Tuffy Luv Gets Bugged About Beds

December 28, 2010 1:00 pm     Posted in Reality  Tuffy Luv g+ page

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By Tuffy Luv

Dear Tuffy Luv,

So to start, this is humiliating, but last Friday night I peed my bed. I’m a 24-year-old grad student and live in the dorms at my school. I have no idea what happened, and this was a completely random event. Anyways, my roommate found out (it was pretty easy, she was awake when I woke up soaked…), which was even more embarrassing. I got up, took my wet pajamas off and went to take a shower. When I got back to the room, I stripped my sheets and took everything to wash. When I got back, I sprayed my mattress with Lysol…I think I handled the situation very responsibly.

But Monday, I got an email from my RA, requesting a meeting with me, my roommate, and her boss, who runs the whole dorm. Come to find out, my roommate had taken pictures of my wet bed and clothes. In the meeting, they expressed their concern that a girl my age was “still wetting the bed,” which is apparently how my roommate explained the situation. My RA’s boss said I had to pay for a new mattress and am required to have a waterproof mattress cover on the new one. Having the mattress cover isn’t a big deal, but paying for the new mattress caused my account to be billed and now my parents are aware of the incident. My roommate also told EVERYBODY in our hall about my accident, a rumor that has circulated to many more people on campus and made me the target of many snide remarks. Up until now, we had a great relationship. But I have no idea what to do! This has been the most humiliating few days of my life. I really don’t want to live with her anymore-should I request a room transfer or what? I cannot believe this has become such a big deal!

If you could offer advice, I’d really appreciate it,
Thank you,
BW

Dear BW,

Oh, man. That sucks.

Well, these things happen, no? Once in a while, some horribly embarrassing incident occurs, and, happily, you really did deal with it well. As you say, you were responsible, and you were also considerate.

Unfortunately, we can’t say these things about your roommate.

Okay, first let’s get this part out of the way: health stuff, yes? I’m glad to hear this is the first time it happened. Probably it was just a total fluke. (Were you drinking? That’ll do it.) But if it happens again, you should go get it checked out by a doctor. There are, Tuffy just learned, a number of things that can cause a person to wet their bed even when they’re otherwise healthy. So, seriously, if you find yourself in the same situation again, get thee to the college clinic.

In the meantime, your roommate is a total bootch and you should definitely move out.

There is no way to salvage your relationship with this girl. Instead of asking if you were okay, she went behind your back and told everyone a very embarrassing and personal thing. Karma will get her; you just get out. Don’t just request a room transfer. Transfer out of the building. There is really no way for you to recover from this. Something crappy happened to you, and then your roommate made it crappier. I’m not telling you to run away from it, but I am telling you to GET away from it. Cut your losses and move and then never speak of it again.

As for the haters who bring it up, I’d just put on a sad face and say, “Oh man, I was really sick that night” and refuse to give any other details. Hopefully they’ll feel messed up for bringing it up (which they are) and, either way, you know not to deal with said individuals again.

And your roommate? Eff her in the ear. Don’t speak another word to her. Ever.

Sorry, man. Feel good.

Hearts & Skulls,

Tuffy Luv

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16 Comments on "Tuffy Luv Gets Bugged About Beds"

  1. Kenzie says:
    Tue, 28th Dec 20101:12 pm 

    What a b*tch move! I cannot believe your roommate is that low! I think the RAs (and everyone else) should be less concerned with you accidentally wetting the bed at 24, and more concerned with the fact that your roommate obviously has the mental capacity of a seven-year-old at age 24.

  2. Eimear says:
    Tue, 28th Dec 20102:54 pm 

    What a complete bitch! My god it was a once off thing, and it is embarrassing enough without her telling everyone. I really hope you're there the day karma catches up on her, and I request you to laugh, LOUDLY. Make sure she knows you're there. What a complete cow. But well done for acting like the mature one in this situation. If that was me, I think she'd be lucky to not have all her stuff thrown out the window!

  3. Alison says:
    Tue, 28th Dec 20102:59 pm 

    That's terrible! Instead of consulting you, she takes pictures and shows everybody?? I feel bad for her that she has to put others down to make herself feel better.

