He Said/She Said: What to Listen to When You’re Getting It On

Oooh, sex and music. So much to say! In my own fervent opinion, sex and music go together like chips and dip, Ernie and Bert, or trashy TV and ice cream. Ideally, while you’re having sex your mind should be far, far away. Too far away for you to be conscious of the fact that the bed is creaking, bodies are slapping together and for some reason there’s a weird squelching sound (don’t lie – I know you know what I mean). Unfortunately though, sex isn’t always transcendent enough to distract you from these less that sensual ambient noises. But guess what? Music can save mediocre sex. No, seriously, it can. Not only can music make sex more fun, the right song can put you in a damn fine mood for f*cking. Music can also muffle your moaning, and save the ears of your flatmates. And, hey, sometimes an aural prompt for rhythm can be helpful as hell.

I think sex is better to a soundtrack. Maybe it’s just because I’m one of those weirdos who imagines a soundtrack to my life. Maybe. I’m not the only one who does that, right? I digress…sex is better with music. Well, except when it’s not. As Simon Cowell would say, song choice is everything. And here’s what NOT to play.

Barry White and/or Marvin Gaye: No. Just, no. So deeply, deeply cliched. And so deeply, deeply unsexy.

The TV: It can be quite distracting. Granted, perhaps the sex ain’t fantastic, but paying attention to How I Met Your Mother isn’t going to help either. It’s downright rude, actually. Once, bored with the show we were watching in bed, I gave my boyfriend a blow job. Emerging from under the covers at length, I discovered that my boyfriend was still watching the box. And it certainly wasn’t my box. How rude!

The Radio: A friend of mine once told me a story which I shall paraphrase for you – listening to the radio, having sex, when suddenly an ad for erectile dysfunction came on. Awkward much?

Okay, what are your safe options, then? Opinions on the matter are greatly divided. A quick survey of my flatmates revealed some (in my opinion) questionable preferences, though, admittedly, not everyone liked the sound of my sex playlist. The choice, therefore, is yours. Play something that gets you in the mood, but consider your partner when choosing. I’m yet to meet a guy who wants to get off while listening to Lady Gaga. However, here are a few of my favourites for you to consider…

Portishead: I only recently discovered Portishead (I know, I know — at times I live under a cultural rock), and I’m certainly glad I did. My favourite is the song Over.

Frank Ocean: The album Nostalgia, Ultra includes some very sexy singles.

Nine Inch Nails: Disclaimer: I am a rabid Nine Inch Nails fan. Should some unthinkable fate befall Trent Reznor’s wife, inevitably some deeply repressed beast would waken within me. Hitherto unforeseen fierceness would fly from me and claw out the eyeballs of anyone standing in my direct path to Trent Reznor. Poor Trent would be probably quite frightened but ultimately helpless as I made my move to ravish the man. I’m just warning you all. But I digress — point is, although I am extremely biased, believe me –  anything by Nine Inch Nails is fantastic to f*ck to.

Peaches: Hardly needs explanation!

Really, it all comes down to whatever floats you musical love boat. Have sex to a soundtrack more often! Your flatmates/roommates/neurotic cat will thank you, and you might just truly enjoy the experience.

Wanna see what songs he likes to put on repeat when he’s “laying some serious pipe” (we hear guys use charming phrases like that)? Check out what He Said on!

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  1. criolle johnny says:

    Light my Fire by The Doors.
    Listen to the loooong version. Listen to the SOUND of his voice, not the words.
    Listen to the change in the rhythm. Listen to the near misses as he struggles for control.
    Listen to his scream near the very end.
    The next cut on the album is titled "Another Kiss", tenderness following the big moment.

    1. criolle johnny says:

      Oh, and this was your GRANDPARENTS!

  2. Allie says:

    Actually, when Lady Gaga's song "Alejandro" was popular, my boyfriend repeatedly said that he wanted to do it with that song playing haha. He's an oddball sometimes, but I just wanted to point out that there is at least one man in the world who wants to get off to a Lady Gaga song :)

  3. Caity says:

    OMG sex to nine inch nails sounds horrifying! But more power to you?

    1. Raquel says:

      Haha! Listen to Sunspots from the album With Teeth – it might just change your mind!

    2. Caity says:

      I'll try it….and let you know how it goes

  4. Zena says:

    Music is definitely a personal thing during sex. I personally find it essential, it sets the mood and music has been found to make you as happy as climaxing. However, bad music can just ruin the whole experience. I've had sex to High School Musical (don't, whatever you do). Or when you're listening to a song and the guy starts moving TO that song (and it's like Katy Perry or something ridiculous). But I think overall, you've got to find music that makes you feel sexy and powerful.

  5. mollination says:

    Oooh! Oooh! I have the answer!! Me! Okay, number one best song for sex in every way and shape possible is :

    Midnight Voyage by Ghostland Observatory.

    Just listen to it. It’s rock, it’s soft enough, it’s sexy, it’s not weird/funny/dark/too fast/too slow/cheesy, and I swear it’s a song everyone likes.

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  7. Tim says:

    Always listen to a 'live' performance of your favorite music. That way, if your timing is right, you get applause!

  8. VegVampire says:

    Pretty much anything by the Naked and Famous…

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  10. Abbi says:

    Yes, to who suggested the Naked and Famous! You don't even need to see the music video to understand the song 'The Sun.' … but it helps. ;)

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  12. gambinogirl says:

    Any song by the Weeknd

    1. missnonsensical says:

      Definitely. I've had sex to House of Balloons many a time. Or anything produced by XO for that matter.

  13. Maximillian says:

    Roxy Music's Avalon, makin love all night long!

  14. Lady says:

    Pretty much anything Queens of the stone age for sure! Super sexy.

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  26. stefmagura says:

    I'll agree about Barry White simply because I'm not much of a fan, but anyone who says no Marvin Gay has only heard his most famous sex songs. There's another of his aptly entitled "I Want You."

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