How To Be Sexy Without Being Whore-y

March 20, 2011 4:00 pm     Posted in Advice, Relationships  Ashley - University of Michigan g+ page


By Ashley

I don’t need to tell you what a whore is.  In fact, you have probably already seen the bottom half of her ass sticking out of her way-too-short “dress.”  She’s the one slurring her words at the club or messing around in the upper bedroom at the house party. We all know what she is (not) wearing and whom she has slept with. Now the more important question is: how do we avoid being her?

The difference between the girl with a remarkable man and the girl with a remarkable number of STDs manifests itself in a woman’s character. Of course too much cleavage and sexual activity can also play into this realm of whoredom, but these aspects are not nearly as important as how a sexy woman carries herself. To be sexy (and not whore-y), a woman has to be filled with playfulness, sexual entendres/innuendos, and mystery. In short, she must master the art of the tease.

Mastering Playfulness:

A tease doesn’t need to rock a mid-drift and sky-high heels to get attention. (She gets too much of it already.)  Instead, she gains and maintains a man’s attention through extreme amounts of playfulness. This can take place in numerous scenarios. Simply by turning her body, making eye contact, and smiling, she has already made the first move.  If the man has enough guts, he will approach her. It’s just that simple.

After obtaining a man’s interest, a tease walks the fine line between approachable and unobtainable. Think: “Sure you can flirt me, but that doesn’t mean you’re going home with me.” This can be accomplished through coy behavior and the right amount of provoking. Put him down a little. Make harmless fun of him. Warning: it is important to do this about meaningless topics (like his favorite football team or love for girlie martinis, not his baby beer gut or the way his ears stick out), maintain a smile, and keep an “I’m just kidding,” attitude the entire time. The goal is not to piss the guy off, but to encourage him to play along.

You’re from Italy? Oh, you know what they say about Italians, don’t you?

[These are best played with a little push or nudge to add physical contact.]

Mastering Sexual Entendres & Innuendos:

The English language is filled with suggestive vocabulary. From “large” and “hard” to “wet” and “fast”, words with double meanings are great for throwing into casual conversation. A tease wants to imply “sex” without explicitly saying anything about it. It is vital to leave him wondering: “Did she mean to refer that or am I just imagining it?”

What are you doing tonight? You know I am always up for anything.

Overall, the point is to get the man thinking of sex without knowing you are thinking the same thing. But make sure to keep a balance. If you start coming off as too forward, make sure to mention that you are going to a baseball game with Steve later in the week, “forget” to answer one of his text messages, or leave early in a conversation. Men like competition and it is always important for a tease to leave before she is left.

Will you excuse me for a second? My friend, John, just walked in and I need to go say hello.

[Constantly switching from sexual flirtation and pulling away will keep him wanting more!]

Mastering Mystery:

Never give too much away! The more secrets a woman appears to have, the more interesting she becomes. This can be accomplished by refusing to give complete answers to questions or by returning his questions back to him.

I had a dream about you last night. I can’t tell you about it here. But it was a good dream!

Generally, a tease wants to leave most of the work to his imagination. If she is showing off the girls, she’ll cover up with some blue-jeans. If she is rocking her legs, she’ll cover up with a conservative top. Nothing is ever too-low, too-short, or too-explicit. A tease wants to leave a man needing to see more of her. She is Alluring. Confident. Sexy.

But definitely, absolutely not a whore.

77 Comments on "How To Be Sexy Without Being Whore-y"

  1. Gabrielle says:
    Sun, 20th Mar 20115:23 pm 

    Quit bagging on people who dare to have more sex than you. Being judgemental doesn't make you sexy.

  2. sophie says:
    Sun, 20th Mar 20116:23 pm 

    To me the whole idea of being a tease is just as sexist as being 'whorey'. Women should be genuine and in touch with their sensuality, and not have to put up this act of being a flirtatious tease.

  3. Rachel says:
    Sun, 20th Mar 20118:11 pm 

    And why does a woman have to play all of these games instead of just being genuine?

  4. Eimear says:
    Sun, 20th Mar 20119:04 pm 

    My goodness I have never come across an article as judgemental as this! If a girl chooses to act that way, leave her off. It's none of your concern. And a filthy mouth will not get you anywhere.

