Reasons Why You Should Probably Kiss Your Future Husband

November 29, 2011 3:30 pm     Posted in Reality, Sex, WTF  Alexandra Gehringer g+ page


By Alexandra Gehringer

I’m convinced everyone thinks about their wedding day. Even if it’s an event you can’t picture taking place for another 15 years, you’ve at least considered the possibility that it could happen. And when you imagine this most sacred of days, you likely also wonder who you’ll be standing up there with. He (or she) will be wildly attractive, that’s obvious. They’ll be brilliant and funny and love puppies, also a duh. But will they be a good kisser? Of course! Wait…right?

Some couples wait to take the big plunge until after they’re lawfully wed. Please note that when I say “big plunge,” I’m not talking about sex. That’s right, in certain religious communities and social spheres, it’s somewhat commonplace to wait until your wedding day before so much as kissing your future husband or wife.

We don’t think putting off the First Kiss milestone is necessarily the best way to go. While it can be a sweet concept (we think), in reality it’s completely impractical and absurd. Here’s why:

1. Everyone has encountered a bad kisser somewhere along their dating path. Thankfully, you didn’t encounter them at the altar. Instead of hitching yourself to an over-enthusiastic face licker, go ahead and test the goods beforehand.

2. There’s just no sexual chemistry. Rarer, but still possible: the person you’ve been lusting after was more lust-worthy in your head. And usually it takes a make-out sesh to figure this out.

3. Figuring sex out on your honeymoon would be a big enough pain in the…not butt. Why toss a Beginners Kissing 101 lesson in there, too? Ugh, complicated!

4. A combination of all these reasons, as vividly exhibited here.

10 Comments on "Reasons Why You Should Probably Kiss Your Future Husband"

  1. Macie says:
    Tue, 29th Nov 20114:31 pm 

    I don’t think it’s right for you to be making fun of some religious customs or beliefs (or call them absurd), so long as they don’t hurt anyone. Just because something isn’t for you, doesn’t mean it’s “absurd”. And if it’s commonplace in different social circles, then it obviously works for them, and theres no reason to write an article smashingtheir beliefs or customs. I think it’s sweet, and incredibly mature of them to do that. What’s immature is this article.

  2. Eliz says:
    Tue, 29th Nov 20117:32 pm 

    I'm sorry but how is that incredibly mature? To each his own blah blah blah, but by then agreeing to go on a TLC special these couples are begging for attention. After watching the clip on #4 I think it's safe to say that even the wedding guests that felt their decisions were absurd, or at least cringeworthy.

  3. Jen says:
    Tue, 29th Nov 20117:47 pm 

    Well, considering the fact that these people choose to remain virgins until their wedding night, they choose not to kiss so that they are completely "pure" until they're not married. That takes a lot of restraint not to kiss someone you're very attracted and committed to. But sticking to your guns is mature.

  4. Eliz says:
    Tue, 29th Nov 20118:12 pm 

    Thanks for clearing that up, Jen! I forgot how disgusting kissing is! Guess I should watch that clip again..

  5. Jane says:
    Tue, 29th Nov 20119:19 pm 

    It's not sweet at all. It simply suggests a lack of intelligence.

  6. Ariana says:
    Wed, 30th Nov 201112:38 am 

    My mom had her first kiss at the altar with my dad and she told me it wasn’t religiously forced on her or even taught… She decided herself she didn’t have a need to swap spit until you can have “All” of the one you want and by all she means hand in marriage… Have them forever… They’ve been married 30 years and now that they are married my mom is no prude… I’d be embarrassed by them sometimes because of their public displays of affection

  7. ariel says:
    Wed, 30th Nov 20119:09 am 

    But kissing is fun. Saving kissing for marriage is just pointless. It's harmless fun, it's not like you can get pregnant. So I don't really see what's so unpure about it.

  8. Maura - Rider University says:
    Sun, 11th Dec 201111:46 am 

    I couldn't imagine not kissing before my wedding day. If any of you saw the Virgin Diaries, you saw how awkward the married couple was. Did you hear them discussing how their first time would be? Went something like this:
    "I think you should shower, and then I'll shower, then we'll take off our robes, and then we'll foreplay, and then we'll have intercourse!"

    How forced does that sound? People who don't kiss have no idea what true sexual chemistry is. How would you know if you weren't compatible sexually with your guy until after you got married? That's not a risk I want to take.

    Besides, physical contact enhances the couple's bond. Hugging, holding hands, and yes kissing strengthens the relationship; emotionally and chemically.

    Everyone can choose to do as they please with sex, or even kissing, but I would really reccommend kissing before walking down the aisle.

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