Kayla says:
Wed, 20th Jul 20112:16 pm 

How about complaining about your life. LIke wah wahhhh I'm not your therapist.

Liz says:
Wed, 20th Jul 20112:24 pm 

I don't really agree with the whole being cheap thing. I prefer to go dutch most of the time. Especially on first dates.

jenna says:
Wed, 20th Jul 20112:38 pm 

I think I'm with Liz on the going dutch thing. Unless he says he's taking me out to a specific place his treat I expect to go halves. If a girlfriend asked me to go out for a meal with her and I agreed I wouldn't expect her to pay for the meal.

Kristen says:
Thu, 21st Jul 20111:01 pm 

Right, I mean, wouldn't YOU be the cheap one if you expect him to pay for everything and don't want to even put up your half?

tsferg says:
Thu, 21st Jul 20112:34 pm 

Being cheap? What happened to the whole equality thing? My girlfriend always pulls this sort of stuff, she makes more money than me!

Meg says:
Fri, 22nd Jul 20111:45 am 

You go girl!!!!! I wish every boy read this!

Meg says:
Fri, 22nd Jul 20111:48 am 

Well exept for the cheap thing. You want him to treat you as an equal then pay like equals.

AD. says:
Fri, 22nd Jul 20117:30 am 

IF you weren't interested in why she was annoyed then why did you bother to read this article? And I think therapist's are expected to follow up with advice- which the writer clearly did not ask for. Everyone complains sometimes, ironically you just did by posting this stupid comment.

GP1 says:
Fri, 22nd Jul 20112:23 pm 

Um . . . I think she might've been talking about when a guy complains about his life on the first date.

Nyah says:
Fri, 22nd Jul 201111:26 pm 

stop pulling some better-than-thou bull. everyone else understood Kayla to be making a suggestion for another "annoying thing" yet you just immediately saw it negatively and jumped to the conclusion that she's picking at the author.

Katie says:
Sat, 23rd Jul 20119:52 pm 

If a guy asks me out on a date, I expect him to treat. If I ask a guy out on a date, I expect to pick up the tab myself. Once we’re dating exclusively, then we typically alternate paying.

Beth says:
Sun, 24th Jul 20111:03 am 

I always go dutch unless he emphasis that it is his treat, I really couldn't imagine asking the guy to pay for everything. I mean if you don't want him pushing you for sex, then you better start picking up your own tab a little bit. I agree that if a girl is not comfortable, then she shouldn't have sex, but realistically if she is making the guy pay for everything, well male brains are hardwired to expect something out of it.

takingbacksingle says:
Sun, 24th Jul 201112:25 pm 

I agree with all of these except the paying part. While it's nice if a guy pays, it's not necessary. Especially since we are college students, everyone doesn't have a lot of money. Also, sometimes there are expectations (which is ridiculous, but it still happens) that go along with a guy paying, and I don't want to feel like I owe a guy anything.

Elizabeth says:
Sun, 24th Jul 20116:44 pm 

I don't understand how Beth thinks that because a man pays for meals that ultimately means you owe him, or rather, that he believes you owe him sex. That baffles me and I agree that if someone asks or offers a meal – they pay and that means if YOU offer it, you pay. That is simple common courtesy, not some archaic misogynist crap.

anyway…

This whole list is pretty standard and if people are routinely dating others committing these "beginning relationship crimes" they should begin wondering why they keep ending up with idiots. Introspection time, friends !

HAW says:
Mon, 25th Jul 20116:15 pm 

My motto for the first date is "if you ask, you pay." That means if the girl asks, she pays. and if the guy asks, he pays. Unless stated otherwise in the asking process.

HAW says:
Mon, 25th Jul 20116:19 pm 

And as for the moving too quickly. I think that really depends on the couple. My boyfriend and I talked about what we expect from a spouse (and how we would decorate the house) on our first date. Haha.

Kendra says:
Tue, 26th Jul 20111:49 pm 

oh the Texting thing is the worst!!!!! I dated a guy who would CONSTANTLY text me! I didn't have my phone 24/7 and when I didn't text back immediately I'd end up 10 text messages on my phone!
I don't mind texting once in a while but the over load to the point it was creepy and using up my limited amount of texts!

Olivia says:
Tue, 26th Jul 20111:52 pm 

The paying thing isn't too much of a problem.
They say it's their treat and they will buy, well then they offered and don't expect me to deny your offer.
But if not we just plan something to do and if it costs money I am not making them pay for everything, it's a date to get to know each other and have fun not for me to empty his wallet.