  5. alexandra says:
    Sun, 20th Mar 20119:04 pm 

    oh… well… i was going to say that being sexy is just a classier version of being whorey, but these lessons don't seem to fit that criteria… this should possibly be called "annoyingly playing hard to get instead of being whorey"

  6. Cassandra says:
    Sun, 20th Mar 20119:14 pm 

    " The more secrets a woman appears to have, the more interesting she becomes. This can be accomplished by refusing to give complete answers to questions or by returning his questions back to him."

    um, that's not sexy, that's just annoying. And kind of shady, I'd be more inclined to think she was sexy if she was being honest. Also, it's "midriff", not mid-drift, and "whom she has slept with" should PROBABLY be "with whom she has slept."

  7. Just Plain Slutty says:
    Sun, 20th Mar 201111:28 pm 

    Having an STD doesn't make you a whore. Neither does too much cleavage, getting drunk at a club or messing around with someone at a party.
    Having sex with someone for money makes you a whore.

  8. Alannah says:
    Mon, 21st Mar 201112:18 am 

    well i think this post is fantastic. :)

  9. sarah says:
    Mon, 21st Mar 20112:57 am 

    whom… with and with whom… are both correct by modern american english usage (past 50 years).

  10. TisButAFish says:
    Mon, 21st Mar 20114:43 am 

    meh, but is it not fun to play on words? doesn't have to be an act but a mutually acknowledged game.

  11. Jenna says:
    Mon, 21st Mar 20117:24 am 

    I do get the impression from these kind of articles posted here that the self esteem of most college girls must be at an all time low. Apparently in order to maintain the respect of our peers (and ourselves) we must have sufficient male attention, preferably a boyfriend. To attract a boy we need to lead him through an elaborate array of tricks and illusions. We must give him sex, not too much or too soon or he'll think you're a cheap whore, not too little or he won't be interested. Amid all this confusion and insecurity we shouldn't hesitate to denigrate the opposition (our female peers).

  12. amorous says:
    Mon, 21st Mar 20118:02 am 

    The difference between the girl with a remarkable man and the girl with a remarkable number of STDs manifests itself in a woman’s character.

    might just the the wisest statement i've ever read.

  13. RCM says:
    Mon, 21st Mar 20118:31 am 

    "You’re from Italy? Oh, you know what they say about Italians, don’t you?"

    Do you realize that this actually just sounds ridiculous? And possibly offensive/stereotypical? I don't understand how this is your example of being playful. What exactly, out of curiosity, is one supposed to say when he responds "no, what do they say? really, what do they say?"

    this entire article was at the very least, a bit ridiculous. at the worst, judgmental and advocating playing games to attract men. God forbid you act "whore-y"

  14. jackhammer says:
    Mon, 21st Mar 20119:39 am 

    First of all…in response to an earlier comment:

    Having an STD doesn't make you a whore. Neither does too much cleavage, getting drunk at a club or messing around with someone at a party.
    Having sex with someone for money makes you a whore.

    No, honey that just makes you a prostitute. I feel that this article hits home for one to many girls and the reason they are offended is because they are in denial. I have to agree with this article. The art of seduction in college life has often been reduced to a couple shots of alcohol and a butt grab. If this article is too much for you, then open your eyes and see what is going on around you! Go ahead and read a Tucker Max book while you are at it. Excellent article!

  15. Cassandra says:
    Mon, 21st Mar 20119:52 am 

    i'm not arguing the use of "whom". I'm arguing the preposition with which the sentence was ended.

  16. superman says:
    Mon, 21st Mar 20119:54 am 

    If that is what you take away from this article then you are not reading it. The article was not written to define being a whore. Thank you for the definition and perhaps you should reread the article.

  17. DontBeDumb says:
    Mon, 21st Mar 20119:58 am 

    No having sex with someone for money makes you a prostitute.

  18. sara says:
    Mon, 21st Mar 201110:02 am 

    i liked this article! nice tips! and the italian comment, if said in the correct tone (jokingly) could definitely come across as flirty. said with the right tone it shouldn't offend.

