[We scoured the country to find the ultimate sorority girl to share her expertise with you. After reading through tons of applications followed by hours Facebook-stalking all the candidates (which proved difficult thanks to FB's privacy settings....), we found her. And now, with sorority recruitment under way at many schools across the country, she's getting down to business and sharing everything you want/need to know about going from scared rushee to enthusiastic active sister.]
To protect the traditions and longstanding process, sorority rush is inherently shrouded in secrecy. Every chapter keeps their plans hush hush, current members can’t talk to potential new members, and everything – from rush songs to what snacks they’ll be serving – is kept on total lock down.
And to a nervous rushee with no idea what is about to happen, it can all be quite overwhelming.
To ease your minds a bit (and stop all the rumors about fat circling….), I’m going to open the doors of those palatial sorority houses and let you see things from the other side. So here it is: what every girl about to go through rush wants to know.
Question: I heard all the sororities release girls that aren’t pretty on the first day!
Answer: Common thought? Of course! But total BS. If you get released from a chapter on the first day it was for one of two reasons: A) your GPA or B) there was no chemistry in the conversation.
A) Most if not ALL chapters have a pretty standard GPA cut off for new members that is set by their nationals and their individual chapter. If your grades don’t make the cut, neither do you. BUT don’t let this intimidate you – every chapter has different GPA standards so no matter your grades, you can still get into a great house!
B) As funny as it may sound, sorority women think of recruitment like a date. Some of us even go as far as calling it ‘PNM flirting.’ Members want to make a connection with YOU so that YOU want a ‘second date’… make sense? So, it doesn’t matter if you were dressed to the nines and flirted so hard you expected her to hand you a bid on the spot (side note: offering a bid like that is illegal; members aren’t going to offer you one before all bids are distributed, so stop holding your breath), if there was no connection and, in her experience with the other members of the house, she didn’t see you fitting in….Adios muchacha!
Question: When my rusher greeted me she knew everything about me down to my ex- boyfriend’s mother’s maiden name? Is this normal?
Answer: OK, not to that extent… but YES! Just like in an interview the members want to impress you! Again, it’s all about that ‘second date’… we want YOU to come back for the next round of recruitment! When you register for recruitment you fill out a bio that we use to pair you with a member who has something in common with you and can make you feel comfortable so you can be yourself!
Question: You can only get into a sorority if your mom, grandmother or sister is a member of a sorority.
Answer: Total BS. I registered for recruitment knowing I was the first person in ANY part of my family to go Greek. I was a nervous wreck that I wasn’t going to get into a sorority because I didn’t know anyone Greek, or know anything about the Greek community. But I was wrong. It turns out legacies (siblings or daughters of women already members of a certain sorority) only have a small advantage.
It varies for each sorority, but most sororities will carry a legacy PNM through the first round; after that, she’s on her own just like a non-legacy. This gesture is just out of respect for graduated sisters.
Question: Joining a sorority is WAY too expensive for me…
Answer: A little bit of truth and a little BS, too. I am actually debating whether or not I am going to live in or out of my chapter house next year. I did some research and found its actually CHEAPER to live in the house when it comes to room and board. The only thing that might cost more in a sorority versus an apartment or dorm are the chapter dues. Each year members pay dues to nationals and/or their local chapter. That covers everything from national membership to sorority mixers and events. SO living in a sorority is NOT as expensive as you may think.
Also, a lot of chapters have payment plans. Just like paying rent, you can pay your room and board in installments. This leaves more money in your pocket for extracurriculars, AKA the bars (did I mention that I turned 21 this weekend?!)
Question: If I join a sorority, am I going to get hazed?
Answer: For sororities who play by the rules, hazing is a personal foul. (SO corny… but the Colts are on, and I’m lovin’ it!) In all seriousness, though, most universities have strict no-hazing policies, so this should NEVER be an issue. In fact, this week is National Hazing Prevention Week where fraternities and sororities raise awareness about hazing prevention and we mean business. To learn more about hazing prevention you should visit www.gordie.org.
OK, that’s all I got for now and I know there is NO WAY this answered all your questions. What else do YOU want to know about behind the scenes at sorority rush?