Single. And Confused.

September 10, 2010 4:00 pm     Posted in Relationships  Emmy g+ page

I honestly don’t think that I will ever understand boys.


By Emmy

Okay so, remember that awesome boy who I contemplated asking out? Well, let’s face it, I had pretty much given up on him. I hadn’t run into him around campus, and I’ve been so busy with the craziness of school starting that I hadn’t even thought of him for a few weeks.

Well, as it always seems to happen, I had completely forgotten about him when I ran into him in our student union yesterday. I was just leaving an afternoon meeting and being filled in on my sorority’s most recent drama, when he was trying to get my attention.

“Hey, hey, Emmy!”

He was calling after us from basically across from the student union, and I was so surprised to see him. I introduced my friend to him, and we all talked for a few minutes. He asked what we had going on that night, and we told him that we weren’t sure, probably going out yadda yadda…

Then he goes on to tell us about how his friend (who we also know) is having people over and we should stop by… “Hey Emmy, I don’t think I have your number… What is it? Here, put it in and I’ll text you what time we’re starting to rage.”

So, whatever, I give him my number. Which should not that big of a deal, it’s not exactly an out of the ordinary event. Yeah, I mean, it happens pretty much every day that a boy that I have the world’s BIGGEST crush on asks for my number…(Slash okay, I was pretty excited, but I managed to contain my silly excitement ). So I play it cool, and say something along the lines of “Okay, I gotta go, but let us know what’s going on!”.

So, to make a long story short, I had a normal night, got some dinner, did some homework, got ready to go out, yadda yadda yadda… So we had a few different apartments that my friends wanted to stop by, so we’re out and whatever. But awesome boy, the one who had just asked for my number a few hours before, never texted me.

It’s not like I’m heart broken or anything of that nature, I mean, it’s not like anything even happened between us. More than anything else, I’m just confused. I don’t understand why he would go out of his way to get my number and then not use it. Those are my confusions for this week.

14 Comments on "Single. And Confused."

  1. Hlynn says:
    Fri, 10th Sep 201011:26 am 

    Always ask for his number back. Do the 'Okay, now call me so I have your number' thing. Magic. Then, if he doesn't call, you can casually text something like 'didn't hear from you.' If he doesn't reply … well, that's that.

  2. Nathan Marcello says:
    Fri, 10th Sep 201011:36 am 

    If a woman can't understand a man, then she must be thinking too hard. We are all basically one step up from cavemen.

  3. nk says:
    Fri, 10th Sep 201012:43 pm 

    Um, have you never taken someones number and not used it right away? Its just a friendly thing to do. It never NECESSARILY means he wants to date you. He hasn't even rejected you, he might just not have had a good party going and didn't want to seem lame, or just forgot he had promised to tell you about it.

    sh*t happens.

  4. sam says:
    Fri, 10th Sep 20101:25 pm 

    Hlynn is so right. Girls have to make the first move, always, or they'll never get anywhere. I firmly believe that. The trick is to make it seem like he's making the first move.. If you'd gotten his number back a simple "what's up? :) " text (smiley face necessary) would have done it!

  5. irenegeller says:
    Fri, 10th Sep 20105:47 pm 

    I've had this happen before (and I've "done" it back to guys too, but that's an aside). You know what you're worth- which should be 'a lot'! And if he doesn't realize that *he's* losing his chance to be with you, then how much is he worth?

    I just forget about it and let it go… life's too busy, anyway ;)

  6. Commentator says:
    Sat, 11th Sep 20106:19 am 

    Would you stop calling them boys? And yourselves girls? It's silly … why not embrace your adulthood "fiercely" … the sooner you find esteem in being a fellow adult the sooner you'll find how great it is … it takes work, but it's worth it. The longer you put it off, the more miserable you'll be and the less respect you'll find other adults provide you.

  7. stephschick says:
    Sat, 11th Sep 201012:34 pm 

    I had the exact same thing happen to me on friday night. It's seriously a complete let down. I'm just letting things slide just to see where it goes and if i see him again. It's seriously just not what I need right now, so I'm moving along and if he meets up with me all the better. I can't be waiting on some guy. I think its better that way, because who wants to be miserable and waiting? Have fun, and enjoy it while you can!

  8. Alicia says:
    Sat, 11th Sep 20103:24 pm 

    He probably just forgot. It's nbd. He probably felt awful when he realized

  9. Hilary says:
    Sat, 11th Sep 20109:15 pm 

    Keep your options open and don't put all your hope in one guy. So this guy might be a little confusing. There are plenty of guys out there and you'll find one who won't be afraid to use your number. I put all my hope into one guy for WAY too long, after I realized he sucked I started looking at other people and now i'm in a happy relationship. Don't stress about it.

  10. gt2904a says:
    Sun, 12th Sep 20106:17 pm 

    don't stress, but seriously.. if boys don't text, they're not as into you as he seemed. they are too simple. they're not complicated. that's why we dont understand them because we're tooo complicated.

  11. Rosie says:
    Sun, 12th Sep 20108:07 pm 

    I hate to sound like a self help book, but the fact of the matter seems that "he's just not that into you"…and that's okay! You deserve better then some boy that's going to treat you casually.

    Trust me, I just got out of a six month long thing where this boy had me hanging by a thread for any of his attention. I didn't seem to understand the simple concept that if I don't seem good enough to fawn over, then he isn't good enough to waste my precious time on.

    Move on, if he comes back sometime later for you, then fine. If not, his loss.

  12. Johnnie says:
    Mon, 13th Sep 20109:50 am 

    It's actually you're loss, you clearly liked him more than he liked you, yet you did nothing but leave it in his hands…next time you like a guy that much get his number and invite him somewhere.

  13. sexyducksgirl says:
    Thu, 30th Sep 20107:15 am 

    Girl, dont trip. First off, chances are your first meeting you caught his attention but as many of the guys have said, men have very short attention spans. Its not always that they forget, but they do get scared just like we do. But see, then we are required by nature to pretend like we dont care. For some, such as myself, this is very hard to do. Hence the reason why the man I love is being a total commitment phobic douchebag despite 5 yrs of love and loyalty.. But back to you.. lol.. What Ive learned is that you need to stay busy, but not so busy that you arent available or even in his line of site sorta speak. Let him know you wanna hang out sometime. Get his number and ask him if he wants to go shoot pool or hot tubbing or whatever. Dont drag it on and try to be quick about the asking cuz if your anything like me, your affection for him is written all over your face. Once a guy sees that, you may as well, stamp his passport for real. With my guy, Im lucky to get a text a couple times a month which used to make me do the same thing your doing. Asking everyone, allowing him to consume your brain more then he should. For me, Im at a 5 yr give up point even though hes been my ONLY source of true joy when we are together. Problem is, that HE knows that too.. which is why we arent together more. My hearts just been holding on so tight that all I feel after this long is ache and back to hopeless numb heavyness. You see where Im goin? YOUR in control. You can only let him know.. he has your number, if he says sure to set up a date, YOU say, hey, what about friday at blah blah blah.. Oh, but I need ur number so I know whose texting me friday.. lol, with THAT statement, he will be led to believe you have other friends and people who text you so you arent sitting by the window staring out into the street. :P Then, say Friday afternoon, txt asking if your still on for that night and WAIT FOR HIM TO REPLY. If he doesnt, then OH FREAKIING well! On to the next one!. LOL You can do it girl! Good luck!

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