  19. Laura says:
    Mon, 21st Mar 201110:03 am 

    Very insgihtful!

  20. Alison says:
    Mon, 21st Mar 201112:36 pm 

    @jackhammer agree.

    Too many college girls seem to have the slightest idea how to be more sly and less ehh, tiny outfits.

    It seems as if the word whore used in this article was less literal – girl who sleeps around – and more college girls being irresponsible/drunken/obnoxious to attract the opposite sex.

  21. Madison says:
    Mon, 21st Mar 201112:48 pm 

    Love it! So clever, and it's always fun to be mysterious! Some people are getting a bit defensive… hahaha.

  22. Renee says:
    Mon, 21st Mar 201112:59 pm 

    Very cool article. I know way to many girls who feel helpless in their love lives because they dont wanna let go of there standards and feel they cant compete with those whose standards are a bit less conservative then them. Its the perfect how to flirt guide.

    To those who are trashing this article– How about you read it with an open mind. she is not saying every girl who has done this once is a whore or that your whole life is about getting a boyfriend. She is simply suggesting an alternative to flirting (for those who lack some confidence) without crossing that line. in no way is she saying to not be yourself- shes offering a way to flirt without being slutty. Actually very pro feminist!

    loved it.

  23. Rachel says:
    Mon, 21st Mar 20111:36 pm 

    Contrary to what people seem to think, "whore" is a synonym of "prostitute" NOT "slut".

  24. Rachel says:
    Mon, 21st Mar 20111:41 pm 

    If you look up the word "whore" in the dictionary, you'll find that the definition is "prostitute".

    Honestly, I'd rather be celibate and single than as fake as this article suggests.

  25. Sarah says:
    Mon, 21st Mar 20114:16 pm 

    Ashley, I think you're a good writer, your style is lyrical and your word choice original. But I have to agree with the majority of the comments, the article put forths a sexist view, which is not feminist unless one is living in the 1970s or coming from a conservative upbringing where premarital sex is a big emancipation. In the 70s, 80s, 90s women did have to play all sorts of stereotypical games, embody all sorts of media-produced types to get a man's attention and society's acceptance. Women faced difficulties developing their identity and confidence because of pressures to be a certain "normative" way (this is still true today in many traditional families). This article suggest those same 1990s Mtv-fraternity girl type stereotypes. So, I think the article is a bit old fashioned and could be updated with a couple courses in Sexuality Studies or Gender Studies. Nowadays sexuality is much more complex, fluid and less taboo-y. Nowadays people can act more honestly and have hotter (less repressed) sex. And this sex is not all heterosexual or one-on-one either. Many of our readers are bi, gay, part of threesomes, foursomes, straights exploring the spectrum, men who want to flirt with women….ad infinitum, and we have been completely left out of your article, maybe unintentionally. The division between men and women is much blurrier than you suggest.

  26. lynn says:
    Mon, 21st Mar 20115:43 pm 

    i liked your article, i think teasing is fun, it works wonders and has nothing to do with sexism.
    it takes a loooot of selfsteem to pull tiny jokes to other people and be able to take back the jokes or even negas. guys like it, it keeps them interested, it is part of the thrill of the chase, just don't be rude or offensive and that's it, no harm done.

    it is not related at all with not being genuine, you can keep the mistery and being fully honest, it's only about to choose the right time and sentence to drop something about you.
    it sound very different "well, i don't know about you, but i'm an apple pie junkie and i know this awesome coffe shop that has it. would like to join me and give it a try?"
    to " i like apple pie. ask me out. i chose the place."
    being a tease is about learning how to pull the pleasure buttons of people without being politicaly incorrect and just making people have a good time around you.

  27. Just Plain Slutty says:
    Mon, 21st Mar 20116:34 pm 

    The first sentence of the article is "I don’t need to tell you what a whore is…". The article then precedes to list a bunch of random scenarios that engaging in apparently means you have sex for money/exchange of goods/whatever. Not to mention, if you read some of the comments on this article – girls don't know the definition of whore. I looked it up and yes, it means prostitute.
    Here's why that pissed me off: because I want to be able to do whatever I want as a woman and not have to deal with being labelled as a prostitute. Just because I dress slutty or have casual sex or get drunk at a club or have an STD (hey kiddies – that can happen if you have sex once!) doesn't mean I'm a whore or a slut or what have you. I was under the impression that CC was progressive enough to understand that.
    Oh and lastly, you are completely correct. I didn't closely read the article. Why? Because I don't need an article on some website to tell me how to get laid. :)

  28. ahgork says:
    Mon, 21st Mar 20116:54 pm 

    Thank you all for your interest in my article!

