It’s finally happened. My post-grad dating apocalypse.

I met a guy. We really hit it off. He got my number. And, as the story goes, I went to my home, he went to his. The end.

What’s wrong with this story, you ask? The next chapter, that’s what. Because I can’t expect to see him walking through the quad next Monday afternoon or standing in line at the caf on Burrito Tuesdays.  I mean, I’m not trying to be creepy, but I miss that security blanket of possibly meeting up with a guy you met in on your college bubble campus. And who doesn’t love talking to their girlfriends about spotting said cute guy as he’s getting his fitness on shirtless at the gym? That’s one of the best parts! Simply put, running into a potential dude on campus was exciting, nerve-wracking and . . .expected.

But now that I’ve kissed my college campus good-bye, things are becoming a little…less expected.

This weekend, I met a nice young fellow and (boom goes the dynamite) he got my number. Oh the glory! We hit things off, he said all kinds of nice things and made me feel all the right giddiness in my little grown up lady chest. In weird ways (only girls like me can detect in their over-analyzation mind stations), he was totally what I’ve been looking for in a dude. He was nice, authentically funny and had those nice twinkly puppy dog eyes. Oh, and he also said I was pretty. What more could a girl ask for?

But then I started my ‘tweak out’ thoughts: Is that it? Am I never going to see him again? He may have gotten my number, but I didn’t get his – and I can’t just randomly bump into him at the library during a group meeting. I have virtually no control of what happens. Oh, the horror! I know I’m totally being a girl here – but this change in scenery (in a big girl world) is throwing me off a bit. How often is it going to happen where I meet someone and have to let a good thing go amiss just because I “may never run into him again?”

There are many factors to consider here. Like, um, who cares? There are more than one drunken men-fish in the sea that have sparkly eyes and a sweet demeanor. And there is really nothing else I can do. He has my number and he can speed dial that shiz if he wants to. Living a new lifestyle outside of college is a weirdly fickle one. But in a dark room of post-meeting-guys doubt, there is also something refreshing about not knowing when you’re going to see someone again. Another refreshing part? The ball is completely in the dudes court. That means, I will truly know he is a stand-up gentlemen if he actually reaches out and asks me on a date.

Although there are all these new questions and concerns since I’m no longer in college, there is an effective way to simplify the situation. It might sting a little to admit, but if he likes me, he’ll figure it out. And if he doesn’t, I don’t need to waste my time over-analyzing how he looked at me while I poured my Fruit Loops at the cafeteria. Did you catch that crucial point there, ladies? Likes me, calls me. Doesn’t like me, doesn’t call me.

Gulp. Here’s to that. (Please like me, please like me, please like me…)

I feel like college women have been debating this issue forever. Is friends with benefits really possible? Can guys and girls remain friends when frisky foreplay and steamy make out sessions replace platonic homework parties and innocent lunch dates? The whole ordeal is snagging national attention thanks to the upcoming movie “Friends with Benefits” starring JT and Mila Kunis in theaters next month.

(Wait a second, have I seen this movie before? This issue is totally getting the Hollywood treatment, which proves it really does need to be addressed.)

After witnessing this phenomenon time and time again, and carefully considering the outlandish actions of girlfriends, sorry ladies, I have come to a conclusion. Can friends with benefits work in the real world? Absolutely Not.

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[Welcome to Celebrity Chic on the Cheap, where our style guru takes a celebrity look and breaks it down for you, our poor college fashionista. What does that mean? It means that while the celebrities (like too-cute-for-words Sarah Michelle Gellar) are spending $5,000 and more on an ensemble, you an spend way less...and save the rest for Margarita Mondays.]

Shakira’s racy new video featuring a pole dance…and Pitbull?

