Friday Faves: Movie Myths About Sex
November 26, 2010 Posted in Relationships, Sex
We all know the movies don’t necessarily contain the most accurate depictions of actual life. Or do we?
Whether we realize it or not, we all pick up subtle things from movies that we expect to find in our actual lives. And while I’m willing to overlook some of the media’s follies (like the fact that people in any foreign country all speak English), some of their depictions of sex are just. so. wrong.
Sex requires a soundtrack.
Sure, some people like to have sex to music and watching couples do it to some big, romantic song in the movies makes us all think music will enhance our orgasms, too. But how many times have you set your iTunes to random and had the Spongebob theme song come on in the middle of your session? Awkward! Sometimes it’s best to leave the music off while you’re getting frisky (unless you’re trying to drown out the noise so your roommates don’t hear). It will still be just as good.
Couples always finish together.
Not only do women orgasm every time they have sex in movies, but they always do it at the exact same time as their partner. Anyone who’s ever had sex in the real world knows this couldn’t be further from the truth for most sexual encounters.
Women never walk around naked after sex.
I don’t know about you girls, but I have never, ever ripped a sheet off of a bed to cover myself when I need to walk around the morning after sex. Nor do I immediately dress myself in my boyfriend’s oversized, button-up shirt.
Sex makes babies, no matter what.
Of course, sex can lead to pregnancy. But the recent barrage of unplanned-pregnancy movies and TV shows (Knocked Up, Juno, Secret Life of the American Teenager) would make you think birth control had never been invented.
Losing your virginity is a really, really, really big deal.
If you’re a female TV character, chances are you spend at least a season deciding if, when, and with whom you lose your virginity. And when you finally do make the choice, you either A. hurt someone you love, B. get pregnant, or C. feel horribly insecure afterward. And if you’re in a slasher movie, your virginity was probably the only thing keeping you alive!
Only beautiful women have sex.
Or husbands, careers, educations, friends, or any type of life worth living, for that matter.
[This story was originally posted by Kylie - Simmons College]
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OLSguys says:
Sat, 27th Nov 20102:50 pm
There is a great book at http://www.OurLittleSecret.co that talks about myths and truths with couples and singles in the bedroom. A best seller I believe, Ride'm Cowgirl is also available here.
Get it ! It's a great read for the both of you…
Emily says:
Sun, 28th Nov 20105:01 am
I don't really like walking around naked after sex. Maybe I'm just shy.
Osvaldo says:
Mon, 12th Mar 201211:28 pm
I can at least understand not atnwing to know major plot points (though I still disagree with it), but I can’t understand refusing to read a review, watching a trailer, or even knowing who stars in the film could possibly enhance your viewing experience. Someone liking a movie isn’t enough for me to want to see it I need to know why they liked it. Even the people who’s opinions I trust the most can occasionally recommend a terrible movie without reservations. We all have soft spots or blind spots that allow us to forgive otherwise terrible art. Sometimes these can form predictable patterns that allow us to take certain recommendations with a grain of salt, but sometimes your otherwise intelligent friend simply really likes a terrible movie.I saw Perfume (the trailer for which is embedded above) on a recommendation. The recommender isn’t necessarily someone whose tastes align with mine, but the recommendation was so emphatic (their favorite movie ), that I figured it had to be good, differences in tastes be damned. Boy, was I wrong. It is among the stupidest movies I have ever seen, and mind you, I used to be a teenage boy. If the opening moment of that trailer where the baby dramatically grabs the boys finger and smells it doesn’t make you laugh, I don’t know what could. It wasn’t until after the fact that I read reviews that suggested that the stupidity of the film was intentional that I could even fathom considering it good (it is actually quite successful at being a stupid movie). I’m not sure I buy it the stupidity of the movie is so straight-faced (including numerous examples of nostril imagery) that I still find it hard to believe it was intentional but at least having that theory made it possible for me to enjoy the movie rather than just feel better than it.I don’t know why that person recommended that film, but if I had known, maybe I could have made a more informed decision as to whether or not I would have liked it. I think more information is always better. Moreover, I disagree that more information could ever be a bad thing; sure, it might spoil some plot points, but do you really watch movies for the stories? I honestly don’t think I’ve ever seen a movie that surprised me with its plot. Most stories are perfectly predictable; good guys win, the lead couple gets together, the Titanic sinks, etc. Even the mind-bendingest plot-twisty movies spend so much of their run-times doing things that aren’t big final-act reveals that knowing what’s coming hardly ruins the experience. I’m more interested in how characters deal with situations or how themes are developed, and I want to know if these things are handled well before I sit down to watch a movie. This is why I’m also willing to re-watch movies (and I suspect the same is true for you) being surprised by the story is far from the most important part of the experience. There isn’t a big difference for me between watching and rewatching a movie, other than the risk that I may not like the movie I’ve never seen before, and that’s a risk I try to minimize with a little more research.