Boyfriends. Best friends. Homesickness. They’re all reasons to abandon dorm life for the greener pastures of your childhood home, but is it the right move for you? Sure, lazy weekend mornings spooning with the BF while your mom does your laundry may sound like the dream, but nursing a hangover and nommin’ on some cafeteria grub with the gals can be pretty great, too.

This week, Marysa addresses one reader’s concerns about moving out of the dorms. Wresting with this issue yourself? Have you dealt with it in the past? Leave your own insights in the comments below.

To submit a question of your own for Marysa to answer, email us at editor [at] collegecandy [dot] com with “Ask A Roommate” in the subject. Read More »

Midterms are over and it’s nearly that lovely time of year when we return to our hometowns and prepare to stuff ourselves silly with homemade pumpkin pie and green bean casserole. But between eating, spending time with the family, eating some more and hibernating in your old twin bed, you’ve got a predicament on your hands.

To see the old crush, or not to see the old crush? That is the question. Your holiday vacation is not long, so you only have so much time to drink peppermint schnapps and meet up with that guy in high school you always wanted but never had the balls to go after. You’ve done your homework, and based on photos the guy has grown up quite a bit. Sure, he may have gained a beer gut in college, but that fails to override the fact that he no longer has braces, a Disney channel shag haircut or wears Abercrombie & Fitch on the daily.

Let’s get into the reasoning — both logical and otherwise — behind hooking up with your old high school crush over the break.

Yay:

• You’ve got only good memories of him: Him standing in the lunch line with you discussing his Learners Permit. Or him mumbling the lyrics to M.I.A.’s “Paper Planes” (because, really, who actually knew all the words?) and shuffling awkwardly, but oh-so-adorably on the dance floor at your senior prom.
• You’re better experienced in the bedroom now that you’ve had your college partying phase. And we’re thinking he probably is, too.
• His teenage acne is gone, he grew a foot and he wears Tom’s instead of Air Jordan high tops.
• That sexual fantasy of you two has never gone away. Not even during that year-long relationship with someone else.
• Since it’s such a short time frame to meet up, excitement and passion will be at an all time high.
• Hey, a hookup doesn’t entail a relationship…no strings attached, anyone?
• If that hookup is on your bucket list, go ahead and cross it off!
• If the hookup happens at his house, take advantage of his Thanksgiving leftovers. Never say no to a free slice of pie. Come on now.

Nay:

• If things go terribly wrong, when would you ever have to see him again? Oh, right, in two weeks for winter break.
• The hookup takes place at his house and after a steamy sesh you walk downstairs to grab some water…and have to say hello to his dad. COOL.
• He doesn’t quite…ahem..meet your expectations.
• He’s got a girlfriend that he failed to mention.
• You hook up with him and then fall for him.
• You hook up with him, are over it and he falls for you.
• He spills the beans to all of your mutual friends and you’re now the Class of ‘08 token slut.

By the looks of it, you’ve got some thinking to do! I’m all for being a bold female and taking what’s yours, though. If you want him, go for it. Let’s be real, a hookup is what it is. And how many guys say NO to hookups? Not many!

My high school crush is currently single, hotter than ever and we’ve actually become recent friends since I’ve been laying some groundwork for the break. I may just have to show him what he’s been missing!

Want to see if He Said he’ll be hooking up with his high school crush this Thanksgiving Break? Scoot your tush over to COEDMagazine.com and read about it now!

Last week, Yale’s president announced that the student-run “Sex Week” will not be permitted to use Yale’s name or facilities, basically banning it from campus. The week-long event started as in 2002 as an informative “interdisciplinary sex educational program.” However, Yale’s administrators and conservative groups on campus feel that in recent years, too many of the week’s events were hosted by porn stars or people involved in the porn industry. Even though many of the talks provided by people from the porn industry were not about pornography, people are in a tizzy about it.

In the president’s letter he stated, “We have no intention of suppressing the students’ right to free expression. But we will not allow the University’s facilities or name to be used in the service of corporate sponsors and the private inurement of student organizers.” Well, they kind of are suppressing the students’ right to free expression, but the mention of corporate sponsors seems to be the real concern. It appears that the majority of the events from Yale Sex Week were actually educational, but the administration doesn’t want this week to be backed in any way by members from the porn industry.

Harvard University’s organization, Sexual Health Education & Advocacy throughout Harvard College (SHEATH), has planned their own Sex Week to discuss sex and sexuality. SHEATH has removed association with Harvard from the name of their event in response to the ban of Yale Sex Week. This Sex Week features seminars and workshops about various topics on sex and sexuality, without the involvement of the porn industry.

