…ordinary, it’s time to indulge and go wild.  One of the biggest factors in a great sex life is being comfortable with your partner.  This is one of the points that will really test your comfort level.  I mean, imagine telling a rando you’ve always wanted to get it on in the library while people secretly watched.  Awk-ward!

4. Play Around

Role-playing is an excellent way to explore the boundaries of your relationship.  It’s kinda an excuse to say anything and, should it not be well received, chalk it up to “getting caught up in the moment.”  Likewise, you may test his limits and find you’ve both wanted to try some of the same things.  It’s a harmless way to ease into some of the iffier conversations and keep the mood light.

5. Get Dirty

Dirty talk isn’t just for phone sex and text messages.  Newsflash: it brings about amazing results when used in person, as well.  And don’t be embarrassed, that’s key.

6. Think Outside the Bed

Try the floor.  Try the couch.  Try the stairs.  Try the top of the dryer.  Just make sure these aren’t communal places and that no one’s home.  I mean, unless you’re fulfilling #3.  In that case, just try not to get caught.

7. Make Him Surprise You

It’s like potluck dinner, but better because it’s not dinner- it’s sex!  When you keep an open mind and allow your partner to bring his own selection of tricks to the table, you might just stumble upon something great.  As an added bonus, he’ll get an ego boost knowing you trust him enough not to give directions all the time.  No one wants a control freak in bed (unless you’re exploring tip #1, but be kind about it).

8. Watch Together, Stay Together

Watching porn can do a lot of marvelous things for your sex life.  Not only can it provide some DIY ideas, but porn also serves as great foreplay and will help get you both in the mood for the main event.  Be sure to remember, not everything in the movies is quite as epic as real life.  But that shouldn’t stop you from trying!

9. Keep it Real

In light of #8, I have this to offer: Don’t have unrealistic expectations for sex.  Try to avoid mumbling, “That was it?” and realize it takes two to tango.  You’re half the equation, so it’s equally up to you to bring your A Game to the bedroom.

10. Satisfy Yourself

How do you expect anyone else to know what works for you if even you don’t know what works for you?  Masturbation is a beautiful thing and a necessary part of a stellar sex life.  Find what brings you to orgasm on your own so you know what you like once it’s sexy time plus one.

    Comments

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    1. Lucy says:

      Great article!!

      Things to add:

      Lube is your friend.

      Pornography, although awkward at first, can be fun with a partner.

      Never be afraid to try something new i.e. positions, dirty talking, etc.

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    6. sammibharvad says:

      I think the blindfolded during sex is really lame and distracting. It makes no sense, you turn out the lights Then blindfold each other? It is the sexual attitude Tho good article

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    8. Dana says:

      I def agree with Lucy. Lube is your best friend I think.

      Oh and there wasn't really mention of toys.

      It takes a lot more to get me off than just penetration.

      A simple little vibe held against my clit while he's thrusting realllllllllly gets me off.

      Also, DON'T FAKE ORGASMS! You will never get what you want in bed if youre faking it all the time.

    9. nagrayenz says:

      I love this article. I'm into computers (Science sexy / person role of the assistant?), But my girlfriend is not the type of experimentation. It took a year of dating to convince him to let me blindfold him.

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    10. jill says:

      Also useful: work yourself up for it beforehand (whatever that might mean for you…)

      jill

      in bed with married women
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      Not sure what blindfolding people are talking about cause I didn't see it in the article but I've been up for 37 hours. Personally I love to be blindfolded and tied down or held down. And IMO you wouldn't blindfold each other if you were doing it in the dark lol.

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    21. Krassimir says:

      Very useful info!! I love step 5 :P

    22. Maria says:

      Have tried having sex accompanied with lovely music /?

    23. Sajid says:

      sex is the part of life

    24. jenny says:

      my lover took me in up side down position and had sex,,,,,,,,the moment really reachable

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    26. salwa says:

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    27. SALWA says:

      I LOVE TO HAVE SEX

    28. Mr.francis says:

      I love sex but my girl friend never let me have sex with her, but i can do everything to her/ suck her/ finger her etc .

    29. Mr.francis says:

      I love sex but my girl friend never let me do it. What do i do pls?

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