  4. Christy says:
    Tue, 28th Dec 20104:23 pm 

    What a terrible person your roommate is! ugh! I agree with Tuffy, and I also think youshould tell this girl, as nicely as possible, how much it hurt you that she revealed something so embarassing to you that really shouldn't have been a big deal. Tell her that you're moving out because you're mortified that she made a joke of you and how much it upset you. Then let karma do the rest. Dont' start a fight, just tell her how you feel and leave.

  5. Christy says:
    Tue, 28th Dec 20104:24 pm 

    That's happened to me before. it really is an uncontrollable thing. And I wonder how much of a b this girl is going to feel like if the girl ends up having a medical condition.

  6. Leah says:
    Tue, 28th Dec 20107:30 pm 

    god, that room mate is a total b*tch! Nothing of hers got ruined so why did she care about the mattress? I agree with Tuffy, never speak to her again and move out of the building entirely. And why did the RA and the dorm administrator care? Worse things have gotten on mattresses in the history of college life besides a totally sterile bodily fluid! They all seem to have the mental capacity of a five year old.

  7. jim says:
    Tue, 28th Dec 20108:40 pm 

    horrible roommate. BW, i wish you the best.

  8. Annie says:
    Tue, 28th Dec 20108:56 pm 

    Seriously? What an effing BITCH. Who would do that? She must have serious issues when she decides to not only inform the RA and those in charge of the incident, but to tell the entire hall as well is just immature.
    It was clearly a one-time thing and had nothing to do with anyone, but you. She is a bitch and you should move out. End of story.

  9. Annie says:
    Tue, 28th Dec 201011:31 pm 

    I don't understand why they made you buy a new mattress, too! That is just completely ridiculous and unnecessary.

    This has happened to me, too, don't worry about it. I had a dream that I was peeing…. and then I woke up covered in pee :( It was uncomfortable, but luckily, I got it all cleaned up before my roommate woke up (and she wasn't a bitch, like yours.)

    Good luck!!

  10. Maggie says:
    Wed, 29th Dec 20104:24 pm 

    Your roommate really should have been more discrete – there was no need to make such a big deal out of it by going to your RA. It was immature of her to blab it, especially when you guys are grad students. Also, bedwetting once isn't that big of a deal, but you should see a doctor if it happens more often. However, it's good that you have to buy a new mattress – you might not enjoy the inconvenience and cost, but put yourself in the shoes of the person who gets it after you! It's common courtesy.

  11. Ella says:
    Wed, 29th Dec 201010:42 pm 

    I had that happen too and I know tons of people who say that they have almost peed or peed because of dreams like that

  12. Ash says:
    Sat, 1st Jan 20112:26 pm 

    My roommate's a beeyotch too but I can't imagine her doing something this mean (mostly because she has basically no concept of personal hygiene besides showering–yuck!). It sounds like you handled it very well and it's not your fault at all but I would definitely have to agree that you get out of this situation. I'm hoping I can get out of mine, too, because I'm sick of living in a pig sty with someone who doesn't respect me at all.

  13. Kar says:
    Mon, 3rd Jan 201112:47 pm 

    First of all, once in a while bed wetting in adults is normal. I've had the occasional night where I downed a little too much water, and had the toilet dream, only to wake up and realize I wasn't actually in a bathroom. What I find interesting is that even though people have crazy nasty wet drippy sex on those beds (they're college students after all), you peed on it once (did you know urine is actually sterile – more sterile than saliva at least) and the RA had to get crazy.

    Also your roommate is a giant bitchhole who has no business being a grad student. I can't wait until she has kids and starts complaining to the dad that they wet the bed.

  14. Ellie says:
    Tue, 4th Jan 20114:33 am 

    don't sweat it………a friend of mine totally pissed herself on the metro a few months ago after a night of drinking – just couldn't hold it. It happens – embarrassing for her at the time but she laughs about it now

  15. Rangga says:
    Sun, 22nd Apr 20129:58 am 

    Kanji aren’t used fo English words, they are an integral part of Japanese: nouns, vdiectjaes, verbs, prounouns, etc. If you don’t learn kanji you can’t read Japanese!

  16. sashafierce says:
    Thu, 6th Sep 20121:12 pm 

    this happened to me last night … it was really embarassing and now i have to do a lot of laundry.. but im going to get some 409 and wipe up the mattress.. that should solve it

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