  29. Melissa says:
    Mon, 21st Mar 20118:26 pm 

    I think the point of this article is to know where to draw the line between being alluring and sloppy. Things like word play do n't make you fake, it's just a fun idea. Using the general college definition of a whore, etc. does make society seem sexist, but using societal terms everyone is familiar with doesn't make *you* sexist. I loved it.

  30. criolle johnny says:
    Mon, 21st Mar 20118:27 pm 

    There is a difference between teasing and taunting.
    There is a difference between flirting and flaunting.
    There is a difference between sexy and slutty.

    Great article, the next line is on you or your readers.

  31. modern woman says:
    Mon, 21st Mar 201110:03 pm 

    Thank you for living up to the stereotype that women have to play games to win a man. Very 1950's of you.

  32. Caitlyn H. says:
    Mon, 21st Mar 201110:29 pm 

    It's not fake rachel, it's about wit and being alert and reacting. And really, I don't think she meant whore as in webster's version of whore. I think she was talking more Mean Girls version of whore. get a life.

  33. Madison says:
    Tue, 22nd Mar 20111:12 am 

    Thank you for giving some fun examples on how to take a different and mysterious approach to flirting, it's good to switch it up and be different. : )

  34. Rachel says:
    Tue, 22nd Mar 20111:46 pm 

    This article seems to offer a very contrived way of being witty and alert, which I consider fake. As for the whore thing, I was replying to someone else who decided to nitpick definitions, not to author.

    Honestly, your post seemed intelligent and reasonable until I got to the last sentence, which was just rude, uncalled for, and seemed rather immature : /

  35. An Actual Escort says:
    Wed, 23rd Mar 20113:28 am 

    I find your use of the whore to be incorrect and disgusting. A woman who haves sex with men for money is a prostitute, not a drunken, frat-loving floozy. Please expand your vocabulary and develop some self-esteem. Thank you.

  36. allie says:
    Wed, 23rd Mar 20111:54 pm 

    though i do not believe in slut shaming, i do believe that a women should not dress "slutty". it's just sad to see that period. i do not want to see your ass hanging out of your dress, i do not care how hot or "rockin" your body is or how hot you think it is. you can be sexy with out having to resort to wearing certain cloths. but i feel we should get rid of the word slutty and just say they look like female douche bags! because i know guys who dress sleazy (male word for slutty) and they to me are douche bags. getting trashed every night is not good for either sex, male or female. though i will exempt getting drunk to once a week, we have all been there, there is no excuse to getting black out drunk almost every single weekend!

  37. Kar says:
    Wed, 23rd Mar 20115:53 pm 

    I expected a little more from College Candy. I've followed this site for the past 2 years, and it saddens me to see articles like this here.

    You could have just left this as a simple 'How to Catch a Guys Attention", but no, you had to include catty slut bashing and an "us vs. them" ideology (us good girls vs. them evil sluts). Whatever happened to sisterhood, or, if not sisterhood, not giving a fuck about what other people chose to do with their lives?

    Please take a look at this site: http://finallyfeminism101.wordpress.com/2010/04/0…

    We're women in college. Something that wasn't even possible 200 years ago. This whole "omg look at what she's wearing. I bet she's a total slut!" is immature, pointless, and also a pretty big indicator of insecurity or just plain conceitedness. You're probably rolling your eyes, thanking I'm some debby downer with no sense of humor. Well, my sense of humor doesn't involve degrading fellow women to make myself feel superior.

    Grow up.

