Dating Makeover Challenge: From Ice to Nice, Day 1

October 18, 2010     Posted in Advice, Relationships


By Kira Sabin

Welcome to the College Dating Makeover Challenge, From Ice to Nice: 5 Days to Be More Approachable. We are beyond excited that you are joining us!

Over the next five days the experts from The College Crush are going to share with you daily videos with simple challenges to help you go from shy to getting noticed.  In a good way. (Not, in this sorta way.)

Today’s Challenge: Show off your pearly whites, with Kira Sabin – The Dating Makeover Coach.

Everyone assumes the most attractive people get approached, but really it is the most confident and happy. Nothing is more powerful or attractive than a smile. Passersby (and that hottie in your Stats lecture) will wonder why you are so happy and want to find out.   Who doesn’t want to hang out with the people who are having the most fun?

So today, whenever you are out in public, throw a smile on your face and see what happens.

And don’t forget to share your experiences in the comments section! At the end of the week, we’ll randomly choose one commenter to win a free one hour one-on-one session with the Dating Makeover Coach herself, Kira Sabin, to get to the nitty gritty of what isn’t working and what is.

30 Comments on "Dating Makeover Challenge: From Ice to Nice, Day 1"

  1. Miranda says:
    Mon, 18th Oct 20106:49 am 

    Yay! I'm excited about this! One of the things I'm complimented on most is my smile, so I'm happy to make an effort to smile more :)

  2. Renuka says:
    Mon, 18th Oct 201010:32 am 

    This is such a good reminder! Also it just makes you feel better when you keep on smiling. I would never approach somebody as well who is not smiling.

  3. Beth says:
    Mon, 18th Oct 201010:39 am 

    Good advice-it's something I always keep in mind and try to do, but I'll make even more of a conscious effort thanks to this video.

  4. Haley says:
    Mon, 18th Oct 201012:39 pm 

    Great advice! In just the few short hours I had a guy (stranger obviously) say hi to me while walking down the sidewalk and a guy I didn't know bought me a cup of coffee today!

    Also, I think one thing that goes hand-in-hand with this is not listening your iPod everywhere you go. No one is approachable with headphones in.

  5. maddie says:
    Mon, 18th Oct 201012:47 pm 

    I recently got out of a long relationship and realized that I have this habit of sort of frowning when I'm out walking- as if to fend off anyone who might try to pick me up? I was reading a dating article recently that mentioned that as well as a few other 'relationship habits' that are hard to break when you're single. This is something I'm definitely working on!

  6. Jennifer says:
    Mon, 18th Oct 20101:45 pm 

    This is great advice. I have noticed, since I stopped smiling so much wherever I go and am more concentrated, that I'm approached a lot less.

  7. Kira the Dating Coac says:
    Mon, 18th Oct 20104:24 pm 

    I love, love, love the comments ladies! I told you it was simple! It is truly amazing what walking around with a smile can do.

    @Haley…brilliant!

    Ladies remember to keep leaving comments and you can win a free session with me:)

  8. jewels says:
    Mon, 18th Oct 20104:34 pm 

    Love you Kira, well said. My BF found me in a bar because he said I was smiling the most (little did he know I was intoxicated ;) In any event, as always, great advice and simple to make happen!

  9. alex says:
    Mon, 18th Oct 20105:04 pm 

    I am SOOOOO EXCITED for this… I have been wanting to become a lot more approachable and this seems like a perfect starting step for me! thank you!

  10. seniorlist says:
    Mon, 18th Oct 20106:45 pm 

    like the quote "never frown, because you don't know who's falling in love with your smile." sounds corny but it's true- everyone around you feeds off your emotions. So why not be happy and attract happy people?!

  11. Sy says:
    Mon, 18th Oct 201011:07 pm 

    I love to smile!! When it comes to guys you can't show your teeth to every guy you meet be careful who smile too ladies!!!

  12. FabBison says:
    Tue, 19th Oct 20103:40 am 

    Yesterday morning I felt pretty crappy…I missed my bus to school and missed Spanish too. But I still kept a smile on my face and one of the cutest super-seniors at my school talked to me! I also got my Spanish homework. Ole!

  13. Ashley says:
    Tue, 19th Oct 20103:55 am 

    I'm excited to do this challenge! I think it will be a little bit difficult at first because I pass by so many people on the way to class, but I'm going to give it a shot!

  14. shieldmaiden56 says:
    Tue, 19th Oct 201012:46 pm 

    Did it today and did feel happier. Will continue to apply :)

  15. Rachel says:
    Tue, 19th Oct 20102:11 pm 

    I have always smiled a lot — and most people smile back. It makes me feel good, and maybe them too, I don't know. But I've noticed I've stopped doing a full smile, but a little half one instead. I watched your video, and that evening in the college library switched to the full smile again, and holding eye contact. It's striking the difference. Guys do a double take and then keep looking. ~RRM

  16. julia says:
    Tue, 19th Oct 201010:34 pm 

    one thing ive had trouble with is smiling even when i feel like a guy is rejecting mee…but acting like i dont care and continuing to smile does work sometimes!

  17. Bek says:
    Wed, 20th Oct 20105:36 am 

    This doesn't seem to hard!

  18. shiah says:
    Wed, 20th Oct 20106:36 am 

    People always tell me to smile more. I've actually had men stop me in the street and either order me to smile or ask me why I'm so sad (I'm NOT sad, I'm just walking home damn it!) I never understood why people expected me to just walk around smiling for no reason. If I'm meeting someone for the first time I smile, and I smile when asking people for something. But if I'm just walking to and from work, or if I'm just sitting on the subway, I'm gonna look crazy just smiling for no reason.

  19. Es2theEhyou2theEl says:
    Sun, 24th Oct 20105:34 am 

    the best side effect of doing this is that smiling even if you arent "happy" releases the same chemicals in your brain as if you were!

  20. Vaiva says:
    Tue, 26th Oct 20103:17 pm 

    Hr.. I would love to smile, but my smile looks really bad :( I am afraid to put off people, not attract

  21. Eugenia says:
    Sun, 2nd Jan 201111:29 am 

    I just LOLed at your comment for 5 minutes straight (might've been the sleep deprivation).
    So funny and so true!

    Right on!

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