This disaster dress was designed by the same woman behind Kate Middleton’s to-die-for wedding dress. Hard to believe, I know. Also hard to believe, this wasn’t even the most horrendous looking frock to show up at last night’s MET ball in New York City. A ball, mind you, that celebrates good fashion.

Click here to see the 15 most WTF dresses of the night.

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[He Said/She Said is a series designed to help all our wonderfully confused readers figure out what he’s really thinking. So every week we’ll be throwing out a topic for debate…and unlike our fave dude, these guys won’t be sugar coating anything for you. But before you jump into their heads (which seriously will make you feel like you need to shower), check out what we think!]

Benjamin Franklin once said (I know, I can’t believe I’m quoting Benjamin Franklin either) “Nothing is certain but death and taxes.” B. Frank was a smart man and he made a good point, but I’d like to add one more certainty to that list: confusion from the male gender.

It’s no secret that guys confuse us. If they didn’t, we wouldn’t need The Dude to explain them to us, or the entire relationship self-help aisle at Barnes and Noble. We wouldn’t spend hours trying to decipher what they meant in that last text message or find a way to ask every single person we knew why he’d ask to walk us home and then never call again. We’d all be blissfully happy and problem-free with our long-term boyfriends who are open, honest and straightforward.

But, alas, as great as some guys may be, they are still incredibly mysterious creatures that continually find new ways to confuse the the sh*t out of us. (Well, not literally. I’m not even sure that’s possible.) And while every day brings more confusion, there are 7 main things about guys I’ll never understand. Read More »

Ask TuffyLuv@collegecandy.com. OR ELSE.

Dear Tuffy Luv,
I’ve always admired that you don’t hold back with your advice.  I can tell by reading your columns that you are strong, thoughtful, unafraid, and independent.  These are all things that I can be, that I consider myself to be – but sometimes, it feels like all that my independence and strength is really getting me is a lot of pain.

From friends to boyfriends to ex-boyfriends, I am a huge fan of forgiveness.  I forgive people in my life partially because I’m very religious and that is a part of my faith, but also because I’ve always been able to, and shouldn’t that be a gift that I embrace?  When I can, I forgive, even if that means that I can’t throw a satisfying fit and demand that people treat me better.  However, I don’t make the mistake of forgetting.  I acknowledge the flaws of the people I love and love them in spite of those flaws, as I would expect them to do for me.  Sometimes I wonder if this mindset makes my emotions easy to ignore.

I was just broken up with two weeks ago (we dated for only 3 months), and I have been trying very hard to work towards a friendship with him, because that’s something we both want.  However, it has been very difficult for me to move forward because he repeatedly makes me feel as though what I am going through does not matter to him.  When I told him I needed to talk with him, he shrugged me off and asked if it could wait, then, a few days later, allotted me 20 minutes to talk to him – which he didn’t show up for.  I’m disturbed by his treatment of me, and worried that I have somehow unintentionally “taught” him to treat me this way.  I was very patient while we were dating, would gently tell him when he was making me feel uncared for, and accept his apologies as long as I felt that they were truly meant.  He always genuinely cared, and even though he can occasionally be oblivious to others’ needs, he is always ready to help his friends when he is aware that they need or want support.

This is why his attitude and actions towards me at the end of the relationship and now have been so off-setting – and made even more so by the fact that he told me, when he broke up with me, that I was a “phenomenal girlfriend” because I was “always easy to deal with” (we broke up because he’s graduating).  I worry that, even though I consider my ability to forgive to be a strength, it is seen by others as a weakness.

If this was an isolated incident, I would be less concerned, but I often worry about similar things with my friends.  Sometimes I just want a friend who can support me the way that I support them.  I just want to talk to someone about the tough times I’m going through with my ex-boyfriend without them expressing confusion as to why I’m still wrapped up with being upset with him, or lean on a shoulder for more than a few minutes before they find something else to do.  I see them support each other, and wonder why they won’t do that for me.  They will run to my aid, and be on my side, but it’s always very short-lived and then I can feel them rolling their eyes and wondering why I’m being such a drama queen.  This even happened when a friend of mine from high school committed suicide last August – my roommate expected me to be better the next day, and couldn’t figure out why I was focusing on how different he looked in his coffin.  After these comments, I turned inward for support.  I cried in the shower instead of where people could see.  I don’t want to do this all the time, because it makes things even harder to deal with.

As I said earlier, I can tell that you are a woman who projects strength and confidence.  Am I somehow allowing the people that I love to walk all over me by being forgiving and self-sufficient?  How do you gain respect and care from the people that you love?

Sincerely,
Independent & Alone Read More »

Dear (Good) College Professors,

I’m not sure if you know this or not, but this week is Teacher Appreciation Week, and today is National Teachers’ Day. So I thought I’d start my day off (I know. I’m a late sleeper. That’s why you never see me in your 8 a.m. classes) by taking a moment to appreciate you. All of you. For all that you do. Because even though it may sometimes seems like we’ve forgotten it, college students (most of them anyway) do realize that the point of college is to get an education, and that would be pretty difficult without professors.

But I want to thank you for more than just choosing to be college professors; I want to thank you for being really great college professors. Looking back on my four years of college I’ve had some not-so-great professors, but I’ve also had some amazing ones that opened my mind up to thoughts and ideas and novels and topics I never would have considered before. They cared enough to inspire their students. And that’s worth thanking them for.