  38. Nicole says:
    Wed, 23rd Mar 201111:14 pm 

    Next line: There is a difference between….steamy and smutty

  39. Katie says:
    Thu, 24th Mar 201112:30 am 

    I really think it's sad how we are still so judgmental and hateful of our fellow sisters. It's 2011!! Aren't we past this yet?? Guys can have as many partners as they want, we really don't care…. Yet we judge girls and call them whores and sluts. Why do you believe you have the right to judge someone else's life choices?? And I'm not saying this because I am labeled a slut or anything. I simply do not like it when others make unfair judgments about other people.

  40. Clare says:
    Fri, 25th Mar 20111:59 am 

    Sheesh stop bagging on her. Some girls are painfully unaware of how to flirt and eat this type of thing up. The article isn't necessarily sexist. Some women have no problem embracing traditional gender roles, and frankly, many of these tips are time-honored suggestions. In other words, they WORK most of the time.

    It would be better if you critiqued the article objectively, pointing out any "mistakes" as you may see them rather that posting your inflammatory opinions and slamming the author. She is entitled to her opinon and she responded very maturely to the unkind things written to her. There is no point in being nasty. Does it make you feel good to write unkind things to someone who did absolutely nothing to hurt you?

    If you don't like or agree with the article, fine. Please be classy about your criticism though.

  41. Cathy says:
    Fri, 25th Mar 20113:43 am 

    This article was not sexist. Maybe "whore" wasn't the best choice of words because it clearly offended many people. Honestly though, if a man was infested with a bunch of STD's and went around doing similar stuff, I'd compare him the same way as I would a woman.

    I usually never comment on articles but I found the constant bashing by readers to be ridiculous and just wanted the author to know that this was a good article. People are getting way too defensive and are saying mean words that don't make any sense.

  42. marlena says:
    Sat, 26th Mar 20116:18 pm 

    the sexiest thing there is, is just to BE YOURSELF!!! if your a sexhungry nympho and wanne fuck the world GO AHEAHD!!! if your a virgin waiting for the right guy, GO AHEAD!!!! there are no rules or tricks.. this is LIFE!!! not a game… get with it.. seriously this is dumb…

  43. Nicole says:
    Sat, 26th Mar 201110:25 pm 

    There is more to women than their pussies. Just because some of us are proud of our bodies and want to show them off from time to time does not make us worthless. That link sounds more like serious jealousy, or it was written by a dude.

  44. Liz says:
    Sun, 27th Mar 20117:25 pm 

    This is sexist. Stop slut-bashing. "She’s the one slurring her words at the club or messing around in the upper bedroom at the house party. We all know what she is (not) wearing and whom she has slept with. " Being drunk and having sex doesn't make a person a whore! Why can't she wear what she wants and sleep with who she wants? Stop hating on other girls.

  45. MissRealist says:
    Sun, 27th Mar 20118:47 pm 

    Well, I think this article is dead on. Sexual flirting is fun and so is harmless, innocent flirting. It is the spice of life and it makes things hot and exciting! Anyone who is so vehemently against such harmless games has some serious issues such as low self esteem or no confidence. We are flirting subconsciously at times, and we are not even aware that we are doing it. Even people who proclaim to be against such measures are doing so from time to time. I say if you have the chops, do it. If you don't have the chops, then fix yourself! Men and women who engage in these delicious little games usually feel very good about themselves and enjoy the teasing and fun attached to such flirting! Huzzah!

  46. Clar says:
    Sun, 27th Mar 201110:39 pm 

    If this is what I am supposed to do to get someone to like me then I really do not care to do it. Why would anyone want to be a "tease" why pretend junk like that….it's just a new way of trying to get attention. It's using the possibility of sex to get guys to like you just like wearing revealing clothes can be to get attention. What is the point of playing games like this….in the end you probably won't get a great guy (because they are attracted to you for the possibility of sex) and if you did they wouldn't even have the chance to be attracted to you without you putting on an act. Also….what other people do should not be anyone's business. Sex is a personal choice and women should not be called whores or sluts if they choose to have sex with a number of people. True perhaps wearing clothes that are extremely revealing may not be a good choice and maybe sleeping around may lead to an STD but it is still very wrong to put down other women. And why should women have to hint of sexuality and be a "tease" in order to hold onto a man…this is like saying that you aren't good enough, interesting enough…without playing games in order to be loved. I for one believe you don't need to play games to get attention and also it's really not that different than sleeping around. It's just trying to turn a guy on with a subtler approach than grabbing his junk.

