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The Scary Side of Sex: My Top 7 Fears

Ordinarily when we think about sex we instantly flash back to our most recent lovefest with our boyfriends. Chances are it was a hot, steamy session filled with excitement and overflowing with passion. There are those few times, though, that we have our hesitations when we’re about to take it to that next level, especially with a new guy. So what are we so afraid of? We all have our fears when it comes to sex, and more times than not, those fears aren’t without merit. I’ll share with you a few of my own fears, counting down from the not-so-bad to the absolute scariest.

7. My self confidence is low today: what if he can tell?

6. What if we share an awkward moment (like queefing!) that kills the mood?

5. What if I don’t climax?

4. What if he doesn’t reach the big O?

3. What if the condom breaks?

2. What if I get pregnant?

1. What if this happens? Seriously — gah! — I don’t even know what I’d do.

We’ve all got ’em, so what are your own fears? Share them with me in the comments below!

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    1. Anonymous says:

      I can honestly agree with most of your fears but I feel a need to comment about your #1 fear…
      Thank you for posting this article for all to see because I feel this is a huge issue that needs to be addressed in today's society. With that being said, I am some-what offended on how you posted it for all to see as 'the absolute scariest' fear because personally I felt this story was empowering because I had almost this exact same experience as the writer. I understand that you may not have been aware that the way you posted this would be offensive but I feel it is my obligation to say something for everyone else not only in my same situation but also those that feel persecuted for something that has happened to them. All I ask is that please, next time think the manner in which post something like this so it is educational, not hurtful.

    2. Anonymous says:

      My biggest fear is definitely someone walking in on the action.

      1. Jessica says:

        Been there, it's awkward but as long as the don't try to stay and watch, it's recoverable, lol.

    3. Dorian Modra says:

      First of all, thanks for being honest and open. It was probably difficult for you. Here's some perspective from a man:

      7. He can tell. You're probably less interested/enthusiastic than normal. Wait until you're more confident if you want. But he probably doesn't really care. He'd rather have sex than not.
      6. Yeah, avoid this if you can, but it happens. When it does, I just try not to think about it and move on.
      5. I don't care, lol, j/k. But seriously, I'm not taking it personally. I'll get you next time.
      4. Well yeah, that's a problem.
      3. He should know which one's are reliable for him. And you should be ON THE PILL!
      2. You won't if you're ON THE PILL and he's using a condom.
      1. Again, use a condom and don't have sex with a large number of men you don't know very well. In that case the risk is actually pretty small. Also, most STDs have visible symptoms when they are contagious, so LEAVE THE LIGTHS ON!
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      1. GZO says:

        Please don't insist that every woman be ON THE PILL. Have you ever been on a medication that made you manic-depressive, made you gain weight, gave you crazy breakouts, and completely depleted your sex drive? Would you want me to insist that you be on that medication just so that way I could have sex with you? Given, there are lots of different types of hormonal birth control, but some women can't find one that seems to work for them. And the ability to have carefree sex does not always justify the misery it can cause.

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    5. ansuman says:

      sex is a part of all human lifes…….

    6. Tina Hal says:

      Well sex can be boring or awesome. My first Bf was boring and current one is awesome. I say if you get bored try different postions and different partners, maybe swapping can help. http://www.ekhichdi.com/news/Celebrities-65.html

    7. thank you for posting this article for all to see because I feel this is a huge issue that needs to be addressed in today's society. With that being said, I am some-what offended on how you posted it for all to see as 'the absolute scariest' fear because personally I felt this story was empowering because I had almost this exact same experience as the writer. I understand that you may not have been aware that the way you posted this would be offensive but I feel it is my obligation to say something for everyone else not only in my same situation but also those that feel persecuted for something that has happened to them. All I ask is that please, next time think the manner in which post something like this so it is educational, not hurtful. saallaaa

      1. Kim- Syracuse University says:

        the title of the post wasn't meant to be hurtful, it was meant to grab your attention. And that's what it did right? Great, mission accomplished. Thanks for reading :)

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