The Weekly Ten: Bad Boy Behavior

May 30, 2011 9:00 am     Posted in Featured Right, HaHa, Relationships  Jenn Inzetta g+ page

Men and women operate differently.


By Jenn Inzetta

That’s an understatement if I ever heard one, but really it’s the simplest way to explain a complicated situation. It’s an answer to an age-old question. It’s the reasoning behind Men are From Mars and Women are From Venus.  It’s not an absolute, that’s for sure. But for the most part men and women operate on very different wave lengths for a number of different reasons. And because of that we can sometimes get our signals crossed. Because of that we do things that baffle the other sex. Things that annoy the other sex. Things the other sex really wishes we didn’t do…

But I’m not here to discuss out faults. I’m here to discuss their faults.

The things they do that drive us crazy.

10. The sports obsession.  Sports are a big deal for guys. And I can even understand why when they’re the ones playing but I will never fathom the deep obsession and devotion to certain sports teams. I understand that it exists and I respect that. But I just don’t get it.

9. Inability to remember dates. Birthdays. Anniversaries. Parties. It doesn’t matter what the date is or how long they’ve known about it. Men can never remember dates. I guess they’re big picture people rather than attention to detail people, like say, a lot of women.

8. Not texting back. Or maybe even worse: texting back with just one word, or one letter. “K” K? Why is that always the response? Is it because you’re afraid to say the wrong thing or because you’re just too lazy to type?And I already know you don’t like to talk on the phone. What’s with the lack of communication? Give a little, guys.

7. Choosing videogames over us. What is it that Call of Duty has that we don’t? The guns? The guys in uniform? The fact that they don’t actually exist? It’s just a video game boys. Put down the controller and get dressed. We’re going out.

6. Leave the toilet seat up. I know, I know. I know. This one is old news it’s a battle men and women have been fighting for a very, very long time. There is no winner. I get that. But still it needs to be said. It’s annoying.

5. Ordering for us. This might be more of a personal pet peeve than a general consensus but I hate it when a guy orders for me. Especially without consulting me first. I don’t care how amazing you think their burgers are. Maybe I don’t want a burger. Maybe you should take the time to find out.

4. Inability to multitask. According to my freshman year anthropology class women are better multitaskers than men because back in the days of hunters and gatherers they were the hunters, and we were the gatherers. All of our responsibilities involved doing more than one task at a time while men focused solely on bringing home the bacon…er bison?

3. Cat calls. Rude and lewd and ridiculous. I promise you we don’t find it flattering.

2. Not having a plan. I’m not saying you have to plan every date, every time. In fact that would probably annoy me. But in the beginning, especially if you’re the one that asked me out, the least you could do is have a semblance of a plan. Dinner and a movie. It’s not that difficult. Why do you resist the plan?

1. Disappearing instead of breaking up with us. This little move has been pulled on me and a few of my friends, and it’s something I will always hate. Breaking up is awkward and uncomfortable and no one wants to do it. But that doesn’t mean you don’t have to do it or that you shouldn’t. Because you know what’s even more awkward? Running into that girl you haven’t seen since you dropped her at her door a year later.

There’s got to be more than this. Spill it ladies. What will you never understand about men?

11 Comments on "The Weekly Ten: Bad Boy Behavior"

  1. Brenda says:
    Mon, 30th May 20119:29 am 

    I don't think we can really generalize to that extent. There are a lot of guys who don't exhibit this type of behavior and there are girls who do act in the ways you listed. I think men and women are fundamentally the same: rational, sensitive beings. We only act differently because we are treated differently. As soon as we stop using a guy's sex as an excuse for why he is a loser, the sooner we can start attracting and dating non-losers. Men respond to your expectations of them. There are plenty of considerate, thoughtful guys out there. No guy friend of mine has EVER cat-called a woman and if a boyfriend chose videogames over me, he would no longer be my boyfriend.