  47. JSK says:
    Mon, 28th Mar 20119:46 pm 

    kind of funny how you wrote an article about being whore-y when your picture looks whore-y

  48. real woman says:
    Sat, 16th Apr 20119:42 am 

    this is terrible advice….did we just go back to the 1950's where women couldnt openly express their sexuality? and I don't think you understand men quite as well as you think you do….I was very forward about what I wanted when I began dating my current boyfriend, and he appreciated that I don't play games or "play hard to get"….that shit is for girls, not women.

  49. 2011 says:
    Sun, 24th Apr 20118:40 pm 

    I thought this was great — thanks! If you want to be the girl who goes out and "gets it" (not that the girl described in this article doesn't!), then by all means that is your choice and all the more power to you. But for those of us who would like to flirt with guys and gain their interest without putting it all out there, this post was great. Thanks, Ashley!

  50. Switzerland says:
    Thu, 28th Apr 20112:24 am 

    I think that everyone has their own point of view on how to be attractive or unattractive. There is a fine line between sexy and slutty. I do agree with the comment that having STD's does not define a slut and there are plenty of respectable people who have them. As for the comments about being "genuine", What if it was that persons genuine personality to be a bit of a tease, So I think that comment was a total oxymoron. I believe this article is a suggestion, No one is saying you have to be this way and being in a free country you should have the right to express your feelings towards topics. Also I would like to say that the Italian line is hilarious and that I loved it, I am third generation Italian. :) love the article.

  51. Julie says:
    Mon, 16th May 201110:35 pm 

    Not in today's society. Today, the connotation of the word "whore" is someone who is sexually promiscuous. It doesn't matter what Webster says. Just like "tight" means cool and "fucked up" means wrong. It's called slang.

    And even if you want to get into the nitty gritty:

    Dictionary.com:
    whore: a woman who engages in promiscuous sexual intercourse, usually* for money; prostitute; harlot; strumpet.

    (Note: USUALL does not = ALWAYS)

    UrbanDictionary.com
    whore: A woman that sleeps with everyone but YOU!!!!!
    SEE: SLUT – A woman that sleeps with everyone.

    There's no point in bickering over semantics. Get something better to do with your life. If you didn't like the article, don't read it and don't waste your time commenting on it. Get over yourself. =)

  52. fjkdl;s says:
    Wed, 18th May 201111:10 am 

    this is so lame. acting like a tease will make a man want to sleep with you, and once hes done that, hell move on to another "challenge." Act like a real class act and youll have a sweetheart for life.

  53. Daylynn says:
    Wed, 1st Jun 20116:27 pm 

    because men are NEVER genuine. playing games too just puts you on equal footing and allows you to have some control over the situation.

  54. sam says:
    Wed, 1st Jun 20116:29 pm 

    spoken like a true whore…

  55. Rachelle says:
    Tue, 28th Jun 20119:11 pm 

    I feel the people on here is reading too much into the article. She's giving advice people, obviously you clicked on the link to read what she had to say and her tips that she learned and have worked for her. Why does everything have to be labeled!?!

  56. MLA says:
    Wed, 29th Jun 20114:01 am 

    let me guess, you are all of the above but not a whore.

  57. bree says:
    Thu, 7th Jul 20114:18 pm 

    it seems to me that a lot of people are taking this article a little too personally. the author has an opinion just like the rest of you. i really enjoyed the article because i know firsthand that stuff like this works in the real world, and yes, girls in the real world refer to girls that act sloppy and sleep around as “whores” unfortunately. no, its not fair to judge, but nevertheless, judgement happens everywhere. over half the comments here are judging the author for this article, so what makes you any better?

    honestly, guys love a playful women that isnt afraid to have a sense of humor. and you can still be your sexy self while doing it. in my opinion, this article isnt meant for girls to follow it to the letter, but rather as a guideline so it can be tweaked to fit the individual. you dont have to say exactly what the author says or do exactly what the author mentions. i think it can be suited to the girl reading it. do what works for you; life is about trial and error. after all, this article is just advice, so you can choose to take it or not, but that doesnt mean you need to be vicious or catty about it.