Teaching is a job. I get that. And as teachers you’re not obligated to do anything more than show up to class (most days) and  give us a grade at the end of the semester (and there are some professors that can’t even handle that). But a lot of you do so much more than that. You go above and beyond what is expected of you. You make class interesting. You make class educational.  And you make class worth attending.

So thank you.

Thank you for all that you do for us. And I do mean, all that you do. Read More »

Ah…another month, another chance to crack open a fresh issue of Seventeen.  A chance to take in the season’s hottest fashions (many of which include stripes, plaid, or polka dots – the same as EVERY FREAKIN’ SEASON).  A chance to pick up some killer flirting tips (“that shirt is hot on you!” = my new line.)  A chance to – IS THAT REALLY ANOTHER ARTICLE THAT REVEALS “THE TRUTH ABOUT HOOKUPS?”  Like, seriously, Seventeen?  You don’t need to to talk about that in every single issue.

But I digress – this month’s cover girl was Emma Roberts, who I absolutely despise because, according to the article, the bitch stole my man.  Yup, you heard me: she’s allegedly seeing Chace Crawford, which I just can’t forgive.  Cover girl Emma laments her angsty teenage past (which she left behind a whole entire year ago) and claims that she used to feel like no one understood her.  Yawn.  Newsflash, Em – we’ve all been there.  It’s called high school.

Aside from one really moving article about a girl who watched her boyfriend die, this month’s Seventeen was more of the usual.  There was the requisite article about the dangers of self-esteem issues and, like in every other issue, body image issues were addressed. Now, I get it.  Body image issues are really serious, and magazines like Seventeen have a responsibility to help young girls work through these problems.  I really do commend the staff of Seventeen for their efforts to promote this cause….but it would be so much more effective if they didn’t feature exclusively stick-thin models (the only exceptions seem to be the “curvy” or “plus-size” fashion spread models) on every page.  Just sayin’. Read More »

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With all this talk about the new take on Wonder Woman, set to hit our televisions next fall, the girl with the golden lasso has been getting a lot of hype these days. From her costume to her hair just about everyone has an opinion on just about every part of this franchise. So I had to ask myself, Self, why is our culture so fascinated with superheros? Is it the costumes? The vigilante thing? The status? Nah. What I think it really comes down to is the power. The superpowers, that is.

I mean think about it. How much easier would your life be if you had superpowers?  I know, I know – Peter Parker’s grandpa told us “With great power comes great responsibility” and how it’s not all fun and games for these cape crusaders. But just for a moment, let’s pretend it is. Let’s pretend that college students had superpowers…

1. The power of persuasion
You know, sort of like that power the vampires have. Some call it compulsion, some call it dazzling. For the purpose of this article I’m going with persuasion. You can’t turn in your paper on time? Persuade your professor to give you an extension. Or better yet, to excuse you from that paper all together. A girl is going after the guy you like? Persuade her to go after someone else. Really want an internship? Persuade the interviewer to make sure it goes your way.

2. Superspeed
This one would completely eliminate that whole myth about girls taking too long to get ready before they go out. I mean we’d be able to try on our entire wardrobe, pick an outfit, and clean our room before our guys would even be able to walk across campus. And could you imagine the damage we’d be able to do in a shopping mall?

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You work out. You eat healthy foods (most of the time). You choose fro yo over ice cream, and 100 calorie packs over double fudge brownies. You drink lots of water, get lots of sleep. You do everything you’re supposed to do to live a healthy life and you’re still gaining weight.

WTF? What’s a girl got to do to drop a few lbs?

Avoid these five surprising things, to start.

Diet Soda
It’s one of those things we just assume is good just because it has the word diet in it. WRONG. According the San Antonio Heart Study, the more diet soda someone drinks the higher their risk of obesity. Why? Well, another study reveled that the fake sugar in diet soda tricks your brain and actually makes you hungry for sweeter foods. Because the temptation of Reese’s in the vending machine wasn’t already great enough.

Carb-free Liquor
At first glance you’re like, YES! FINALLY! So you down, like, 12 and feel light as a bird (and drunk as a Disney star). If only it were that easy. The truth is, it’s important to take carbs into consideration, but it’s equally (if not more) important to be on the look out for calories. And I’m sad to say many, if not all, carb-free liquor beverages are still pretty high in calories. Calories that turn to fat. On your thighs. Read More »

Before the death of Osama Bin Laden rocked our worlds (and our Twitter feeds), we were all about the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge. Prince William and Kate’s wedding was the biggest event we’d seen in our lives, and their faces were plastered everywhere. (Seriously, they were on condom wrappers, people.) But while everyone else was gasping at Kate…er…Catherine’s dress, I was yelling at the TV for a little more Prince Harry screen time.

Let’s get real here – the guy is a total dreamboat; he’s clearly got a better personality than his older bro, he’s the cutest damn ginger I’ve ever seen and he looks damn good in a uniform. Even better, he gets all the benefits of being royalty without all of that annoying responsibility of being King!

Really, Prince Harry is just a major British hottie. So for all of you ladies who agree with me, here are 23 pictures of him…just being hot.