Sexy Time: A Public Affair

October 7, 2010 9:00 am     Posted in Relationships, Sex  Ness g+ page

One time, I had sex on a pier. After my three month dance with celibacy, I finally gave in at the end of the summer, and I figured if I was going to go for it, I was going to do it with a bang (well, that and my roommates were asleep and we have very thin walls). I worked my charm with my then-friend-with-benefits, and before I knew it, there I was – butt ass naked at the end of a pier at 4am.


By Ness

I’m a classy lady, what can I say?

Since that night, I’ve heard multiple stories from friends about how awkward it is to find a couple doin’ it in public, and knowing that I am one of those people, I feel a little guilty for giving in to my animal instincts out in the open (even though it was 4am and no one was around). I’ve also heard just as many stories about awesome public sex that make me think it’s not a bad thing, so long as it’s kept semi-private.

So, let’s discuss:

On one hand, everybody’s sex life needs a little spice from time to time. Gettin’ it on somewhere where there’s a chance – even a small one, that someone might see makes it just that much more exciting and risqué. Plus there’s something awfully freeing about being naked outside.

On the other hand, it does seem fairly inconsiderate.  While it might be sexy for the people having the sex to know that someone might see, involving other people in your sex life without their consent is kind of, well, creepy. And having no consideration for others and having sex somewhere that kids can see you is, I think everyone would agree, very wrong.

What do you guys think? Is public sex an okay thing to partake in from time-to-time, or is it wrong to bring your bedroom fun out where curious eyes might catch a glimpse?

19 Comments on "Sexy Time: A Public Affair"

  1. L says:
    Thu, 7th Oct 20106:30 am 

    If I were to do it in public I'd pick a time/place where I couldn't get caught. I think it's pretty messed up when couples have sex in really public places, like in cars on somewhat busy streets. The way you did it though doesn't seem that bad.

  2. Iredecent says:
    Thu, 7th Oct 201010:29 am 

    I totally love public sex. Once did it in a toll booth after an Angels And Airwaves concert… and then there was always the McDonalds bathroom hold-up my girl and I created…then there's the stroll through the park sex, and the hide in and behind the trees sex…on the picnic table…on an overhang balcony where all can see… It's exillerating lol.

    Someone else's hottub is always a great option aswell…

  3. ps says:
    Thu, 7th Oct 201011:05 am 

    I'm a fan of public sex but I can also see the other side of it. It can definitely be awkward finding people goin' at it in public. On the other hand, it's awkward to walk in on someone as well. Sure it's a private place at that point (let's assume) but it's still awkward.

    CLEARLY the way to end all this awkwardness is to never have sex anywhere, except with our eyes.

  4. Alessandria says:
    Thu, 7th Oct 201012:20 pm 

    Looove it. In the middle of the night on a walking path…on a rooftop…in the car…in a baseball dugout…on a college campus… so many memories..

    * all at ridiculous hours in the middle of the night though

  5. Kaylah says:
    Sat, 9th Oct 20106:51 pm 

    I think it's fine as long as well, you get away with it. Me and my boyfriend had sex one night in my neighbor's backyard. Granted she wasn't there and no one could see us. It was really hot and we still talk about it today. I think you just have to pick a spot where you are least likely to be caught and be ready to run if you are! lol

  6. Kandi says:
    Sun, 17th Oct 20104:09 pm 

    You come across as pretentious and arrogant "sex-pert". In reality, you're just a 19 year old small town girl that sleeps around. Your blog is a joke, as are you. Stop writing this crap-it just makes you seem like a whore. You're life seems like a waste of time.

  7. Robin says:
    Tue, 19th Oct 20104:21 pm 

    Kandi, I'm confused how this article is pretentious or arrogant? Ness from Sheridan leaves it up to discussion and presents both sides of the issue to the readers. Usually pretension and arrogance involves putting your own opinion above others and not listening to opposing views but Ness doesn't say having sex in public is right OR wrong, she uses it to stir discussion in the comments section.

    Needless to say your comment makes you come across as if you're better than Ness. In reality you're just a self-entitled asshole who thinks they have the right to belittle people on the internet. Your comments on this site are a joke, as are you. Stop writing this crap – it just makes you seem like an empty, bitter human being. "You're" life seems like a waste of time – especially when you spend your time bringing negativity into other people's lives…and yes I realize I'm being hypocritical by insulting you but such is life.

    The internet is a place for people to feel a sense of community from all over the world. It's a platform to share stories and relate to one another. It's a shame you feel the need to clutter it up with this nonsense.

  8. Tammy says:
    Sun, 24th Oct 20105:49 pm 

    lmao! kandi…your comment was bitchy and uncalled for. get a life! HA!

    aaannyhow, i once had sex in a laser tag arena. it was sooo hot. totally came close to having some friends see *gasp* but we played it off like i hurt my foot and he was carrying me ;) public sex is the business. just be sure to avoid getting caught

  9. cails says:
    Thu, 11th Nov 20105:58 pm 

    Best place to have "public" sex is in a public park in a wooded area ;) al natural

  10. shonda says:
    Sat, 7th May 201111:06 pm 

    YOUR life seems like a waste of time. i mean, if you don't like it, fine, but then, why would you take the time to read it and even comment on this "crap-it" blog

  11. kaitlinn says:
    Sun, 8th May 201112:27 am 

    this is stupid internet fighting.. so childish.. if you don't like something then JUST PRESS THE THUMBS DOWN BUTTON gosh..stop carrying on let her do her thIng while you hate because yournot creative and probably don't have a man to have SEX IN PUBLIC WITH.

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