And the douche bag award goes to…

Why you should follow the cell phone etiquette at movie theaters

The teaser for Katy Perry’s new song

9 ways to jazz up your LBD

Get the knockoff version of Christian Louboutin’s Lady Daf pumps

Lady Gaga’s not vain in the slightest

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The best way to get over your casual hookup

[There are over 100 million sites on the Internet. 100 million! You might think you know about all the important ones (CollegeCandy, Gmail, Google, Facebook…), but there are thousands of other sweet sites out there (like Spreezio, Teach Parents Tech and We Are Hunted) and more showing up every day! We get it – it’s not easy or fun sifting through the crap and porn to find those gems, so we’re gonna bring the gems to you. Just sit back, kick up those feet and allow us to introduce you to the diamonds in the internet rough.]

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Mark your calendars, TwiHards, Nikki Reed’s engaged!

Early Friday morning, Indiana University student Lauren Spierer went missing. The sophomore apparel and merchandising major was last seen around 4:30 am heading home after spending time with friends. According to the Herald Times Online, nearly hundreds of people volunteered Monday to help police search for clues on her whereabouts. Searches will continue today.

The CollegeCandy staff is extending our thoughts to Lauren and her family — and as a college-centric blog we thought we ought to do more than that. While we can’t travel to Indiana to help with the search, we can remind everyone, especially college females, the importance of staying safe on campus.

Yes, you’ve probably heard these before, but it can never hurt to reiterate some safety tips that all college women should follow. Here are five important tips:

Walk With Somebody: It’s so easy to find a friend to walk you home. So do it. Often you don’t want to inconvenience others, but Lauren’s situation is a terrible reminder of why women should always walk in groups.

Walk In Well Lit Areas: It might be tempting to take the short cut home but walking through well-lit and populated areas can keep you safe

Yell For Help: If you are being followed make noise. It can both garner attention to help you and scare off a potential attacker.

Limit Distractions: When walking by yourself, especially at night, resist listening to music and spending time on your phone. This will help you become more alert to your surroundings.

Take A Self Defense Class: These classes teach a variety of different things from how to spot dangerous situations and how to intimidate attackers, to the physical moves that can help save your life.

For more information on the search for Lauren Spierer check for updates on Herald Times Online and the twitter page dedicated to the story. And remember, while you may feel completely safe in your college campus bubble, you’re still living in the real world and need to take real precautions.

It’s still not even officially summer for a few more weeks, but that doesn’t mean you can’t save on a new summer wardrobe now!  There’s a great sale currently going on at Express — the entire Summer Collection is 30-40% off! There are tons of cute dresses, shorts, tanks, t-shirts, sandals and more in the collection on sale!

I stopped in last weekend, and was amazed at both how much cute stuff there was and the great prices. I had to restrain myself from buying everything, but I managed t snap up a few great pieces, including a cute party dress that I plan on wearing to a wedding later this summer. While my new dress wasn’t under $20, there are quite a few choices that are — including all of these!

Attention all men: I don’t want to see a picture of your cock.

Now don’t get me wrong, it’s not like I am not a fan.  I appreciate its ability, stamina, even its appearance in small doses, but you are not going to turn me on by getting out your iPhone and sending me a picture of it. I don’t care how big it is or that it was just shaven. It’s just not going to work for me…or make that for most women. Read More »

CollegeCandy wanted someone to recommend the perfect must reads for the sunny season and, really, who better than myself to provide a steady diet of awesome for your imagination? Now that the tornadoes are out of the way, let’s get to the beach. Save the Communist Manifesto for your Intro to Free Economy class in September.  Here’s your ultimate summer reading list to guarantee fun under the sun on the sand.

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We covered a ton of ground on this list of ten perfect summer reads (seriously, I mean it, seriously, look at the range!). I could have listed a hundred but I wanted to get to the pool before all the free towels were taken. How many of these have you read already? Any new to you? Think I missed a few? Put your ultimate summer reads in the comment section below. No matter what you use to escape into summer lovin’, remember to wear sunscreen!

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Want more suggestions, check out our weekly book reviews. Then check out the 10 novels every girl should read. Think we’re still missing a great book? Leave it below in the comments.