  58. bree says:
    Thu, 7th Jul 20114:18 pm 

    it seems to me that a lot of people are taking this article a little too personally. the author has an opinion just like the rest of you. i really enjoyed the article because i know firsthand that stuff like this works in the real world, and yes, girls in the real world refer to girls that act sloppy and sleep around as “whores” unfortunately. no, its not fair to judge, but nevertheless, judgement happens everywhere. over half the comments here are judging the author for this article, so what makes you any better?
    honestly, guys love a playful women that isnt afraid to have a sense of humor. and you can still be your sexy self while doing it. in my opinion, this article isnt meant for girls to follow it to the letter, but rather as a guideline so it can be tweaked to fit the individual. you dont have to say exactly what the author says or do exactly what the author mentions. i think it can be suited to the girl reading it. do what works for you; life is about trial and error. after all, this article is just advice, so you can choose to take it or not, but that doesnt mean you need to be vicious or catty about it.

  59. Lola says:
    Sun, 10th Jul 201112:52 pm 

    I think all these negative readers to get a grip – if you intentionally go out a the weekends looking for a one night stand, and wearing clothes that barely cover you then yes, you will get a name about yourself. You cannot honestly tell me you have never went out, seen the way someone looks, or dresses and not said something about them?

  60. Emily says:
    Sat, 16th Jul 201111:31 pm 

    It's just to speed things up, really. If you were 100% direct with someone it would freak them out, and "games" like this are a way to get him thinking what you're thinking and wanting what you're wanting without being too forward.

  61. Brey says:
    Tue, 26th Jul 20119:27 am 

    No having sex with someone for money makes you a prostitute, sleeping with anything with a dick and being a bitch who acts like they know it all makes you a whore.

  62. Merie says:
    Wed, 3rd Aug 201110:58 pm 

    Did you ACTUALLY just use urban dictionary as a credible source?? Get over trying to prove yourself

  63. Katie says:
    Wed, 17th Aug 20116:06 am 

    Hmmm…obviously all of the negative comments must be from whores. Kudos to defending yourselves ladies! Ya gotta stick together ;)

  64. Aurora says:
    Thu, 18th Aug 20111:09 am 

    I myself think that what is explained here is too much but, this is in the right direction

  65. zentango says:
    Wed, 31st Aug 20113:26 am 

    Hi CC – I have taught tango argentino in 14 years in several countries and I can tell you that one of the best ways to become sexy is to learn to dance the tango argentino (close embrace style)….many times, I have seen shy, unasured, plain women come to tango and in six months an incredible transformation begins to emerge….all of a sudden they walk better, the dress elegant, they begin to smile…REALLY IT'S INCREDIBLE!! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=diCE4aEoiOY

  66. Isobelle says:
    Sun, 2nd Oct 20118:02 am 

    Tru dat

  67. Jon says:
    Mon, 26th Dec 201112:18 am 

    Lol thank God for all the women here refuting the author for giving bad advice. I'm a guy and was worried that all the girls would stop wearing too short dresses.

  68. Anon says:
    Thu, 17th Jan 20133:48 pm 

    False dat. Dare to have more sex then you? What a pathetic argument. Giving in to lust is a sign of weakness, not courage.

  69. Anon says:
    Thu, 17th Jan 20133:53 pm 

    Uh, yes having casual sex does make you a slut. Sorry, your entire argument has just become invalid.

  70. Anon says:
    Thu, 17th Jan 20134:00 pm 

    Nothing's wrong with flirting a bit or dressing up revealingly. I'm all for it! The problem is when people (either gender) have more then one sex partner in the course of a month, THEN they are garbage and should be treated as such.

  71. Anonymo says:
    Wed, 1st May 201310:32 pm 

    Anon, technically (meaning according to its actual definition) the term "slut" refers to someone without morals, not someone who has casual sex. Why do you think it's not okay for Just Plain Slutty to have casual sex?

    I can see her point about how common it is for people to get involved in others' business and unfairly categorize women as whores. Since she is clearly not a whore (because she's not being paid for sex), what about her argument is invalid?

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