Tuffy Luv Sez Take a Chance for Love
Q?! A. Ask TuffyLuv@collegecandy.com.
Dear Tuffy Luv,
Girl, I need your all-knowing wisdom BAD!! I have two boys…and it’s come time for me to choose between the two. Here’s the problem: they’re opposites!
On one hand, we have G. The sensitive, intelligent musician. After meeting just a couple months ago, we went through a period of hanging out everyday and frequent (no-sex) sleepovers, but we’ve since cooled down. I suppose you’d call us glorified FWB, although we actually like each other! (LOL?) This was fine and good, until I realized I was starting to blow him off to hang out with what I affectionately call “my boys,” my group of all-male best friends. Which leads us to….
B. The guy’s guy. We’re only friends at this point, but since we first met (through our mutual male best friend, C), there’s been this crazy sexual tension and the other guys in our group are constantly picking on us. He’s not the smartest fella in the world, but we have the same sense of humor, and he’s incredibly protective and sweet!
My question for you is: do I take a chance on B or remain with my current guy, G? Which would you choose?! Please help!!
Go with B.
You clearly are over it with G. I mean, it’s like–please, girl.
Sometimes relationships end. In fact, almost ALL relationships end. (All if we’re being technical about the big D-E-A-T-H, but let’s just be like less morbid here.)
Your time with G is over. It’s nothing personal, right? He’s okay. You like him. But, like you said, more as a FRIEND.
The great thing is, you have a ton of male friends. So G will transfer over juuuuust fine.
Why waste your time? Go out and have fun. Chances are, B won’t be The One (or, like, One of The Major Ones), but how the floop are you going to know if you don’t go for it?! Don’t cheat. Don’t play games. Just tell G things aren’t working out but you’d love to stay friends, and then go hang out with Mr. B.
I have a feeling G’s gonna see it coming.
See, we need to be in good relationships, Tuffettes. And if we’re not in good relationships–good meaning HEALTHY, SAFE, AND ENJOYABLE–then we get out of them. And that’s the strong woman’s way.
Well, you asked what Tuffy’d do so I’m-a tell you. Tuffy digs them artist types (that’s Tuffy’s man in a nutshell–like he’d sit still in one). But Tuffy also would rather shoop in a broom closet than stay with someone out of fear.
So go, girl. If you settle, I’ll cut you.
Hearts & Skulls,
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