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5 Reasons You Should (NOT) Hook Up with Your Professor

Calling all single ladies: Monty Cook is back on the market, looking to jump back on the job hunt and probably the dating game too! After the University of North Caroline-Chapel Hill lecturer was accused of having a relationship with a female student, he resigned from the university. Though married and with two kids, this incident apparently isn’t the first time Cook has shocked the school with sex-related behavior.

Luckily, the student remains anonymous in media reports nationwide – what was she thinking, hooking up with a professor?!? For the rest of you female CC readers, here are a few reasons why you should not follow in her footsteps. Seriously.

It must stay under wraps. No filling everyone in on the details of your newfound love life, no buying anniversary gifts or romantic dates at college hot spots, no Facebook relationship status updates or profile pictures of PDA. No long conversations on the phone before you go to sleep, and no hourly text messages about how your day is going so far. You two won’t be able to participate in all of the best parts of a relationship – all that’s left is hooking up. Secretly. Without anyone else knowing. Where’s the fun in that?

It’s hard to pay attention when you’ve already seen him naked. This is especially applicable if he’s actually gorgeous. It’s incredibly distracting when your hookup buddy has both body and brains AND control over your grade. How are you supposed to get a good grade in the class now?

It could ruin your academic credibility. When do find a way to focus and climb to the top of the class, don’t you want to be on top as a reward for those countless nights without sleep because you were working so hard?  Don’t you want to be on top because of your abilities and your attributes and your talents? Don’t you want to earn your grade on your own?

It might actually turn into something more. What could simply begin as a secret, distracting and exhausting student-teacher-relationship-with-benefits might actually become a full-fledged relationship. Can you even imagine being in college and falling for an older guy who has multiple degrees, noted achievements in his field of study, and a stable income? Could you even possible be with a guy like that?

It will get around. And it will get him fired. …is that your intention?!?

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    1. Dominique says:

      That fourth reason sounds a little condescending. I'm 22 and still in college, my bf is 34 with 2 degrees, his own house and car, and a stable income. Not only can I imagine being with a guy like him, I actually am, and I don't really see any problem with it as I'm not some insecure brat that gets upset whenever she talks to someone who could possibly be smarter than her.

      1. Cassie says:

        Mine is… even older and I love him to pieces. :) Older guys who have their lives in order just make more sense to me. I still want to stand on my own; I'd never be dumb enough to tie my future to someone else, because you never know what will happen. I'd just rather be with someone who shares my ideals and goals instead of waiting for guys my age (24) to grow up.

      2. Veronica says:

        I agree. I felt that point four was a bit condescending to those of us who can and want to handle precisely that kind of relationship. I'm 22, my boyfriend of three years is 29 with a Ph.D. with a stable income and everything. He knows what he wants in life and I'm mature enough to know what I want in life. It just so happens that we both share the same ideals and interested in the same field of study.

        I've dated several men "my age" and wow a lot of them can be immature, indecisive and possessive. Those qualities are such turn-offs to me. Of course, if the girl is immature herself, I can't see her having a successful relationship with an older, wiser, established man who wants stability in his life.

    2. rox says:

      Yeah the fourth reason is quite dumb. Many young women date older successful men for exactly those reasons… Personally I prefer to be in the same life-stage as the person I'm with, but thats hardly everyone's opinion.

    3. Elizabeth says:

      Also, you can get kicked out of college. Don't forget to put that in there.

    4. Olivia says:

      Especially if he's in a relationship/married/has kids: DON'T. It's asking for trouble.
      Also, IF you feel you should absolutely sleep with a professor PLEASE be super careful about birth control (as always). A friend of mine got pregnant with a professor and that's really not something you want to go through, trust me.

    5. Geoff says:

      what if you are no longer taking her class?

    6. Paula says:

      Actually, it turns out she wasn't hooking up with him. He was sending her racy and inappropriate texts. Her bf, a Duke student and a Duke professor outed his Montiness.

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    9. Black Iris says:

      He's probably married and you'll be destroying a whole bunch of people's lives, not just your own.

      It always hurts the student's career more than the professor's.

      It's hard to break up with someone who controls your grades. Once he has you, he can ask for more.

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    60. Paul Bankman says:

      I'd still do it. Its not like I can even talk with the girls around my school. And I'm from out of state. Not only is there nobody to talk to, theres nobody to share an intellectual conversation with, which would be nice to have in a relationship, regardless with whomever it is with. In the end, we're all energy and we can control and manipulate all energy (talking about the relationship with peers or falling for one another).

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