Signs That You’re Playing Too Hard To Get

August 17, 2011 1:00 pm     Posted in Advice, Headliners, Inline Gallery, Relationships  Kim- Syracuse University g+ page


By Kim

Ah, matters of the heart. Just when we think things are going to get easier, some complications come about and we’re back to square one, trying to figure out where we went wrong. I truly believe that matters of the heart would seems way less complicated if we just let things happen naturally. Too bad I have a brain to go with this heart of mine, and I’m way too practical of a person to leave my love affairs up to chance. If relationships came with warning signs and manuals, the world would be spared of all its heartache. Unfortunately, it doesn’t. So we’re left to fend for ourselves in the battles of love.

Long ago, someone somewhere told a girl that playing hard to get is one of the best ways to boost our appeal, and we’ve been doing it ever since. Well I’m here to tell you all, there is a such thing as playing too hard to get. Playing too hard to get + a guy who likes a chase but doesn’t like to feel like he’s wasting his time on a girl who doesn’t seem interested = you getting left, alone.

Here are some signs that you’re playing too hard to get. Take heed, and in matters of the heart, godspeed.

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    • 26 Comments on "Signs That You’re Playing Too Hard To Get"

    1. sara says:
      Wed, 17th Aug 201110:33 pm 

      please post these in text format. i havent been able to read any articles because the galleries dont work.

    2. laura says:
      Wed, 17th Aug 201110:37 pm 

      THE GALLERIES DONT WORK! PLEASE, STOP USING THEM! :( you're going to lose all your readers if they cant read the material you post

    3. Tara says:
      Wed, 17th Aug 201111:37 pm 

      The galleries have always worked for me…

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      Thu, 18th Aug 201112:30 am 

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    5. Rachel says:
      Thu, 18th Aug 201112:45 am 

      Lucky you. They work for me about 10% of the time. It's frustrating as all hell.

    6. guest says:
      Thu, 18th Aug 20113:23 am 

      I'm sure the info is great, I just wish I could access it! Is there anyway to provide galleries and another option to read it?

    7. Angela says:
      Thu, 18th Aug 20118:56 am 

      the galleries have always worked fine maybe try using google chrome since it works for me in google chrome

    8. sam says:
      Thu, 18th Aug 20112:23 pm 

      The galleries suck and the advertising on this site is too agressive and intrusive. About the article – I think a huge thing girls forget about dating is that the best way to get guys is to be open and available.. hard to get should be used in moderation.

    9. guest says:
      Thu, 18th Aug 20115:20 pm 

      wish i could actually read the articles…all i see is a little grey square. and whats with the fake college candy website popup? id think you would have control to not have that, it looks like a virus. i would comment positively but i cant even read any articles anymore cuz of these grey box galleries

    10. Rachel says:
      Thu, 18th Aug 201110:20 pm 

      I use Google Chrome. Does. Not. Work.

    11. tyleronthejones says:
      Sun, 21st Aug 201110:34 am 

      just delete the "/#more-117018" from the end of the url

    12. Editor says:
      Sun, 21st Aug 201111:06 am 

      We LOVE our readers and we don't want to lose you to tech issues with the gallery. You should be able to read every article on this site and we're trying our hardest to make that happen. But when we test the galleries out on different browsers and different computers, it always works for us. So we need your help to figure out the problem.

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    13. Iris says:
      Mon, 22nd Aug 201112:42 pm 

      The galleries usually work for me, but I really don't like reading things this way. I'd much rather have the blog view.

    14. Casey says:
      Tue, 23rd Aug 20113:21 pm 

      If readers don't like them, then why not just stop using them instead of making them work? Maybe take a poll?

    15. Tiffany says:
      Wed, 31st Aug 20113:18 pm 

      who wrote this stupid article? some frat boy? puhleeze. it's moronic. then again, some poor schlub of a 'content creator' has to actually do this for a living.

    16. Eyelesssage says:
      Thu, 1st Sep 20115:04 am 

      Tiffany may i inquire how it is moronic? I’m a guy and i despise women who play hard to get. I don’t mind putting some effort into it but if i don’t feel the woman is meeting me halfway i lose interest. A relationship is balance and teamwork not having some poor guy fawn over you. You need to realize you aren’t the center of attention

    17. dkl says:
      Thu, 1st Sep 20113:11 pm 

      Or she’s not that into you….

    18. justanopinion says:
      Tue, 6th Sep 20117:06 am 

      I really don't like reading articles that are split up into many parts – I much prefer to be able read through an article that is all on the one page rather than having to click through to the next bit several times, after reading only a small amount. Often by the time I've read the second or third bit I've forgotten the first (I know, short attention span, but that is quite common these days, I think) and there's very little sense of continuity, which for me is a really important part of being able to clearly see the purpose or value of what I read; it's nice to be able to glance back to remind myself of what I read a few minutes ago, and to take in the whole lot at once if possible – to get an overview, so that I actually know that I've read a whole article, and know what it is I've read. + I'm far less likely to share a link on facebook or anywhere to an article that is presented in this bitty way – to be honest, it doesn't seem like a real article to me when presented this way (maybe that's part of the purpose from your point of view, I don't know, but it doesn't work very well for me, sorry).

    19. justanopinion says:
      Tue, 6th Sep 20117:11 am 

      I think that's a great idea Casey – why not take a poll to see which way your readers prefer to view your articles?

    20. Brittany - University of Saint Thomas says:
      Fri, 7th Oct 201111:25 am 

      The galleries are working faboosh for me, maybe a little browser refreshing will help the problem. And I think this article is great! It points out minor issues that could totally cause a mis-communication glitch in a budding relationship. Great job on the article, I will be taking its advice :)

    21. Bob says:
      Mon, 21st Nov 20111:34 am 

      yep. Adios darlin'..

    22. Carl says:
      Wed, 7th Dec 20117:59 am 

      If a woman wants to play stupid hard to get mind games then I will not even bother to ask her out. I am a decent guy and don't appreciate mindgames like "playing hard to get" or "how long till I phone back". That's nonsense from movies. I expect you to be yourself because that's the person who I want to get to know better…. not the mindgame version of you.

    23. always right says says:
      Sun, 8th Jul 20121:19 pm 

      first of all, women certainly need to be MUCH MORE EDUCATED like they use to be YEARS AGO. today they think it is a JOKE, PLAYING HARD TO GET. then again, there are certainly many women nowadays that are UNEDUCATED.

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