  2. Meghan says:
    Mon, 30th May 201110:23 am 

    Though there are differences between me and my boyfriend and communication problems, he definitely does not make any of the mistakes above. I know these are generalizations, but they are pretty large ones. I feel like these only apply to ether 1). High school boys (and why would we be dating high schoolers) or 2). Huge jerks that use women (and I sure hope that none of us would be dating a guy like that). If a man EVER cat-called me, I would be DONE. Maybe it's the fault of many women who take that crap. I don't know any guy who would ever do that either, though.

    My boyfriend remembers every date of anything that's ever been of any significance of our relationship. Though he doesn't necessarily "plan" dates anymore, he did in the beginning, and we've been dating for a year now, so normally we do the planning together. Plus, I'm pretty spur-of-the-moment, planning doesn't go with my personality. I do more the ordering than he does for me, and though he plays sports and videogames, I can say with confidence that he would not pick those over me. That being said, I am not a needy bitch who demands constant attention at all times. So, if he is playing Mario Kart, I simply choose to let him have his fun and we do something later. Simple.

    And I agree with Brenda. We are the same. Thanks to society and the roles placed on gender, we act different, because we are told to. It's so ingrained in us now that we can't even tell.

  3. hayley says:
    Mon, 30th May 201111:07 am 

    ha. they don't all apply at the same time to the say guy,but atleast one applies to every guy I've dated. especially the video game point where you said get dressed,we are going out! touche!
    i have had guys order for me too. ha. i don't eat red meat dude,i want chicken. atleast if you're gonna order for me, know what i like!

    haa. kudos.

  4. Brittany says:
    Mon, 30th May 201112:05 pm 

    My boyfriend is well out of high school and not a huge jerk that is using me and is still obsessed with sports (as most men are) and loves video games( sometimes to an annoying level). He also sometimes leaves the toilet seat up and I am a much better multi-tasker than him. Just because my boyfriend would rather play video games or watch sports (although I'm obsessed with my sports teams too) rather than my hobbies, baking and watching wedding shows, doesn't make him an immature high schooler or a womanizer.

    Although these are generalizations, a lot of them are true. The few, such as not responding to texts or disappearing or ordering for a women are signs of an immature jerk.

  5. rox says:
    Mon, 30th May 20118:20 pm 

    I believe that the whole nature vs nurture argument has not come to the conclusion you just stated, regardless of how you feel about it.
    Men are not biologically the same as women. We have a lot in common, but you can't say that nurturing and gender-stereotypes are the only cause for our different tendencies. That is scientifically inaccurate. Look up Dr. Money's study on sexual reassignment for a very classic example.
    I also don't understand "If a man EVER cat-called me, I would be DONE." A cat-call does not entail that your boyfriend whistles and calls you a hot piece of ass. It is done by strangers who want to get your attention. They are annoying, and usually degrading, but I do not know what you are talking about when you complain about women "taking that crap." Its not really a choice when you're being yelled at from across the street…

  6. jj says:
    Tue, 31st May 20114:28 am 

    man people take some of these posts way too seriously. it's funny because we all know someone that does some or all of it. i'm pretty sure she realizes not everyone is like this. my bf isn't like this, but i have plenty of guy friends that exhibit those behaviors. so chill people.

  7. criolle johnny says:
    Tue, 31st May 20118:20 am 

    6. Equal opportunity. I have never in MY lifetime had a wet ass because I failed to notice that the seat was up. If YOU fail to notice, you deserve a wet behind.

  8. Jen says:
    Thu, 2nd Jun 20112:02 am 

    Disappearing instead of breaking up with us. FOR REAL. Are you suddenly not interested for no apparent reason? Please tell us! It's not fun to be left wondering what in the world happened!

  9. T.lee says:
    Thu, 2nd Jun 20115:09 pm 

    Gotta say, if a dude ordered my meal for me, without consulting me, I would leave. Just stand up and leave. Total deal-breaker.

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