I honestly feel that Yale Sex Week is something that could benefit their campus, especially in light of last year’s fraternity scandal where Delta Kappa Epsilon pledges marched around and chanted misogynistic slurs. Granted, I understand why the administration doesn’t want events to be sponsored by the porn industry. But just because someone is in the porn industry doesn’t mean they don’t have important things to say about sex. A Sex Week should be all inclusive, which seems to be why Yale’s Sex Week had the porn industry involved in the first place. It’s a forum to speak openly about sex and take away the stigma. If anyone can speak openly about sex, it’s people in the porn industry.

Banning Yale Sex Week seems to be an extreme solution to a sort of non-existent problem. If the porn industry situation is the real problem, why not tell the organizers that they can’t have people from the porn industry sponsor discussions? Why ban the entire week altogether? It’s important for college students to be informed about sex, in all aspects, whether it’s about health, sexuality, sexual harassment, or hooking up. Sex is a part of culture, so why are people so afraid to talk about it? By banning Yale Sex Week, the administration is perpetuating the taboo that we’ve been trying to get rid of.

What do you think? Is Yale’s administration right to ban Yale Sex Week?

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This week, an excerpt from the Kardashian sisters’ new book, Dollhouse, was released. Do you guys remember how you felt when you first read amazing writing. Well, get ready to feel that way times twenty.

The story centers on three sisters, Kamille, Kassidy and Kyle, who are a part of a high-profile family (did Ryan Seacrest come up with this idea?). Right after this excerpt was released, CollegeCandy got our hands on an even newer excerpt (because we wrote it)!

Check out this scene where the sisters argue with their mom-ager, Krystal, about who is the prettiest.

Krystal was sick of hearing her daughters argue. Obviously the middle one, Kassidy, was the prettiest because of her large butt and because her desire to film herself during sex gave this family everything they have. But she couldn’t tell her daughters that. She has to make them feel like they are all equally gorgeous and useful to the family. Read More »

Today Congress is holding hearings regarding two very controversial bills, the Protect-IP Act and the Stop Online Piracy Act. Both aim to protect copyrighted material on the Internet, which sounds good in theory, but could result in drastic censorship across online platforms we use every day. Think you wouldn’t be affected should these bills successfully pass? Think again. It’s not just those who are illegally downloading movies and music who would be at fault. Anyone who uses Facebook, Twitter, YouTube or other social networking sites could soon be found as doing so illegally.

When we went to check the CollegeCandy Tumblr today, we were met with grayed out images and text. What happened to our dashboard? Where did everything go? In a brilliant move to show users what could potentially happen in a censored online community, Tumblr made sure every user was aware of Congress’ plans today by blocking users’ content. Clicking on any of the censored posts (so, basically, all of them) will land you at this page — a great resource for learning more about both the Protect-IP Act and the Stop Online Piracy Act. Read More »

Hey Dude,

I’m a huge fan of CollegeCandy and this blog, so I thought I’d write in for advice.

I’m a senior in college, and met this guy my age who goes to my school over the summer. We hit it off right away, with tons to talk and laugh about. The second or third time we hung out, right near the beginning, he told me he “liked me but wasn’t looking for a relationship.” He explained that he had been through a lot with past girlfriends that kept him from wanting to date again right now and that he has a lot going on in his life right currently: he pays for school by himself and is financially really stressed and has a lot of pressure from his parents, as well.

Anyway, that was fine. I was glad that he told me upfront and was honest about it rather than stringing me along. Unfortunately, we couldn’t really stay away from each other. We kept hanging out and talking even when we left to go to our respective homes, and when we got back to school we started hooking up. Each time it got too “relationship-like” one of us would try to back up: he because he doesn’t want to date, and me because I know he’s not going to commit and I don’t want to let myself get in too deep without that. Read More »

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I have this new philosophy. You can take it with a grain of salt…or just a dainty little tea cup filled to the brim with Earl Grey. Yep, my philosophy has to do with acting like the fabulous french women do. We all feel it. When we bounce out of college we all suddenly want to be crazy classy and successful in the dating world. For me to conquer those two goals, I need a diagram or a list. In a happy hour epiphany, a girlfriend and I were discussing dating, stressful job situations and fashion. Then…it came out:

“I want to live like french women do.”

Fine, I’ll admit it. I got the idea from a recent Cosmopolitan article, sue me. But also, please nod in approval for me finding the only semi-classy article in Cosmo. The article inspired my heart strings. French women live fabulously, non-apologetically, mysteriously, seductively….I couldn’t pull my eyes away from it and obvi I have to share it with you. So aside from never shaving our armpits and being ‘totally natural’ let us live like the french women do. Read More »

One of today’s trending topics on our beloved Twitter is #GuyCode. From watching the movie Wedding Crashers to just eavesdropping on a typical bro conversation (broversation?), it’s certainly not a surprise that men have a “code.” But the rules and details of this Guy Code business are just fascinating. Turns out, it’s a cutthroat world for boys: from urinals to facial hair, phone calls to girlfriends…nothing seems easy. How do they do it?

Read on below to make sure you pick up all the pearls of wisdom these dudes are dropping… Read More »