He Said/She Said: Sex…on your Period?
[He Said/She Said is a new series designed to help all our wonderfully confused readers figure out what he's really thinking. So every week we'll be throwing out a topic for debate...and unlike our fave dude, these guys won't be sugar coating anything for you. But before you jump into their heads (which seriously will make you feel like you need to shower), check out what we think!]
I think I can say with 100% certainty that nothing raises eyebrows (and elicits “EW. OMG. WTF. Nooooo.”) more than period sex. Seriously, just writing the words “period” and “sex” in the same article made me cringe a little.
And for very, very good reason. Beyond the fact that a woman riding the crimson wave is bleeding down there, right where all the happy business is going on, being on your period comes with a whole host of other issues. I mean, I think most women would agree that we’re far from our sexiest selves when we’re bloated, cramping, cranky and feeling generally dirty for 6 days in a row.
But once you get past all that, and you should, having sex when Aunt Flo is in town is just like sex any other day of the month. Actually, it’s better. Why? Because Mother Nature has this nasty habit of pumping up our hormones during that time of the month, making many of us want/crave/NEED sex more than ever.
So I say go for it. Ignore your insecurities and preconceived
ickiness notions. As long as you and your man have discussed it in advance and he’s game, why not take advantage of your hormones when they peak?
Look, just like the beautiful act of gettin’ freaky, surfing the crimson wave is natural. It does NOT make you some ruined woman where all romance goes out the window. The week your on your period doesn’t have to be off limits as long as you and your guy are on the same page. OK, so he might not be up for the usual foreplay, but so what? It’s not you and just because he doesn’t want to get up close and personal (literally) with your monthly gift doesn’t mean he doesn’t find you sexy and doesn’t want to get all freaky deeky with you.
Plus, rumor has it that sex relieves menstrual cramps, and you know that ish is way more fun than a heating pad.
I know that Period Week is one full of cramps, Midol, chocolate and your fat jeans but you’re still you and if your guy cant help but want you, don’t let your inhibitions get in the way of some good lovin’. Just remember to gear up with two kinds of protective gear: condoms are a necessity as the opening to your cervix is wider during your period, putting you at higher risk for pelvic infections, and you’ll want to throw down some towels and stick to positions where your body isn’t upright to minimize potential mess. Then do your thang, girl.
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